I feel selfish for writing this but when it rains it pours and I figured maybe letting it out and talking about it might help a little. This has been the most painful holiday season, hell the most painful time I can remember. Over the course of a month I lost my job, three of my pet animals were killed and my wife left me for someone else this past week. I don't understand how one minute your on top of the world and the next your world crumbles under your feet.

I haven't slept much in a week, haven't eaten in three days i'm literally sick to my stomach, I cant stop crying (sad to admit it being im a guy). They gave me Valium, Xanax, Ambien and a couple others I cant pronounce (which doesn't work the pain is still there) because I ended up trying to do something really stupid when it first happened. Thankfully I have two great doctors who gave me their home and cell phone numbers to call for anything.

This pain is unbearable. I have had serious injuries (especially with the line of work I am in) and surgeries in the past and that pain was nothing compared to what im feeling now.

Any prayers, advice and people to talk to would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks my Mingle family!

Lots of prayers! Keep staying active and social. Put yourself with positive people and stay away from negative ones. Think more about being blessed than dwelling on your heartaches. Stay away from sad music and alcohol. Drink lots of water and exercise! You will feel better! Everyone falls in life or gets knocked down and sometimes its not as easy to get up. The important thing is that you always stand back up!

In a time like this Lpdon, you stick to the Lord God Almighty, good friends and good music that can make you feel happy like my sweet friend 'realcare' adviced. Take heart Lpdon. All will be well with you. Sure! When I was in an awkward situation, it was 'dcastelmissy' that comforted me then I wanted to quit. Here I am happy with everyone.
I'll pray for you. The Lord is your shephard.

Lpdon, I am so sorry to hear of the painful experiences through which you have gone recently. I can honestly say I know what it feels like for the same things have happened to me. I had to start completely over several times in my life, and although, it was not easy I found how remarkable we humans are when faced with such obstacles and challenges to our lives. Once the pain subsides a bit, something will rise up within you telling you that life will not defeat you but that somehow you will make it through and better than before. What got me through those times were my children, just knowing that they depended on me and I had to somehow survive to make life better for them. In all your despair, find someone else who is in a worse situation than you and help them in some small way, and you will begin to see that you will make it through someway, somehow. Know that your friends here will be happy to offer you comfort and support such as we can. Do not hesitate to call on your friends, we are here to help.

Thanks, I appreciate that. Luckily I don't drink, smoke or do any sorts of drugs what so ever (other then what they've just given me to help with the emotional pain. It just seems like everyday seems to get worse not better. Hell I still haven't slept or eaten :(

It sucks not having the person to come home to, the warm body to sleep next to, the person I could tell anything to, well you know. Being married was nice. All's I've ever wanted was a wife, kids and family.

I know I will get back up but the pain until I do is unbearable........

Again thank you for your kind words.

Thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it.

((((Don))))... ...

Thank you. Like I said before I know this will get better but right now this is so unbearable right now.

Thanks my friend, you don't know how much your support means to me.

Have you thought about getting a NEW pet? Sorry, I know you just lost some, but when you have one around, it does feel a bit better, because a little life is depending on you to look after it :) How sweet it feels, when a pet come's up to you, to say hi.

Good job you have some emergency number, just incase.

You already took a brave step in getting medication for yourself, and some help. So well done even for just that. It sounds like you're very overwhelmed. Anyone would be if they went through all that.

One day at a time. Never think ahead, as that can make it worse.

Happy New Year.

Prayers being sent, one day at a time

Yikes..all that at once.
Hard blow.

But you are older and wiser now.
So..mourn a good bit, scream if you have to,
cry 'til there are no more tears.

Then, pick yourself up.
Shake off anything that stops you from putting
one foot in front of the other.

Job-hunting could be a good thing.
Rawrr_Girl's idea of a new pet is not a bad idea.
Maybe start a few 'women are biotches' threads.

We will help :-)

Lpdon, I know exactly what you're going true I have been there and it feels like you don't want to live anymore! but be strong, everything should pass...it takes time to heal, sending lots of prayers your way! God bless!!!

Hi Lipdon. When it seems very dark around you, God is the brightest star. Seek the positives in this gloomy story. I know it won't be easy. Just think how it would feel if your wife left you when you were old and/or sick. Thank the Almighty that you still have your physical health. When you get healed emotionally and mentally you will pick up. God will raise you even higher. Don't think of stupid things. Always remember to contact your good friends. God be with you.

We're here and sometimes when it feels like no one is, give a shout and start at least the in touch thing.

Like everyone is going to say the being alone thing may be a little too much, so if you do have up beat friends nows a good time to use that support.

During this time in a way your going to need to become your own doctor when it comes to the drugs, so if you need an escape try to make it a short one cause getting off of things like xanax can distroy your life.

Mainly though if I was going to attempt to say anything helpful it would be "find your spirit". You know spiritual wishes from others may sound like the stupidest thing on the planet till your lost and alone. During those times your going to play, I'm sure you already have, mind games of blame or guilt or worthlessness with yourself, but none of them are true. What is true is who you are and maybe who you need to get back to.

My friend some can do the pull yourself up again thing, not everyone though and it's real important that you find what works for you and brings you back to your positive place. Your positive place may not be like those (including me) who may have advice, or been through it. One thing you can bank on though, most of us have, or are going to, go through great times of loss and trails. Your not alone, you really not and there are lots who would be happy to help.

I'll have you in my prayers as I'm sure many will be praying and thinking about you. My friend, there's absolutely nothing wrong with leaning on others. If you don't mind I'll look at your profile to see the area you live in.

all my best, I mean that! and so do a lot of others here

wow i'm sorry to read about what you have been through man you have my prayers an heaps of hugs bro keep strong an stay hard It's how you go on that defines you. Life isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to be lived..sometimes happy, other times rough. But with every up and downs you learn lessons that make you stronger. <3

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers Lpdon. It will get better. As much as this hurts there is a reason for it happening, even if you don't understand it. Know that the right people, situations, and opportunities will present themselves to you for your ultimate growth and fulfilment. Deep breaths, and love yourself always. <3

LPDon,
Sorry that it feels like a train just ran over your life. Lot of us have been there and really is no fun for sure.

I would not feel bad for being kind of wiped out and crying over your losses. That is a normal part of grieving. I would be more worried about you if you weren't shedding some tears. It is part of healthy coping. I would be concerned if it got completely away from you but having some boohoo time is part of the process but you aren't going to have that kind of emotional kicks with out some bruises. For me I would set aside a time to let it rip such as in the shower and then try to pull it back together and get through a period of faking function.

Eating is a good example of this. I absolutely hate eating alone and can't tell you the number of times what I put in the microwave set till it dried out. But I started forcing myself to go to the Aweful Waffle and get the smallest thing I could choke down. Surprising what a little fresh air and morning light will do for the nerves that have been pushed through the ringer.

Sympathy for the losses. I don't know what is easier getting smacked by things one at a time or a major smack down. Sometimes looking back over my life as bad as it sounds it is sometimes the smack down that is easier because you actually gets all the misery over than dragging it out.

I am not sure I would add something that has a major responsibility to deal with at the moment until you get your feet under you again. Pets are cool if they are caged and you can park them with a friend if you need to travel for job hunting or down sizing to a more affordable living situation but some pets can complicate things regardless how cuddly they are.

I don't know what your "home" situation is but one thing I have found is fresh starts are easier when you get the heck away form some of the baggage that might exist in the same neighborhood as and Ex. You go in a neighbor hood you don't have to tell everyone the gorey details, figure out who is loyal to who, and you can just become the future you. If you live in a shrine of what you lost it wears you down fast. I am not saying just abandon your stuff but it is a lot easier to move on if put some of the memories in storage until you have the energy to deal with it.

Well you know you have supportive friends here at Mingle. I am usually around probably more than I should but if you need someone to chat Just Say Hi. You are way to young for me to be a girlfriend but doesn't mean I can't be a Mingle pal.

Hi Don. I have found mingle2 friends to be very supportive and caring. I started my "second life" with just me, my kids and my dog from ground zero. At the time I was wondering how I would ever be able to go on with life. I cried many nights. I eventually picked myself up, went to school, got a job making 50 dollars a week and got involved in church and social activities. It was hard and sometimes I wanted to give up, but kept plugging along. Just keep focused on the light at the end of the tunnel. Now I have two successful businesses and look at every day as a blessing. Life is hard, but we grow and mature in some of the weakest moments in our lives. I believe we are metamorphosized and we build more character and strength at the most pressing times of our lives. I will pray strength, faithfulness,peace, comfort, guidance, abundant blessings and healing love for you!

Many thoughts and prayers for you