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Why don’t marriages last for lifetimes anymore? Is one of the reasons because most women work and don’t have to rely on men for their support, so they are more independent minded? What are other reasons?
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Interference from outside men/women hitting on your partner.
The grass is greener in someone else's pasture. |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Mon 03/11/13 12:58 PM
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Both partners have to have Unconditional love. Both have to be Unselfish. Many more people divorce over money issues rather than infidelity. I never had a money problem, when I was married. But I did have an adulterer husband, after a few good years of marriage. Women have been working outside the home for decades, and often many families really need the second incomes. I don't think that has much to do with why divorce rates are high.
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People don,t take the time or effort to put what it requires to make it work.
Too many people have the ability of disposing of everything way to easily including friends, family and spouses. SAD isn,t it? |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason.
Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). |
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Interference from outside men/women hitting on your partner. The grass is greener in someone else's pasture. 
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). I like you're thinking, but I don't think that happens very often. 
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A lot of it could be because men/women have found out they don't have to stay in a relationship that is not working. Some is due to they cop out without even trying... Divorce is so easy to get now... Some due to they are not happy and choose to look else where instead of fixing what is wrong and make it the way it use to be when they first met.
So many different reasons why a marriage does not work.. But yes it could be as well that women are more independent now and don't have to stay in a relationship that has gone bad. Many many years ago they had to depend on the men to make a living for them ect.. Now days we can make our own living. Therefore we have more choices to stay or not to stay.. And it comes down to it that it takes two to make a relationship and only one to tear it apart.... |
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Both partners have to have Unconditional love. Both have to be Unselfish. Many more people divorce over money issues rather than infidelity. I never had a money problem, when I was married. But I did have an adulterer husband, after a few good years of marriage. Women have been working outside the home for decades, and often many families really need the second incomes. I don't think that has much to do with why divorce rates are high. Thinking of it like this is kind of daunting... to know that there are so many selfish people that don't love unconditionally...  but you're right...
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). I like you're thinking, but I don't think that happens very often. Probably why I'll never have a great marriage, if no woman wants to work as a team. |
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People don,t take the time or effort to put what it requires to make it work. Too many people have the ability of disposing of everything way to easily including friends, family and spouses. SAD isn,t it? I've never considered the idea of easily disposing of people... After the 18th year of my marriage I just couldn't keep contending with all his outside influences... yes, it was very sad... |
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Edited by
KiK2me
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Mon 03/11/13 02:19 PM
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People don,t take the time or effort to put what it requires to make it work. Too many people have the ability of disposing of everything way to easily including friends, family and spouses. SAD isn,t it? I've never considered the idea of easily disposing of people... After the 18th year of my marriage I just couldn't keep contending with all his outside influences... yes, it was very sad... Oh 18 years is not what I meant. I mean one little thing goes wrong and they leave. I have seen it happen too many times. People have become way to selfish to work things out. Others like yourself, have put a lot of effort to no avail. |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. You're absolutely right about the continuing growth, or lack of, becoming an obstacle... do you think maybe all the college graduates in these modern times that have huge education debts to pay off but aren't able to get the jobs they need causes problems too? |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). hippie.. are you saying that couples grow together, not apart, as time goes by? And that education levels don't matter either way? |
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And it comes down to it that it takes two to make a relationship and only one to tear it apart....
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A lot of it could be because men/women have found out they don't have to stay in a relationship that is not working. Some is due to they cop out without even trying... Divorce is so easy to get now... Some due to they are not happy and choose to look else where instead of fixing what is wrong and make it the way it use to be when they first met. So many different reasons why a marriage does not work.. But yes it could be as well that women are more independent now and don't have to stay in a relationship that has gone bad. Many many years ago they had to depend on the men to make a living for them ect.. Now days we can make our own living. Therefore we have more choices to stay or not to stay.. And it comes down to it that it takes two to make a relationship and only one to tear it apart.... Do you really think that couples cop out without "making some kind of an attempt" to work things out before splitting up? That just seems so heartless, like there was no love to begin with... |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). I like you're thinking, but I don't think that happens very often. Its true dat ppl grow apart as time passes a person mature. Wat we think a big issue now is like a small problem in future wen v look back at it. Hence it is important that even though u grow apart u can always find something else in your partners dat can make u fall in love wid dem all over again. And smebody else said "making it work" is d most important factor dat binds any relationship. |
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I certainly think that’s a big reason. Another reason under the same general heading of Options, would be that more women are educated than have been in the past. With education comes broader thinking and continued growth throughout life. The more two people, in a couple, grow as individuals the more likely it becomes that they will grow in different directions....or “grow apart”. I disagree, I look at it as an opportunity to grow closer (appreciate what you've got). I like you're thinking, but I don't think that happens very often. Probably why I'll never have a great marriage, if no woman wants to work as a team. do you find most women to be selfish then, hippie... that we cause the break ups because we don't want to work together as a team? |
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