Well sorry to hear that. I know he made a mistake but I feel his heart is in the right place so I support him.

Who knows, maybe they can work it out.

He went as far as to get a job and move to be near her just to meet her? I'm saying, creepy.
Then he kept up this white lie/ruse for a year?
no wonder she's rather angry with him...
If he's got lots of money, she should suck it up.. she might have a good life.
(How's that for PC beach?)

I hope that too..and I will surely find a way to help him

He needs to realise that he robbed her of the chance of getting to know him.
He would have to let her know that he realises that is what he has done and ask for forgiveness and a second chance.
The fact that he didn't know that she would react the way she has shows how tenuous our ability to know one an other is.

The fact that she is refusing to interact with him adds a degree of difficulty which may be over come with the assistance of third person but the main message to get to her is that he recognises that she has every right to feel betrayed no matter how justified he felt.

She is not a sucker for money thats why he loves her so much but good point to put forward
you feel his methods were Creepy or romantic???

very creepy

Couldn't have said it any better

A lie is a lie. I appreciate honesty at all times.

I will second that


and I also feel if she were truly in love with him, this alone wouldn't have ended it


if she were truly in love he could explain it and she could try to understand it and move on


Id also be concerned of why she feels 'cheated'...as in not getting what she should have,,, if she was with him because she loved him it shouldn't feel like a 'cheat'

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I agree on this, very well said. But sometimes some people lie because they are afraid of losing you or being rejected or for some other reasons. But if a person is truly sorry for his lies, I would give him a chance to make things right. Not all lies are done with bad intentions, it depends on what grounds or reasons. Some people just want to be truly loved completely and others will do whatever it would cost them to have someone they want.

One thing that catches my attention, now that we have the actual story, is that it took this guy a FULL YEAR OF DATING to trust that the woman wasn't a gold digger.

I can understand going a few dates with someone without letting on that you are well off and worried.

But I know that if a woman were to lead me on for a YEAR, pretending to be on my own low wealth level, and then spring it on me that she was really rich (or in a rich family), and that she'd been faking who she really was THE WHOLE TIME, I would hit the streets for sure, and not look back.

I've had my experiences with people who think that it's their prerogative to shape MY thinking about them, and all those experiences have been negative. Especially the ones where I stayed around and tried to keep going.

For sure discourage suicide, but I would suspect that claiming to be that upset about it just shows your friend needs a lot of therapy, just to figure out where his own head is really at, before he EVER tries to find a mate through stealth.

His problem is NOT, as he thinks, that the world is full of gold-digging women, his problem is that he sees the world as a place where he has to play games and manipulate people in order to get what he wants. THAT is what is driving the woman away from him.

Well as I mentioned he made some mistakes but that was in past. Now let us try to find a solution to the problem...how to approach the situation to help him

I believe he just did it because he's wary. It's normal for some people to be cautious, he's looking for someone to love him not because of his money. It was a mistake that he lied to the girl but if the girl really loved him she would understand him. For now maybe the girl is still mad at him , she felt betrayed but given a little time it will subside. If there's a third party, someone who's very closed to them both, he or she should be the one to explain to the girl why he did it, I am sure that she felt the love showered upon her by her boyfriend. Any girl would feel the sincerity of a man in love even if he lied somehow he would try to make it up to her to right the wrong. The gf should realize that. A close friend should convince the gf and help enlighten her mind. Or maybe you can do that yourself. You already know and better understand the situation, go and talk to her gf and see what happens. I have done that before with some of my friends who had relationship problems that's why I had been a maid of honor in the church wedding of my friend and a single witness to two of my friends secretly married and the other a civil wedding. Be a bridge to fill the gap:) you could be a big help:)

Well I was looking for something cute. Like a sorry singing group or gift hunt. As I don't know the gal, it would be better to guide him to do cute stuff.

that's a great idea

I dont know jimmy . I kinda think that the colour of a lie is only determined by the 2 people assessing it , and based upon their individual past experiences and their individual capacities to forgive/trust/move forward.

If a person has been deeply wounded by a lie/ lies prior to meeting their mate, then chances are they may perceive EVERY lie as dark and menacing ,no matter how good their mate's intention is.

And lets face it some people have less of a capacity to forgive, trust , and move forward from an offense committed than others.

There is no right or wrong here I think. Just a case of what the two people are willing and able to cope with from each other.

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