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Topic: IF you knew someone was lying to someone...
lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/19/12 12:10 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own?

smokeybette Joined Fri 11/23/07 Posts: 465	Sat 05/19/12 12:17 PM
put yourself in your good friends shoes. would you want to know?

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/19/12 12:18 PM
This has happened offline, and I've told my friend. They didn't listen, so I just stepped back and let them figure things out on their own. All we can do is pass on the information that we've learned, if they choose to ignore it, or accept it, it's on them. As far as online goes, I look out for complete strangers online, so of course I'm going to look out for my friends.

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/19/12 12:20 PM
put yourself in your good friends shoes. would you want to know? Oh, I should have said that I would pass it on. I am not good at keeping secrets. :) I was speaking hypothetically for people's views on this.

windyinok Joined Tue 10/20/09 Posts: 6	Sat 05/19/12 12:22 PM
I would probably let that person know.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Sat 05/19/12 12:45 PM
Nope, I keep it zipped. When first I started here, I saw a..mingling beginning, and I KNEW if was going to end bad. I tortured over it a while, then asked a friend, without names being mentioned, what could be done. They said, 'Don't touch it..not your business, no one will thank you for the info..' in that vein. I took that common sense to heart and keep hands off. And I never get to say I told you so.

Ice38 Joined Wed 10/15/08 Posts: 25272	Sat 05/19/12 12:54 PM
This reminds of the The Everybody loves Raymond episode where Roberts girlfriend ate a fly and Raymond told Robert what he saw..of course Robert did not believe Raymond...only to find out later she thought she was some kind of human amphibian ..and Robert goes out her bedroom window into the pouring rain.man that $hit was funny

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 05/19/12 01:03 PM
I would probably leave well alone but I suspect it would depend on the person and whether they were a close friend or not. In any case, I hope I would leave well alone.

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sat 05/19/12 01:08 PM
It depends on the circumstances but I would normally keep my nose out of other people's business.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Sat 05/19/12 01:12 PM
This reminds of the The Everybody loves Raymond episode where Roberts girlfriend ate a fly and Raymond told Robert what he saw..of course Robert did not believe Raymond...only to find out later she thought she was some kind of human amphibian ..and Robert goes out her bedroom window into the pouring rain.man that $hit was funny It SO was :-)

lilangel2 Joined Wed 03/05/08 Posts: 9096	Sat 05/19/12 01:16 PM
I would. Just because of safety. I just couldn't knowingly let someone I care about walk into a deceitful relationship.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 01:49 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? I don't think this one has a yes or no answer Angel...I'm with Hippie, it depends on the circumstances....A safety/health issue might persuade or induce me to speak up, but even that would require me to have concrete proof as in indisputable evidence to offer my friend....

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Sat 05/19/12 01:50 PM
Somehow the words "for a fact" and "dating/social site" tells me to keep way far away from it. Roberts girlfriend, how funny was that.

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Sat 05/19/12 01:52 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? I don't think this one has a yes or no answer Angel...I'm with Hippie, it depends on the circumstances....A safety/health issue might persuade or induce me to speak up, but even that would require me to have concrete proof as in indisputable evidence to offer my friend.... Hi cutie, give that ole boy a smooch for me.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 01:59 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? I don't think this one has a yes or no answer Angel...I'm with Hippie, it depends on the circumstances....A safety/health issue might persuade or induce me to speak up, but even that would require me to have concrete proof as in indisputable evidence to offer my friend.... Hi cutie, give that ole boy a smooch for me. I would love to Michael, but he is at the lease this weekend riding 4 wheelers and playing big game hunter with the boys... I think they are only moving deer stands and shootin the chit though...Hunting season is several weeks away!!

Down2earthdebbie Joined Tue 12/05/06 Posts: 6097	Sat 05/19/12 02:01 PM
Oh I have met some players on here..,..talking to me & saying the same stuff to others! Ya I told them!!!! Qq

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 05/19/12 02:03 PM
If you knew for a fact that someone on a dating or social network site was NOT at all who they claimed to be and you knew this person was lying to someone you consider a good friend, would you pass on that info or feel they are adults and should find out on their own? tread lightly,,,, my approach would be to share what I knew about them but not in an accusing way for instance, if its Joe Brown,,, I would simply say,, wow, I know a Joe Brown who looks just like him,,only,,,,such and such and such that at least puts a flag up in their mind to notice things they may not have before and compare th em to the Joe you know,,,without you outwardly accusing someone they like of being some kind of lying scum,,,

EquusDancer Joined Sun 04/05/09 Posts: 6281	Sat 05/19/12 03:25 PM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore.

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 05/19/12 03:28 PM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. How is it lying or deception if they don't tell you?

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Sat 05/19/12 03:34 PM
I would want to know and would tell the person. I consider it lying and a bad deception to not say something. If a friend knew and didn't tell me, then they aren't a friend anymore. What if they didn't tell you because they were afraid they would lose your friendship if you chose not to leave the person who was deceiving you?...It does happen you know and quite frequently....