Do Men Like to Be Chased?

Do man like being chased by woman? - dating tips

Strong, confident, independent women want to know: do men like to be chased instead of doing the chasing? The answer might surprise you.

Gender roles are a lot more fluid than they used to be. These days, it’s perfectly normal to meet women in high-powered careers with lofty titles while more men take on the role of stay-at-home-dads. But with this fluidity comes some questions when it comes to dating. Should Alpha Females start making the moves on a targeted love interest? And do men respond positively to the sort of courting behavior from a woman that has traditionally been their job?

Despite all the progress that women have made in gaining educations and respected positions, traditions and the demands of culture (as well as biology!) are hard things to break. The bottom line is this: men still generally prefer to do the chasing rather than to be chased. Obviously, there are exceptions (which is why I used the word “generally”), but overall, ladies, trying to take charge of courting might backfire on you.

What men like is to be desired. They certainly don’t mind if you show your interest, and most are very open to being asked to have a drink or grab dinner by a woman they admire. Most men say that they won’t continue to pursue a woman if she fails to show any reciprocating interest, so total passivity is a big turnoff. But when a woman starts to arrange dates, plan the encounters, insist on paying for both, and following up with flowers, texting, and phone calls, a man will start to feel nervous and uncomfortable. “Smothered” is a word that is also thrown around.

The majority of men say the following:

  • Having a woman flirt and show interest is exciting, but they like to initiate a date
  • It isn’t unusual for a man to get suspicious when women chase hard, wondering why she likes him
  • The thrill of the chase is a big part of the fun. When a woman is running the courtship, the chase is too easy and becomes uninteresting
  • The impression is that an aggressive woman must automatically want sex
  • A little mystery is very intriguing

Men are naturally competitive, so the desire to make the first move and then initiate courtship activities comes naturally for most of them, even if they are not totally confident in their abilities. While some men will say that having the woman do the chasing takes the risk and worry out of the equation, this is a minority opinion. But almost all men are happy when the woman shows interest, and, once a relationship is established if the woman takes some initiative in making dating plans.

So, ladies, the takeaway is this: don’t be surprised if a man backs off or becomes less interested if you are an aggressive chaser. Not all men will be put off, but if you’re finding it hard to keep a guy interested, try backing off and creating a little mystery.

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I’d love to know what you think about whether or not men like to be chased. Leave your comments below!

4 comments On Do Men Like to Be Chased?

  • In the #me too age men, over 30, rely on a woman at least flirting. If there is no solid evidence in his mind a woman has some amount of interest most men will ignore a woman because they don’t want the “he’s harassing me” stigma. Men like the thrill of the date not “the chase”. “Chase Me” is for high school kids.

  • Hey, if you’re interested, let me know… go as far as maybe suggesting a date… setting it up yourself… that’s where things get more dicey… First date? maybe… after that? well… definitely debatable, and highly debatable if you decide to arrange all the dates. Alpha males will feel like Betas if you do everything, and they’ll bolt. (Bad enough some alphas look down on betas, although betas are more likely to be taken advantage of.)

  • Not at all point, they will think ur desperate. So for me I play cool

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