Klc, what brings hostility to me, is hostility. No question
I have just read your profile. I now fully understand the reference to Aspergers in your posts... I always assumed you were a man by your poker playing picture... Sorry I assumed. I was puzzled as to why a man would reply to my post in this manner? I truly thought you were playing with my head.

You must admit, Out of all these posts, not a single post from a man disputing my fact. Are they silent because they disagree with me? couldn't care less? out of town?

The moral of the story is:
To the ladies.... Don't think for a second your boycotting him is working in YOUR favor.

To the men.... If you don't treat her properly... someone else will.

Cheers!

people of compatible minds work things through

some view the sexual relationship as a 'requirement' as opposed to an emotional and intimate experience, if they are compatible in that thought than they may 'boycott' each other sexually to try to get an 'upper hand'


others, such as myself, dont view sex as a requirement, but see it as a strongly emotional and intimate experience which REQUIRES a connection and intimacy to happen


if two people are compatible in that thought, they may not find sex 'happening' for them when there are issues of connection and intimacy which need to be addressed



some couples dont expect perfection and work on their issues as they arise, others have tantrums or try to ignore those issues by running to someone else,,,



,,,its all in emotional compatibility/maturity

quoted for truth!!!

Sexual pleasure IS a requirement for some... Just like the animal kingdom... no different. There is no wine, dine and 69 in the Serengeti LOL.

Tell me you didn't think your poodle was humping your leg because you have a emotional bond... It's purely physical. Any leg will do.

Some poodles NEED IT, Some don't.... deal with it! and find someone compatible with YOUR needs is key.

I love your post, you are an awesome lady. I frequently read things to try to better understand the people who are typing it or replying (Profile info or forum comments). Everything i read from you or about you, is heart felt and generally positive vibe. You don't come across as jaded like other comments do nor do i ever feel you are trying to antagonize someone into a fight/argument. You are Simply put a BEAUTIFUL person in my eyes. Hope you have a wonderful day .

I never said you can't have an opinion at all. You claimed it was a fact, though. If it were a fact, all men would be as you claim and all women would be as you claim. That's simply not true.

I simply asked you a question based on what you wrote here. There's nothing malicious about it. It isn't personal. It's about something you wrote on a public forum. If you would rather not be questioned about something you wrote that did not make sense to someone, don't share it on a public forum.

There's no need to make this personal, as it isn't. I'm sorry you're having a bad day, but please don't take it out on me.

Why? That's incredibly strange to me, as we've never talked at all outside of the forums and have rarely ever interacted in the forums.



I meant no disrespect either. I just didn't understand his "fact" so I asked about it. Like you've said, it's about understanding people.

ahhhh...Sing..nice to meet you..finally..
2K...aka..Sherrie.

"Why? That's incredibly strange to me, as we've never talked at all outside of the forums and have rarely ever interacted in the forums."


You are right..on part of that,I have posted many times in your threads,only to be ignored.

As far as always wanting to say that...well yea,I have..you seem to nitpick the hell out of stuff..over analyze..or be just to politically correct sometimes..but hey that is not a Fact Just My Opinion.

I dont understand why people cheat. I canot cheat on my partner, its my persönality to be faithful to my partner. Perhabs others are born oraised differently.

I don't intentionally ignore people on my threads. I don't respond to every single thing, though. Next time you feel ignored, speak up if you felt it deserved a response, rather than getting mad about it. Most likely, it wasn't intentional at all.

I am just straight forward and state what I think. Some people read into things way too much and take things personally when there was no need. If I don't know someone that I'm responding to, it's certainly not personal, as I'm just responding to their words in a thread.

Recently, I've had some people get mad at me for what I've said and I wasn't sure why. They were people who had never gotten to know me, not friends I've made. But, now that you've said this, maybe it was just a misunderstanding and they took things personally when that was not the case. Though, unless they speak up, I won't know.

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I know the brothers are behind me on this, I'm not looking for validation from ANYONE. On Mingle, you can score points by shutting up ya know.... oye

It would be nice if I could make a difference in bringing light to understanding cheaters... It's not as cut & dry as... you cheated, you're an A-Hole! sometimes. Like some said, lots of excuses and reasons... not much common sense being used by them.

Emily, I truly wasn't aware of anyone getting mad at you for anything. Still not.... But I will make it a point to contact you(in private) to object or agree with you. If that's ok of course. sorry


Cheaters suck!

I don't know why everyone cheats as each has his or her own reason. It is wrong in my eyes but I am not in the person's shoes. My best friend cheats on his wife. He is in a loveless marriage and his wife told him if he divorces her; she would take him to the cleaners. He has asked his wife on several occassions to go to counseling but she refuses to do it. So, he is now cheating on her as she is truly giving nothing to the relationship. It is a very sad situation actually.

kind of what I just said,,lol

I dont consider myself a 'poodle' or any other type of four legged animal which needs to merely survive and repopulate.

But many other do see themself as mere animals. I agree.

Thanx Exx,, always a pleasure

I think you are 100 percent correct. People are shaped into cheaters/faithful partners by their environment and experience.

I volunteer in a small office of six people. Three men and three women and it seems(from a conversation at lunch time) all but me find cheating acceptible, excusable, and expected.

very, very sad

Because they can,With no concideration about anyone but themselves......KARMA

we cheat b/c theres no more sexual attention with our gf's..........

Or BF's.......

I have been seeing a guy for 5 months. We were getting along great going out 2 or 3 times a week spending weekends together blah blah

over the last few weeks we have not seen each other at all only email and phone calls. I have invited him several times and he says too busy. So if I find someone else and go out with him instead...is that cheating?

Why not try working on fixing the problem that's causing her to stop giving you sexual attention? Or breaking up with her if it comes to that?