During a rough time in life my daughter just asked me what I wanted for xmas and gave me a piece of paper. With no family left besides my kids, no friends and no lover/partner I just looked at her in a confused way. Never been asked what I wanted as an adult before. I could not think of one single thing..I feel it may just be impossible to think of something such as a material item as she stated.

Does anybody else have such a problem thinking of something they want? Material item only.

Why does it have to be a material item? Why can't you ask for a homemade coupon book for chores? Or for your child to write you a story or draw a picture?

Tell her to buy a notebook and to start writing a story, then you write a little more and then her etc

She said it has to be something she can purchase with her own money. I wrote down I just want a smile, but she said no to that idea.

all i need is love,,,

Wow...that was so so sweet of your daughter! Since she wanted to buy something with her money.....just allow her the pleasure, and give something back to her. Treasure her!

My children used to ask me what I wanted for my b.day....but now they discuss amongst themselves what their mommy needs and gets it for me! Don't you love them when they do this??

What about a picture frame? Tell her you would like to have a picture of the two of you.

Yes! You could go & have a make over & get it professionally done. Make a day of it, have a great picture & a better memory...

I did this with my Daughter ! She looked and Felt very Special with people fussing over her. She was 14 at the time and she looked like a Model!!! Made me feel like an Old Man,but extremely GREAT!!

When I get that question, I tell them to take however much they want to spend on me and give it to a charity.

When I got my first job at age 14. I wanted to buy something nice for my parents I ask them to please tell me what the really want. My mom she says family together....I said no something I can buy you. She told me she wanted me to save my money. That's all I got from her then I ask my dad and he easily said a new four wheeler to replace the one I wrecked during the summer! Parents are so difficult!

To me, anything hand made is better than anything bought. A cake or cookies comes to mind. If she doesn't know how to cook anything, so much the better! Her first cake would be a treasure.

A tie?

I actually really like ties.

All depends how old she is... She can make you something to sit on your desk either at home or work... Myself I still have stuff my kids made me and now my grand daughter makes me things I sit on my desk to see every day... A coffee mug with a special saying on it your favorite cologne... Key-chain if it is something you see on a daily bases you will always think of her when you see it...

not a problem, but yes,,,,I am also one who doesn't really care so much about the material. When my needs are met, I cant think of a 'want' either.

you could tell her, surprise me. it will be special because it came from you.
kids put their heart into giving. one of my nephews is now 20. one year for my birthday he bought me a ring for 2 bucks when he was like 12. I still wear it and he said I just wanted you to have something special that day.

Since losing my loved one material things mean nothing to me. I have this same problem all the time and usually end up saying nothing... This year I said I'd like us to go for a meal somewhere. Jut spend time together...

who that sea and pay attention to what others love will not know the perfect gift to give.

I believe she wants to give you a memory gift ...so you can see it all the time ... just tell her anything is good ... if has to be material ... or let her take you out for lunch or breakfast or din ... just spending that time together would be nice ... if u can not get out have her make something and help if u can but emphasizing time together is all you need ... Happy Holidays to you both ...

My daughter asked me the same question 2 days ago! I was thrilled, deeply touched! Had not expected that at all! She'd already bought me some things but she asked me what I'd like, cos she wanted to give me some more thingies. She's a bit limited, sending it from the States is expensive, so it can't be too large or heavy. So we had fun, me telling her what I'd like, her taking pictures of it in a shop, sending them on Whatsapp, so I could choose, lol. It was great!

So... I'm going to get a parcel from my girl with pressies! I'm really excited about it!

I don't have a problem making a list at all! There's so many things I love and like! Crystals, books, oracle cards, paint, cute things for home decorations, baskets, silver jewelry and so on and so forth.

I also don't see what's wrong with liking material things. Funny ppl always have to stress they don't care for material things, as if there's something wrong with it. Being able to appreciate material things is great! Doesn't make you greedy..