I was the latter now I'm the former

Which is really better?

Is there even a better of these two?


Discuss

taken and miserable is the fear of every single

and the quickest path back to single and alone

but alone doesn't always mean lonely

I concur, sweetestgirl........


IMO, there is NOTHING lonelier than being in the wrong relationship........

tell me about it

I figger that's why most of us are here... been down that road a time or 2

I guess it's not the no-brainer you'd think it'd be. I find it surprising how many people are surprised by that simple fact.

Merle Haggard even had a song out a long time ago, "It's Not Love, But It's Not Bad" and it was a hit - bizarre how so many people could identify with it.......

In my experience, it's better to be alone than to be with someone and WISH you were alone.

I agree with that for sure.

well yes, people in his day stayed married even when they weren't happy. people do not do that as often now

so I think sometimes people have an unrealistic idea of what a relationship is - there will be good & bad times -

but if your love is solid - your partner uplifts u during those bad times - u still relish that person's company

anything else is just taking up space

I think that's called dating

I'm not sure, I've been single and lonely for a long time, so I can't compare.

I am single and live on my own but I am certainly not lonely. I have a good circle of lady friends who cater for all my needs

It has been a choice for me every since I left my parents' house. I would choose to be alone until I got lonely. One can choose to be taken and one can choose to be miserable. I can remember when I was at my parent's house. I could hide from dad for a while until he found or called me. Then when I was at my mother's house I could choose to be by myself. I had some great time fishing by myself when I was at mom's house. But then I had some great time fishing when dad would take us fishing in his boat. My mom's new dad had a boat, too and would invite me to go with him. I have had good times fishing with friends.

Sharing here this morn to encourage folks here :



My twin brother went thru 2 miserable falied marriages

early in life....it broke my heart to see the horrific pain

it caused him....so I prayed for him...trusting with all my

heart, that God would hear and answer my prayers for my

twin brother ....

And God did !!


Today , my precious brother is VERY happily married , for

over 23 years now...and is the happiest man alive..he not only

found the right very beautiful woman for him, but has 3

gorgeous kids, 2 in college and one graduating from high

school in a couple of years.....

he is blessed beyond blessed(and btw, he has also received

the lord into his life..which I think, is a very important

key in helping to overcome the past ,and be able to fully move forward).


Also.....My niece is in her mid 20's ,and has been married

now for over 5 years.... she and her husband already have

3 kids..and are happy as happy can be!!

(But before , my nieces's heart was also broken at a very

tender age...but she has truly found love..and both

she and her husband also accepted the lord into their lives,

and both truly love God with all their heart.)


Point being...don't go by what you see going on out there in

the world....and don't go by what you have been thru

already...TRUST GOD for the VERY BEST.... STILL AHEAD FOR

YOU ALL..and start BELIEVING NOW and preparing yourself for it

to happen...and it will!!!!


With GOD , NOTHING is IMPOSSIBLE, for those who BELIEVE!!!

Love you guys !!!

So does God !!!

Have a Blessed Thanksgiving.... and May You All Be Encoursged Now.

used to be i was glad to be single now that im getting older an dont do alot of drinking an wild parties with people an find alot of comfort just staying home an having fun i have to say its lonely to stare at the walls an there is notta on telivision these days an the enternet doesnt hold the attention like it used to either so i bounce back an forth from the tv an ps3 to the internet but i must say i miss having someone who was not only my love but my freind that i could talk with an be close to .:-(

I do miss having that someone special in my life but I am definitely not lonely.

I have stayed in relationships with people that I knew from the outset probably wouldn’t go the distance but I was never unhappy.

Where EVER you are at, it is by YOUR CHOICE.

INTENTION = RESULTS

We get what we earn/seek.

Say it how you will, but if you aren't happy...CHANGE SOMETHING & be HAPPY

i get what you guys are saying.... as for me, I'm alone but not miserable but when I was married I was lonely and miserable so I wouldn't change the peace of mind I have now or the strength I found when I was in a low place and all of that made me who I am today... alone yes but not lonely and trust me there is a biggggggg difference...and I would rather be single than with someone who is making my life hard and unbearable it's a no brainer for me drink anyone?

Go read my favorite book: "Quirky Alone: A Manifesto for the Uncomproming Romantics'. The gist is that if you can't find someone who really rocks your world and accepts you who you are, just BE ALONE.

High five my evil twin to the east!! As I say I will take 2 minutes with someone brilliant and amazing than a life time with the mediocre because 2 seconds with the mediocre feels like a lifetime!!

Why is it just one or the other? I'm single, but not lonely. Quite happy, too.