They just look at my profile and move on. I was wondering, should I send an email just to see what they didn't find interesting? What do you guys think?

That's something you'll have to make a decision about. What have you got to lose, though?

I get lots of those. It means it's doing its job!

IMHO. You are very attractive. That is not the problem. You are curvy woman's woman. A LOT of guys are attracted to that.

You could phrase things better. Like instead of saying you don't need someone to take care of you. AND DON'T GO INTO THE INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO NEEDS NO ONE MODE EITHER because that's a turn off to my guy friends. State what you are proficient at. What your strong suits are, etc.

And don't say if they don't like children to move on but instead say something about how you are attracted to MEN WHO ARE GOOD WITH CHILDREN.

I don't really get into it so much but realize you are absolutely marketing yourself as a commodity on here. 100%. And you are your own best advocate and fan club.

In marketing, the best marketing, is positive. WHY YOU AS A COMMODITY ARE DESIRABLE. Not why others are not.

I mean if you were a box of Corn Chex and the whole box boded of the inferiority of Smackle Puffs and Lucky Charms but said nothing about how yummy and nutritious Corn Chex were, why would anybody pick you off the shelf??

Just a thought.

Terri

what if you are only basic4 or grape nuts?

Why the hell would you ask us?

You got a better idea than us about what ain't working for ya.

I think you are a fine and articulate woman worth pursuing and wooing.

(wooing is a good thing)

Consider the possibility that what you are experiencing is the crap drifting past on the tide.

that'll be a long list of messages, no?
i tried that once,
but with nudges.
i asked why they nudged me if i clearly stated i hated em.
some told me to **** off.
a couple months later,
they're still nudging me.
****ers.

They may feel sort of inadequate...that big ol'ship behind you scares em off. Seriously tho, all the restriction thingies people put up filters out what in some instances could be a real diamond in the rough . Ya never know.

LOL. Grapenuts HAS THE SUPERIOR MARKETING TEAM. They have THE BRAND NAME visibility. I would be willing to bet more people buy the Grapenuts.

Modern day version of window shopping. I do it to interesting women to see what they have to say, or what they are like behind the posts.

i think i turned my nudges off..but i get alot of looks a little messages too..don t feel bad...but i never respond to people that don t message me after checking me out

Do you ever return the look? read their profile? Perhaps there may be answers there.

I did that for a week, Say hi to the lookieloos. I got 2 responses. It got boring after that week, so my social experiment was scrapped.

I never really know whether or not they are just passing through or whether or not they want me to view their profile and make contact..who knows..I don't have a degree in mindreading so basically, I ignore lookieloos because if he’s too shy or hesitant to send me a message (considering he’s viewed me), then he’s probably not going to be someone that I’d be interested in.

I have found that a lot of guys are simply afraid to speak first. If you see someone interesting, tell them that you saw that they peeked and that you wanted to say hello. I think most of the time, it's simply a matter of them not knowing how to approach women.

Well, that's up to you i say. Though when a guy sends me a nudge, or tells me i look beautiful, i tend to take it with a pinch of salt. Not because i'm ignorant, i've just heard it many times before. There's only so many times a woman wants to hear something like that until the woman just ends up frustrated. I take it as "he's only interested in what he see's on the outside". However, you may think differently. Go with you instincts.

If their marketing team was to superior I'd think they'd change the name. C'mon now.....grape nuts.... Just buying them gives me the same uneasy feeling as eating a banana in public......

Just to give you the 'be careful what you
wish for' side of this..
How about for every View, you get 1 to 3
Nudges, a Favorites email, a Friend Request
and however many emails it takes to get
the point that no one is returning them.
So, a hundred Views a day times 5+ per...can
you say carpal tunnel?

And no, I would not ask them why.
They had their shot.

I think that many people over think contacting others here. If someone looks at your profile and doesn't contact you, look at theirs and see if you find them interesting. They may also be over thinking things. If you find them interesting, contact them. If not, move onto the next profile.