This seems like a prejudice to me. The world is full of people that are fanatical about all sorts of things that are happily married or are in commited relationships that work. I'm not complaining about how women care more about their children than they do about me and although I think that you could draw an analogy between something like being a workaholic, there's a difference between someone being devoted to their work or pets or children, or God for that matter and someone that neglects their partner because of those things. You had one or two bad experiences with pet owners and now you are saying that you would never date one again. It's almost like me saying that I had one or two bad experiences with women and never again. This OP is coming across like one of those confirmed batchelors and I can't tell if he's ever even had a girlfriend but from the way that he's talking, it does sound like he can't be bothered with women at all. He does, in fact, describe himself as a "lifelong fitness fanatic" and even admits that he thinks that it's unlikely that he'll find someone that's compatible with him.

You say that you do charity work and I've had bad experiences with people that worked for charities. I don't say that I would never date somebody that works for a charity though and I did recently actually. Yeah, she went on about that and I found it a bit irritating but she wasn't fanatical about it to the point that it was all that she talked about and I didn't consider it to be a bad date, even if the chemistry wasn't really there and there was no second date. My mother is a Christian and that is like the major focus of her life but she's still been able to sustain a happy marriage with my father, who isn't religious and sneers about that a bit, for over forty five years. My mum is devoted to her family as well and it's not a competition.

I think that it's fair enough to say that you don't get on with certain types of people but that's as much to do with you as it is about them and it doesn't make those people undatable. It just boils down to you not wanting to go there again. I dated an alcoholic once but I'm not saying that I'll only date teatotalers now. I live in a country where a lot of men are fanatical about football but many of them still manage to date women and marry them. I could go on but maybe you get my point? I just think that this talk of not wanting to date someone that doesn't make you his main priority borders on control freakery. I'm sorry but it does come across like jealousy.

That still doesn't tell me much. How was she putting the dog before the child?

Would you consider a pet owner a fanatic if they refused to get rid of a pet when their significant other asked them to do so?

Sounds like on this thread dog owners are getting a really bad rep. .
Maybe the odd ones that do put their dogs first have been terribly hurt by people, just as some people have been hurt by dog owners.

All I know is I have never had to protect any person from my dogs but I have had to protect my dogs from people.

She made her dog her first priority and neglected her child. She spent more time with her pet than her child. Actually; I know of friends of mine that did get rid of pets because of their significant other. People here are constantly giving away pets because of allergies or a pet that attacks a small child or baby; so this is not unheard of. However; to each his/her own.

No, the only owners getting a bad rep are the owners that are not responsible. If these people have been terribly hurt by people and they can only put their dogs first; then perhaps they should not be dating. I removed myself from dating as I have no wish to hurt someone when I know damn well I am not datable.

I removed myself from dating as I have no wish to hurt someone when I know damn well I am not datable.

I think you had a bad experience, and you didn't deserve that.
I have no idea why you would think you aren't datable. You seem like a wonderful person to me.

If a pet attacked a child, I can see getting rid of it if that's the only way to handle it. However, if someone I was dating asked me to get rid of my pets because they were allergic, I wouldn't do it. That would be me being an irresponsible pet owner.

I know, sure as bears crap in the woods, I wouldn't do long term with a CCL.

What is a CCL?

Crazy cat lady.

So you are saying that if you met a guy you fell in love with and after years of being with him; you would dump him if he developed an allergy to your pet? This is what has happened here where people initially were okay with their pets but over time developed allergies. My brother had to get rid of one of his dogs because of an allergy. Couldn't take meds as having so many medical problems; they would have killed him.

Crazy cat lady.

Crazy cat lady.

How many cats makes one a crazy cat lady?

Would you have made a thread like this about someone who had weight, height or physical requirements for friendship and dating?

How many ya got?

How many ya got?