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Topic: Who should do the asking?
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Thu 04/25/13 10:35 AM
Men, do you prefer to ask women out? Does it bother you when women ask you out?

Women, do you ever ask men out? Do you prefer men do the asking?

ChrisM81's photo
Thu 04/25/13 10:42 AM
I really don't care either way.

I am chivalrous, so obviously I would prefer doing the asking, but I think it would be great if a woman asked me out.

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Thu 04/25/13 10:46 AM
If I know she likes me I will ask. Otherwise, she might want to do the asking!

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Thu 04/25/13 11:08 AM
I do prefer to ask the women out, just seems natural, but I have no problem if they do the asking.

Seems to be more prevalent online, than in person, when a woman has gone that route with me.

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Thu 04/25/13 11:11 AM

I do prefer to ask the women out, just seems natural, but I have no problem if they do the asking.

Seems to be more prevalent online, than in person, when a woman has gone that route with me.



Why do you think it seems unnatural when a woman asks you out?

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Thu 04/25/13 11:37 AM
I does not matter to me either way, I have no preference over asking vs. being asked. If someone catches my eye, I am quite happy to talk to them and eventually ask them out, and it is always a pleasure to have someone do it to me as well.

I've always wondered though why some men do get freaked out when a lady asks them out.

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Thu 04/25/13 01:58 PM
Mmmm I can't really imagine asking someone out.
I like the system the way it is :-)

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Thu 04/25/13 02:35 PM
Edited by 1Cynderella on Thu 04/25/13 02:38 PM
<---Is still not allowed to call boyz. :laughing:

No, but that was how I was raised, and I'm still in the habit of not pursuing men. They have to come to me.

There have been a couple of exceptions...but don't tell my Mother! :laughing:

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Thu 04/25/13 02:53 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Thu 04/25/13 02:55 PM

Women, do you ever ask men out? Do you prefer men do the asking?


I have never asked a man out, but I let him know I am interested, I am forward, I do not wait for months to find out if he likes me enough for a date. Most dates are not for a future mate anyway, it is just to see if you like the person and how compatible you are. If the man likes me, he will ask me out, after I show interest. It usually works well for me.

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Thu 04/25/13 03:33 PM


I do prefer to ask the women out, just seems natural, but I have no problem if they do the asking.

Seems to be more prevalent online, than in person, when a woman has gone that route with me.



Why do you think it seems unnatural when a woman asks you out?


Not what I meant so much, but that It feels natural to me to be the aggressor. Thats all. I have no problem if they choose to ask. But I guarantee, if Im asking them, I for sure have interest.

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Thu 04/25/13 03:45 PM
I didnt tried it yet, maybe next time. Lol.
maybe its awkward if i ever ask one because i would never know whats going on in his mind. There are so many "what ifs". Besides i dont want him to know that im head over heels to him. That would just give him an easy way. So its a "no no" to ask a man first.

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Fri 04/26/13 03:50 AM
all say to ask girl for outing to have some thing that is to be done iside the tee of the girl..

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Fri 04/26/13 04:59 AM
Don't understand why there would be any rules on this one. Seems like it should be a natural thing and for those who feel comfortable doing the asking they should just do it. Maybe at one time many moons ago there was a purpose and a place for rules and such but things have really changed in the last several years and I think many older rules have pretty much been done away with.

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Fri 04/26/13 06:29 AM

<---Is still not allowed to call boyz. :laughing:

No, but that was how I was raised, and I'm still in the habit of not pursuing men. They have to come to me.

There have been a couple of exceptions...but don't tell my Mother! :laughing:


I can pretty much say the same thing....now once we've been out a time or two I love to reciprocate :)

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Fri 04/26/13 07:02 AM


<---Is still not allowed to call boyz. :laughing:

No, but that was how I was raised, and I'm still in the habit of not pursuing men. They have to come to me.

There have been a couple of exceptions...but don't tell my Mother! :laughing:


I can pretty much say the same thing....now once we've been out a time or two I love to reciprocate :)
Yeah, once he's calling regarly, it's different...now that I'm a big girl. laugh

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Fri 04/26/13 07:56 AM

Don't understand why there would be any rules on this one. Seems like it should be a natural thing and for those who feel comfortable doing the asking they should just do it. Maybe at one time many moons ago there was a purpose and a place for rules and such but things have really changed in the last several years and I think many older rules have pretty much been done away with.


I think more women have rules about this than men. They tend to have other dating rules as well, I'm sure.

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Fri 04/26/13 10:01 AM


Don't understand why there would be any rules on this one. Seems like it should be a natural thing and for those who feel comfortable doing the asking they should just do it. Maybe at one time many moons ago there was a purpose and a place for rules and such but things have really changed in the last several years and I think many older rules have pretty much been done away with.


I think more women have rules about this than men. They tend to have other dating rules as well, I'm sure.


I'm not even sure "rules" is the right description....Maybe "roles" would be a better way to say it....Gender rules are funny little idiosyncrasies that seem to get more and more confounding as traditional gender roles blur...I think how we handle initial communication has everything to do with the two personalities involved, and nothing to do with how it is viewed by others, including family members (assuming we're talking about adults)...In the past, based on specific circumstances, I have initiated contact and I have waited for the man to make the first move....What I don't do is play games, if I am interested in meeting someone, I have no problem letting them know...bigsmile

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Fri 04/26/13 10:06 AM
I am either over qualified or under qualified
So pees on it i dan't ask any more
lol
:wink:

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Fri 04/26/13 10:11 AM

I am either over qualified or under qualified
So pees on it i dan't ask any more
lol
:wink:


Chicken!laugh


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Fri 04/26/13 10:18 AM


biggrin

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