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A person who chooses to have a clandestine, deceptive liason with someone outside of their primary relationship is usually quite low in self esteem, and is attempting to bolster self esteem through another, rather than become self sustainable, and actually do the work.
Relationships are funny things....we have the initial spark, and wonderment, the 'dazzle'...of newness....then we move into comfortable-ness....having learnt enough of each other to have a sense of predictability in each other...from there can often come complacency....taking each other for granted...assumptions, expectations....and gasp! obligations! suffocating! the addiction to the new-ness...the 'dazzle'...the excitement, the drama....getting self esteem 'fed' externally...whilst also creating decption...the addiction to the deception....diminishing the partner through behaviour, speech...attempting to elevate one's self. ridiculous. Do the work...develop a healthy self esteem yourself....not through others....and the whole infidelity with deception thing becomes redundant....you don't require your self esteem 'fed' externally...you become the author of your own story in an authentic and harm free way. |
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Get to the quick! People cheat because they're losers. They don't have a backbone in their body. Cheaters are liars, sneaks and cowards. They tend to be self centered in almost every aspect of their lives and within their own little pee sized brains their sense of reasoning is soley ego centered and focused. Cheaters have no self esteem and are constantly looking for that 'quick fix' to every problem in their lives. That goes for men and women alike my .02cents on the matter. K. 
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IMO People cheat as they are not able to communicate with their SO.They are also cowards who feather a 'new' nest as they will have somewhere to go when all hits the fan.
If they not happy instead of admitting it they cheat so the SO can tell them to get out and then in their miniscule minds they are not 'guilty' as they have been told to go!!!! |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Thu 08/18/11 04:08 PM
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Just wondering why do people cheat when usually they have another half at times? I don't know why everyone cheats as each has his or her own reason. It is wrong in my eyes but I am not in the person's shoes. My best friend cheats on his wife. He is in a loveless marriage and his wife told him if he divorces her; she would take him to the cleaners. He has asked his wife on several occassions to go to counseling but she refuses to do it. So, he is now cheating on her as she is truly giving nothing to the relationship. It is a very sad situation actually. He should retain an attorney and get on with his life. Otherwise he is in a loveless marriage forever. He chooses cheating over living with honor, and possible love for his future. Im suspicious of your friend, since, after all, its only money. How much is his character worth? Well its also the house that his grandfather left him which he would have to sell; so its not just about money; however I know there are may men who are just about penniless because of a a divorce. Its easy as a woman to say its only money but its the men that pay. |
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IMO People cheat as they are not able to communicate with their SO.They are also cowards who feather a 'new' nest as they will have somewhere to go when all hits the fan. If they not happy instead of admitting it they cheat so the SO can tell them to get out and then in their miniscule minds they are not 'guilty' as they have been told to go!!!! Wow is that twisted! But I think you nailed it. I believe in certain circles that is referred to as 'Self fulfilling prophecy' (?) I'd agree with the matter of communication problems within the relationship that leads to 'cheating'. But IMO the cheater is a self willed 'Me first' person who never entered into a relationship either for the sake of 'relation' nor the 'ship' part. So communications within that relationship are not as much reciprocal in rythmn and nature as much as they are meant to gain the 'cheaters' own point across or their way done. Once the 'cheater' has figured out (as a poster had said earlier) that he/she must share and or sacrifice within the relationship...the relationship is on its way out. blah, blah, blah... you get the point. K. |
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Just wondering why do people cheat when usually they have another half at times? it's their lifestyle....I guess...and they're DUMBASS...mostly.. |
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Negative.....
I place an equal share of the blame on the partner who is too dumb to figure out that thier partner is out having sex while we sit at computers discussing the subject. (been there...I was the one too dumb to figure it out) |
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Negative..... I place an equal share of the blame on the partner who is too dumb to figure out that thier partner is out having sex while we sit at computers discussing the subject. (been there...I was the one too dumb to figure it out) What if he did it after the bar scene (outside the house)..after he said..."I'm going out with my brother baby...it's boy's time" and u were lying naked in bed (waiting for him..patiently but f***ing horny..just 2 got up n saw their action)..don't think I was 2 blame...I told him I want to have sex cause I'm always horny, but he said...I'm not in the mood...damnnnn...I don't think I'm UGLY at all and as far as sex..I'd do anything....sooo it must be his lifestyle then... |
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Negative..... I place an equal share of the blame on the partner who is too dumb to figure out that thier partner is out having sex while we sit at computers discussing the subject. (been there...I was the one too dumb to figure it out) Nah, no one deserves to be cheated on. The one doing the cheating absolutely gets the blame. |
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Just wondering why do people cheat when usually they have another half at times? 1,they feel IF you found out YOU wouldn't leave them..They feel they could talk you into staying,,,,, 2. They feel that IF you found out they wouldn't care,,because they don't really care about losing you... but BOTH SAY THE SAME REALLY,,, THEY DON'T LOVE YOU! Not like they should to feel THAT WRONG! |
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-they cheat because they are coward!
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This topic is locked. Here is the reason. The edit function is for correcting mistakes. It is not for altering the topic of discussion. When people take the time to post on your thread, and the subject is changed, making the posters appear foolish, that is indeed disparaging to those who have responded. Disparaging other users is prohibited. Mark - Mingle2 administrator |
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