What is OP?

I am not up for any intimate encounter myself. Get to know someone, friendship and time will tell.

The original poster. The person who started this thread!

lol....

Hello everyone.
I'm new here, just need cool and lively friends.

Thanks

original poster

I feel like jumping up and down...got a real message from a real person today, and that lives in my Florida.....to bad she did not Fish or anything Outdoors. Maybe there is hope on Mingle after all!

<---Jumping up and down...

Good luck ALBYAK......

sooooo.....then he does not meet your standards.

TBH I have had this problem also in the past and I have learned that no matter how wonderful he is otherwise this is not going to change about him. So you have to decide if you can accept him as he is.

I have most often simply remained friends with these types of men. usually that works fine

does that not depend on an individual's definition of Intimate? for example, technically, someone interested in dating is looking for a public face to hide loneliness, or is looking for someone to get to know through a series of manipulative mind games, or even just on the market for trial marriage.

Intimate, in my definition, means "I don't want games, too much time wasted when up front shared information can be more helpful in deciding." Encounter simply translates to a person or situation that one "encounters" or finds themselves in/near. Not limited to sex.

some good observations, however, on here in the online world it usually means hook ups as there are other profile options such as "friends" "dating" "marriage"

Men who are honest about wanting only casual sex or FWB are wise to say so. That way they can get what they want and avoid hurting others.

It is important to be very clear and not obfuscate, but I think you do have a point in that it does not hurt to clarify with this man what he wants. She could ask him that much, I agree.

Yes i think so..better to be just friends..

There you have it! Intimate encounters maybe only casual sex. I would need a companionship/relationship with my intimacy however.

Opie would need to decide what her values truly are. Could she live with the decision of changing her standards depending on the outcome? Have to communicate.

I think it is understandable (as beach said on here somewhere else) that our hearts will sometimes draw us to someone who may not share our values. we each have to determine for ourselves how much of a compromise we will make in those situations.

I am largley too large in the at those times

lessons learned :)

nonetheless I still believe that friendship is possible. I used to not be able to accept that, as if it were not enough.

but think again...worse things could happen than having a friend...lol

...and depends on how horny I am. jk.

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. :-)

[Elizabeth K�bler-Ross]

You have been talking with him for three months and just discovered his profile saying "...up to intiamte encounter...". If he changed it lately, maybe this is his subtle way of hinting toward's you, he is very much attracted to you.

Be direct ask and explain yourself and possiblly accept what he says. Most people are adults and what every your interpretation or personal definition of "intimate encounters" mean's, intercourse between adults is a part of life.

You are an attractive woman (frankly saying), with a career and obviously with in each other's age range. Many people want more in a relationship, but are willing to accept less such as an (intimate encounter). There are two sides to every issues and somewhere in the middle lies the truth. Be honest and forward with him. Stand your ground on your values and morals, and also allow yourself to feel.

oh yes, the troubles caused by blatant horniness

People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within. :-) [Elizabeth K�bler-Ross]