The LGBTQ community has had its share of apps that are “targeted” for people who identify as lesbian or gay. The companies that have developed apps such as Grindr, Scruff, Jack’d, or Hornet have tailored them for LGBTQ persons. Yet, they fall short when it comes to providing a quality experience. Men who are white and cisgender may find Grindr suits their needs. But, there is a wide variety of nuance in gender, race, and sexuality that many of these mainstream apps miss. In particular, people of color, trans-persons, pansexuals, and non-binary people discover that there are issues when using these mainstream apps. Unfortunately, a lot of LGBTQ users report dissatisfaction with the current state of online dating.
If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, you should be aware of these common pitfalls of online dating.
Some Apps Do Not Capture Gender Nuances
Despite the progress in the world on gender fluidity, many apps still force you to align with being a woman or a man. Mainstream apps often make you pick which gender you are and which gender you want to seek. There’s no option to say, “I am pansexual, and I am seeking other people who are also pansexual.” Or, as another example, there’s no way to say, “I am part of the trans community and would like to find someone interested in me, as a trans person.”
Due to this gender rigidity, be aware that many mainstream apps will not suffice for some people. In particular, those who do not ascribe to a specific gender or who have changed their gender will find difficulty.
Some Apps Are Also Not Friendly To Persons Of Color
Again, despite the progress on racial dynamics within the US and the world, the apps today feel unwelcoming to people with color. It’s not uncommon for people of color to experience racism when entering the world of online dating. Large, well-known apps have a hard time policing these issues due to the scale. There are millions of people logging in at any given time. Responding to problem communications and banning accounts can be challenging. As such, communities like Grindr often struggle with issues in this area.
There’s also the problem that these apps and sites do not capture the nuances of race as well. It can be easy to receive a lot of matches for people in which you have no interest. Making an app or site friendly for all people, including people of color, continues to be an issue for many mainstream dating platforms.
Some Platforms Do A Bad Job Of Filtering Results
Even with the gender rigidity baked into many of these sites and apps, a lot of platforms do a poor job of filtering results. In particular, users report difficulty finding people who match their same sexual preferences. Many gay and lesbian users of popular apps say straight women and men are slipping into their results. Of course, this creates awkwardness for persons of the LGBTQ community. They may contact the other person, thinking that they are also LGBTQ only to find out that they are not.
Part of the issue with this is that large sites, like Tinder, have such a large volume of users. Additionally, many of those users are cisgender, hetero people since that is to whom they advertise the most. People who identify as LBGTQ then have difficulty on these sites. The challenge comes from the fact that they have not worked particularly hard to create an inclusive, welcoming environment.
For this reason, if you identify as LGBTQ and are using a mainstream app, you should ensure that you read the profile before initiating contact. That way, you’ll be sure that the person whom you are contacting shares your preferences.
Using Instagram May Seem Like An Option, But It’s Slow And Laborious
Since there are so many problems with some of the dating apps out there, many LGBTQ people look at Instagram to find potential matches. The reason for this is quite simple: Instagram has no filters. You can see people for who they are, not for their classification. You can also read about people, understand what they think, what they like, and infer if they might be a good match.
The problem with this as a way to find potential matches is that it is slow and requires significant effort. You can cut down on this work by searching friends of friends or viewing Instagram accounts of a particular community. No matter how you look at it, finding a potential match on a social media platform like that won’t be very easy. For starters, you don’t know if they are looking for that special someone. At least with a dating app, presumably, they also want to find a relationship.
Of course, this problem doesn’t apply to a photo-sharing site. It also applies to other social media platforms as well. Despite the challenges, if a dating app gets things right, it is still more efficient. If you try to look up a bunch of profiles on social media to try and find that special someone, it is time-consuming.
Try Other Dating Apps
One strategy that some LGBTQ people use is to try different apps – ones that are not household words. They may have a more inclusive and welcoming community. Sometimes these types of sites wind up working much better than those with many hundreds of thousands of users. Those apps might be trying to match you with people who do not identify as LGBTQ.
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