when you are in a situation that would put another person at risk,,, how soon or long do you wait to tell them about it,,,?

for instance..

having an std
having a stalker
being in a dangerous occupation

,,,sometimes we are so eager to 'have' someone, we dont think about what impact our presence in their life might have on them...


I actually dated someone who had a stalker once, who started to stalk me,, I was kind of upset they didnt tell me their situation,, but then I wasnt sure if I should have expected them to,,,,


would you share these things with someone you were going to be 'involved' with?

Yes you should tell them if n when your getting involve with special someone,

If you have a dangerous occupation thats a huge part of you life and you should tell them immediately. Dangerous occupations usually put a lot of stress on a relationship and your going to need someone that can handle it. If you don't your just wasting each others time.

For a stalker I don't know. I guess if I was dateing a girl who stalker I would want to know, so I could watch my back.

Honesty is the best policy. I believe in laying it all out,it's up to them to decide what they do with the information. I've had a stalker, and i told about her upfront. Honesty will get you far. There,thats my 2 cents :D

personally I would rather have everything out on the table. I prefer being honest and upfront

Hiding an STD is proof positive they don't really care that much.

Also if a guy I'm dating or plan to date has a possible fatal attraction ex girlfriend/wife, a heads up would be nice.

I'm on board with this.

Hey I agree with you on something! :p....I would add though

Quite a bit Before having sex(meaning don't say it casually when both of your clothes are already on the floor)

Yes.
On the table is good.

But cerialy.
NOW I get to know the gal before any real sex happens.

Too old for another psycobitch from hell. Unless she's super hot!

a stalker is not her/his fault and the STD may not be either

but both should be on the table for the health and well being of all involved.

A dangerous occupation should come up as part of normal get to know you type stuff

if things start getting serious tho, might wanna sit down and have the reality check chat....


jmho

that's funny coming from you!dani3082!!!

I have a stalker I tell who I'm talking to usually right away......

I could handle a person with a dangerous occupation but if they have a stalker; I would not date them. Since I started working for the Police; I have learned that stalkers will come after both of you and could be very dangerous.

It can be hard but when you trust someone, telling the truth is a must. Always. Especially if your life is in danger.

Std's and stalkers....You are obligated to tell those things "before" the first date..I would think occupation(s) would come up in casual conversation leading up to the first date..

If I don't disclose upfront then I'm risking rejection when my truth is eventually known anyway. So its best to lay my cards on the table before we talk about actually getting serious.

Casual dating is one thing, getting involved is another.

As far as dating risks go....

How about if a man is a momma's boy?

Should he warn his dates in advance because he knows his possible future partner will be interrogated by his mother and she'll have to pass her inspection because she'll play a major role in his relationship? She may even insist that he break up with his partner if his mother decides at some point she wants him too.

Me personally, I prefer not to get involved with men that either still live at home with their mother, or she plays an active role in his life because she and what she wants will always come first to him. Been there, done that, won't do it again.

What about people who are not dependable? They job hop and move from pillar to post in search of the next best thing. Should they disclose their lack of stability before luring someone in?

Or serial cheaters? Should they tell their date they have no morals in advance so they can decide if they're a risk worth taking?

the the thing you need to concern yourself most with.. when dating me..
... ...IS ME....