thanks, so none of you are having trouble with the site, there is no waiting for you on here, the little circle at the top of my page keeps going and sometime 30 seconds before it moves on.

Her willingness to meet me in person when I ask her out.


Desperation, lack of local alternatives, mental/emotional problems, enough money and time that traveling doesn't matter?


I don't know.
When he shows up half across the globe?
But that would only indicate he showed up halfway across the globe.
Still doesn't indicate he's "serious" about anything or going to be what she wants.


Hormones or self identity protection/social (group) pressure.


Only if the romantic side actually wants to face reality.
"Romantics" have a tendency to rationalize reality away, at most facing reality for the sake of learning what to avoid and how better to pick things that allow them to avoid it and facilitate perpetuating the romantic fantasy.

One thing the internet does is allow those with emotional and mental disorders free reign of coping symptoms.
I mean lots of disorders along the spectrum's of depression, autism, and schizophrenia have symptoms of people creating a kind of bubble, compartmentalized fantasy bubble, fantasy script, and then acting them out. Much like a movie script.
They don't really realize they are doing it except in hindsight or when someone directly points it out to them.

Helps them feel in control of their life by being able to control all aspects, what everything means, the exact emotional fulfillment they want to achieve, and exactly what they have to do in order to get it. They choose a character, an identity, how they want to be perceived and how they want to feel, then find someone to play off of by using universal stereotypes to manipulate responses, to complete the fantasy. They assign certain emotions to certain times, certain phrases, certain events, then work to trigger those in steps. It culminates in what they were expecting and what they've manipulated, but then they're done with it, and so move on.
Anything that doesn't really go according to the script pops the bubble, causes frustration and anxiety rather than the expected and desired emotions.
Some will keep coming back over and over in attempts to manipulate people back into the script if enough of it has been already fulfilled.
Again, it's not really done consciously, like they sat down and wrote it. It's just negative emotions and stressors compelling them to create an idea of the reality they want then manipulating certain things to happen or be said for the sake of short term heightened emotional responses.

Little different than reading a boring textbook and then half an hour later realizing you've been "daydreaming" about something else.
Only, in this "daydream" they think they're conscious and following normal social directives and interacting with people in a healthy way for healthy purposes, but it's really all been manipulation of the self and others.


Lots of reasons.
- in order to trigger a response for the sake of phishing out information; how you feel, how you'll respond, interest level, excitement, intimate thoughts and feelings.
- as a means of communicating his interest, albeit in an overcompensating way to overcome the shortcomings of impersonal communication mediums.
- in the moment he wants to, moments pass quickly.
- he plans to, eventually, and he doesn't want to keep it to himself until he actually does.
- to string you along, to get you to believe he wants to, triggering a desired heightening or escalation, to keep you coming back.
- it's just part of the fantasy.
- social reciprocation in the relationship, he may want to start towards something he wants, and thinks to do that he has to give you what he thinks you want (progress in the relationship towards meeting and making it real).
- he had nothing else to talk about. Talking about meeting may just be the next step in the dialogue. It's either that or start talking about something real. Used as an avoidance of talking about something else like his fears.
- he's insecure about the girl, thinking the girl is seeing other guys, talks about meeting as an attempt to force her into a soft commitment to him, shoring up the idea that it's a "real" relationship albeit only over the internet/phone.

Too bad, she actually might be a good one... But for a black woman, I always liked condoleeza rice...