I started a thread about a year ago regarding the rules for friendships with the opposite sex when you are in a relationship.

But I will add a slightly different angle to it

What are your boundaries when it comes to interactions with Exes when you are in relationships.

Is it determined by the comfort level of your present mate?

What is acceptable and non acceptable and to you regarding your mate's interaction with their ex

I put up a sign that says, "No trespassing. Violators will be shot."

So I take it that you wouldnt want your mate to have any interactions whatsover with a mate

I put up a sign for the Ex;

If you want to play with my toys be prepared to take the broken pieces home with you and don't let the door hit either of you in the behind. Be assured that whatever you think he has won't be worth having when I am done.

I intro the friend to who I am with out of respect

If he is happy with another.....great. I don't have to deal with it. I don't look down on the women after me

I firmly believe it is not right to ask friends to stop being friends so,,

My rules/boundaries are simple:

1.Anyone in their life before I came I have no problem remaining in their life.

2. Any females in their life can interact in my presence, and should be able to embrace becoming our 'mutual' friend.

3. No new female friends.


and

4. Any friends, female or male, who try to sabotage our relationship or cause drama between us has to go.

My ex actually shot her next. So, yeah.

..hmmm.i.like this ^^^^..
So for right now I will go with what she said..wink

This ^^^^

Alright this topic hit me hard and kind of makes me angry at the same time so I'll try to stay calm so I went on a date with this girl and she started to ignore me afterwards all good I just told her thank you for the date I feel ignored and went on my way. Afterwards she got back with her ex and now I know why I was ignored. After all this I started talking to an old elementary school friend that I had pretended to date back in elementary school. So we got to talking and I told her that the last girl I went on a date with was still obsessed with her ex then she starts talking to her ex on Facebook right in front of me just to prove they are friends which I was ok with but now they are still doing it witch tells me I should step out of the picture. I'm just saying if you want to Tobe friends with your ex that's cool but keep them more more than an arm lengths distance or just an aquantance.

I don't think this is up to me set any boundaries. It should be his inner matter if and how he chooses to interact with other women, exes or no exes. I really don't mind him having female friends as long he does it in the way I feel respected and my feelings are considered. I trust him enough to be sure that choices he makes are safe for our relationship. If I can't trust him, then I can't stay in relationship with him.

Rule #3 will put a serious cramp in my fantasy life.

Humm ... hell I have my ex (kids dad) on my facebook.. We talk when we are around each other at the grand kids games parties ect even some holidays.. When we are around each other.. I don't have a problem with it and if anyone I'm with does then it will be their problem...

He is a ex for a reason nothing there I want back.. We are civil to each other and call the other if there is something we need to discuss about the kids or grand kids no more..

Actually the last bf I had actually asked to be on my friends list n fb and he is living with someone.. I did add him, it is no different to me then anybody else we have some of the same friends.. And I'm the one that broke it off..

I do not go out of my way to interact with exes but I will be civil to any of them.. When the relationships ended I was always one to talk it out and get it all out there... When it was over it was over..

I hope my ex and ex bf's all find the one that is for them... We just was not meant to be...

I do not go out of my way to interact with exes but I will be civil to any of them.. When the relationships ended I was always one to talk it out and get it all out there... When it was over it was over..
This is what matters the most in that whole story The rest was just stuff that happened in the past and you are taking care of it rather than letting it be a problem.

does not interact with my ex husband

I will add that I have zero problem with a mate dealing with an Ex to meet the needs of mutual children.

But I am no idiot so it is when the dealing goes beyond the needs of the kids that I don't play.

And I have no problem with a mate having opposite sex friends any more than he can have Problems with mine.

But I don't do mate things with friends and never have.

Since I conotate Ex with somthing significantly more than friends and it went down the tubes I don't see the reason to pretend your friends.

I think this is the best answer for this post. Seems if you have to put boundaries out there; then there is no trust; therefore no relationship.

If we are dating then he has no other dates or we are done! He has no interactions with his ex's! Im old school not open to sharing!

joint custody
so whom ever I date
better understand that

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