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Tool Man
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I wouldn't hit on lily but i would flurt with her if she don't slap me. But will you listen?  Sowwy, I just had to. |
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Tool Man
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Yeah Lily...I guess sometimes they do. Not saying it is right. But if we all possessed the subtle art of maintaining a relationship effectively we probably wouldn't need to be on this site discussing it. No one is perfect I suppose. But knowing that, someone shouldn't expect perfection when they themselves are not perfect. |
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Tool Man
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I wouldn't hit on lily but i would flurt with her if she don't slap me.
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Tool Man
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Won't most people say "What should I do??" if they want advice? In other words if they just need to vent, let them vent. Saying we need to talk doesn't infer we think the person we are speaking to can fix anything. I think you sumed up the issue quite well thank you.  |
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Tool Man
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Depending on what it is i may say, well,, sorrrry. but i will go back and and try to find out what is wrong threw talking about it.
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Tool Man
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I think when someone you care about expresses they are sad...it's only natural to have the desire to want change that for them. Call it ridiculous ignorant controlling or arrogant if you want but for me personally those words "just don't go there". I prefer compassionate. and if it is not in your power to change? Then what? Be angry at the person for voicing those feelings? What if they are upset, and maybe don't express things in the manner you would like, while still being respectful... but you just don't "like" how it was said to you? Do you lash out at them? |
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Tool Man
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I think when someone you care about expresses they are sad...it's only natural to have the desire to want change that for them. Call it ridiculous ignorant controlling or arrogant if you want but for me personally those words "just don't go there". I prefer compassionate. and if it is not in your power to change? Then what? Be angry at the person for voicing those feelings? |
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SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 5
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I've been single for a long time and it would be nice to wake up to someone.
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Tool Man
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Well i think at times you can offer if there is anything you can say or do without just jumping with a fix.
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SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 5
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I think it would be nice to be taken by the right one
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Tool Man
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I was thinking arrogant, but ridiculous covers that. It's just plain ignorant to think you can "fix" emotions, you can help them along by listening or perhaps more IF asked but to outright think that something you say or do will magically "fix" anything is stupid...sorry I'm blunt like that. While you are fixing the emoitcons... can you add a few? angel with a halo one begging on one knee one with an eye flutter oh emotions... not emoticons.. never mind. |
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Tool Man
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Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now....  5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... absolutely... but to get mad when someone expresses their feelings because they can't "fix" them...is ridiculous. |
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Tool Man
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Well, here's the thing too, my ex-husband would try to "fix" my emotions and when he couldn't, he would get angry with me. Way to be supportive. You have NO idea.... what you just said to reaffirm my thoughts right now.... 5 years of pure hell and one beautiful child later.... |
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Cheating....
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nope! once a cheater, always a cheater!!! Not true.... |
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Tool Man
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I can see that you are a very strong willed person Lily. I do think that i understand what you are saying. Everyone is their own person and sometimes you just need to have someone to listen to you, but there is more to it than that also.
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Tool Man
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If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate? I want caring and compassion, but I don't want someone to dote on me, I don't expect them to "take care of me" I expect support, not domination. |
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Tool Man
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If you are in a relationship with some one do you want that person to fix something,what is your desire from a mate?
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Tool Man
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I don't try to fix everything but if your in a relationship then some want to try try and fix some things. I know a few men that if told, i'm sad, i'm not feeling good, my back hurts they say,and... what do you want me to do about it or well get over it. Is that the type of partner you want? There is a wide range between "get over it" and "here let me fix it". How about - "I am here to listen" |
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Tool Man
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I don't try to fix everything but if your in a relationship then some want to try try and fix some things. I know a few men that if told, i'm sad, i'm not feeling good, my back hurts they say,and... what do you want me to do about it or well get over it. Is that the type of partner you want?
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Tool Man
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If we were incencative then we wouldn't care to try and fix anything
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