Naughty and playful ;-)

I have a tendency to speak what’s on my mind, always and forever. Some people hate me for it, others like me for it. I prefer saying what I think over hypocritically saying something else.

Hi Blondey,

I will look for the link, don’t have it by hand right now.

Blondey, since you are so familiar with natural and traditional medicinal remedies, could you give me some advice about the herb “ Chaste berry / Vitex / Agnus Castus “ ?

Some studies say it helps lower testosterone, others say it elevates it.
It’s often used by women with PMS symptoms and post-menopause women because it balances hormones.
The monks used it to control sexual urges.

Some studies say it lowers testosterone, others say it can raise it.

I have some Vitex at home ( over 120 caps ) but I am not taking them before I have a bit more clarity.
While my testosterone is already immeasurably low, I want to nuke that last bit as well and nuke DHT as well ( to make my hair fuller ).
Could Vitex be of help for me?
Thanks,
Elissa
Xx

Cool.

My blood levels are all in the female range.
I’m transitioning since more than 3 years so I’m considered transitioned by my doctors.

Thought I would just ask others’ experience about high libido :)

People take their significant other for granted after a while. Focussing on their career. forgetting about their SO and only thinking about their prestations on the work floor. Because they are on the work floor so much, they meet other people there and from one comes the other.
The person at home who never sees their SO anymore because he or she has to work extra hours will eventually not take the neglect anymore and that leads to cheating by placing ads on the internet or by meeting others in real life.

Some people think that once they are in a relationship they are safe to not take care of their body anymore and they neglect their bodies out of laziness. The other spouse notices that and starts to lose sexual appetite for the other SO and so that person seeks for a person who does take care of his or her body in a proper way.

Many reasons for cheating.

Judging is not always the good thing to do. Analyzing the causes might be more helpful.

Never tried joints.
They say that some people have a psychosis after a joint. Dissociation can stay for years after drug use or so they say.

They absolutely behaved like true winners today. So proud of the Red Devils.
To me they are the true winners of this World Championship Soccer.
Was so wonderful to see Martinez and the players look so happy and feel so supported.
The true winners were in Brussels today.
Eden Hazard, Vincent Kompany, Thibaut Courtois and all the rest. They have shown what a sympathetic people they are today. Very social, very classy, very accessible.
Belgium is proud.

40000 people only for them in Brussels wrapped in our national colors.

“ Waar is dat feestje? “ “ Hier is dat feestje “
“ Where is that party? “ “ Here is that party “
was what the people screamed today.

Hi Blondey,
I always like your wise insight :)

I’m currently on Estradiol administered through injections. Perhaps the high levels of estrogen caused by injections have something to do with my high libido as well.
I took progesterone in the past. It made me sleepy. Helped a lot with breast development though.

My cortisol and DHEA levels are always very low, my testosterone is basically non existentent.
My FSH and LH ( thyroid hormones ) are completely suppressed.
I’m basically flooded with estrogen :)

I have always had a creative mind and a creative mindset. Maybe that has something to do with it as well. Not sure.

I can easily get aroused although orgasming takes a lot of build up work.
It’s also whole body waves now instead of just locally, so the female orgasms are present.

It’s usually around periods where my boobs get tender and my areolae swell that my sex drive goes in overdrive.

I still have male reproductive organs which might also affect how my nerves in the genitals respond to estrogen.

I also read somewhere that a small portion of women don’t need testosterone to stimulate sex-drive. That estrogen is enough for a happy few. I might be one of those happy few. Since my brain structure as a trans woman is feminine.

It’s still a mystery though why my sex drive is so high.

Even at menopausal levels for both sex hormones ( testosterone and estrogen ) my sex drive was still very high.

I wonder if some people can get aroused, independent of their hormone levels?

Or maybe it is the fact that I feel more comfortable in my body now.

I’m a bit worried about high sex drive. I once read somewhere that it can stimulate levels of prolactin going in overdrive when you orgasm too often.
I really worry about it.
High prolactin can cause blindness.
So orgasming too often could in theory also cause blindness then if that study about orgasming and prolactin was right :-/

Thanks for your insight,
Elissa.

I like your sense of humor haha ;-)

You have a lovely way of explaining things!
Always with a bit of humor and honesty :)

Going to bed with a ladyboy in Thailand didn’t make you any less straight, society wants you to believe it’s gay but the vast majority of men would secretely sleep with a Thai ladyboy and these men are straight. Of course they will deny it in your face.
Own it, Geert! You are not the only straight man who secretely browses “ shemale porn “ at night. After all, we are REAL women.

Men can indeed get very mad if they think that their sexual orientation is threatened.
And I can imagine that it wouldn’t be all that rosy for cis women if trans men were allowed to use female bathrooms.
After having been on testosterone for a while they develop muscle mass like any other man. So even though they have a vagina, their clitoris starts to grow as a mini-penis.
They are stronger than trans women after a few months of hormone therapy.
A trans woman on the other hand loses muscle mass after a few months of anti-androgens.

So it’s safer to arrange bathrooms based on gender identity than on biological sex.
I am of the opinion that hormone therapy should have been administered for a minimum of 6 months and that someone should be able to prove that though, since otherwise it would be indeed easy for crossdressers with bad intentions to use the women’s bathroom :)

Elissa.

Thanks for your detailed answer.

Thanks for this amazing answer.
:-)

A trans woman is not a male though.
Once we physically transitioned, the penis doesn’t even function anymore.
Not every trans woman is attracted to women. I for example could never be attracted to a woman. This is common for the younger generations of trans women. Older transitioners are usually attracted to women, true.
But heterosexual trans women form no danger for heterosexual cis women. If we were forced to use male bathrooms, we would be in more danger than when using women’s bathrooms.
There is a difference between a man who dresses up as a woman and enters a bathroom to harrass women, or a young trans woman who has neurologically been female her entire life and has been treated with hormone replacement estrogen.

Gay people are indeed better accepted in the South than trans people. I have a gay friend who lives near Kissimee in Florida. He works at Disney, Orlando and his other gay colleagues get treated well too. They have a young trans woman working there, however she is less well accepted.

I know a post-op trans woman in her mid 30s, who had her bottom surgery in 2003, at age 19.
She lives in massachussets, she is married to a heterosexual male. She looks every bit of a woman. She is conservative and called Obama a b*tt pirate. She is a Trump supporter. She married in a clerical ceremony. In the South.
Would the people in the South accept someone like her if they knew of her history?
Or do you think she would also be discriminated against if her history got out?
Is it common for churches in the South to marry trans women with straight cis men?

Thanks.
Elissa

Thank you for taking the time to write such a respectful, well underbuilt comment.
This was the type of posts I was looking for.

Regards.
Elissa.

Well, some people have called me a bigot for not wanting to date bi men.

I’m a transitioned trans woman in her early 20s, out and proud since 2015. Started hormone therapy in January 2016, am having sex reassignment surgery ( vaginoplasty ) next year.
I’m heterosexual so kind of a rarity under trans women where most are attracted to women and transition at later ages. I’m an early onset trans woman. Knew since early childhood, suffered extreme gender dysphoria till 18 y.o, when I decided to transition.

Since you are a crossdresser and different from a trans person, I cannot give you a lot of advice.
However, if you want to find someone who accepts you for presenting as a woman from time to time, I would advise you to make sure you look as good as you can when dressed as a woman.
Hygiene and efforts are more important than looks.

Make sure you shave all your body and facial hair off and buy a hair-laser-at-home device. Silk’n glide is a very good device and not too expensive ( 200$ ) from Philips.

Being hairless is one of the most important things, if not the most important.

Use warm water to open the pores and enough shaving foam, when shaving. Shave two times one after another, for a close shave.
After shaving, make sure you exfoliate and moisturize.

Another important thing is contouring and highlighting.
You can look up YouTube videos. Tutorials enough.
Arabia Felix is a drag queen who has great tutorials on contour and highlight.
Contour and highlight is a great make-up trick to feminize the face and highlight the eyes and cheekbones.

Another thing that could help you be taken more seriously as a woman and quite important is voice training.
You can look up tutorials to train your voice to sound more feminine.

To hide the Adams apple you could wear a necklace and a scarf.

Paint your nails and maintain them hygienically. That’s important.

Make sure you learn how to jiggle with your hips when walking. Walking graciously is important. Don’t walk with the legs wide apart.

Learn to dress like a woman of your age would, not as a teenage girl.
Don’t dress vulgar, dress classy.

Over the knee boots look cheap on older women, go for classy pumps instead.

A small enveloppe shaped handbag is very classy.

If you have a redecing hairline, try to look for a high quality wig, a human hair one prferably but a good synthetic will do as well.

Try to smile often, a smile is very feminine. Show emotions. Don’t have that “ resting ***** face “ that is so typically male.

Someone out there will accept you for you.
Put in the time and efforts.

Many guys are willing to have a short adventure with a crossdresser. If he is bi maybe even a relationship.

Since you are not a woman, straight guys and lesbian women are out of the question.
Bi guys and bi women and maybe some accepting straight women, are a possibility.

As a straight woman, I would personally not date a crossdresser, but I know women who would.

Elissa.

A friend in Kissimee Florida offered to pay for my plane ticket and to let me sleep two weeks in his house.
Unfortunately my parents would never let me go and would look down on me because they would find it weird if I went sleeping in the house of a 65 year old man that I met online 6 years ago.
He came to Belgium last year and I saw him for the first time in real life 3 years ago. He is a normal, well mannered older man.
Sadly, my parents would never let me travel to him because they are the kind of people who believe that there must be something more behind it if a 65 year old man invites a 22 year old to his house.
:-(