Is it bigoted if you are only attracted to heterosexual males and never to bisexual males?
Someone told me that she found that bigoted because a bi man could be as much of a good lover as a straight man.
The thing is that I have never been attracted to a guy who was out as bi. As soon as I knew he was bi, the attraction fell away.
I could be friends with him but I never feel more than that for bi men. I only feel butterflies in my stomach for straight guys.

So is my preference bigoted?

Any other woman who is also only attracted to straight men?
Or any men who are only attracted to heterosexual women?
Elissa

No.

I am attracted to Men. Straight men Only.

Anything else.....Nope.

I’m the same.
I often get told that my preference is bigoted because I don’t want to date bi men.

Elissa.

I don't know that a choice if not the right one as society dictate is bigotry. Some men are attracted to bi women . What do you call them ? Sleazy? Hehe

Well, some people have called me a bigot for not wanting to date bi men.

I'd say it's more "discriminatory" than "bigoted."
IMO if you said you felt revulsion towards bi men, it would be "bigoted."
But just not finding them attractive...not really bigoted.


IMO that is little different than people that don't want to date someone of a disparate age, or someone with kids, or someone that smokes, or someone that lives far away, or someone handicapped, or someone that says all the right things online and then in person they're all about sex, or too clingy.


Pedantically speaking using just a technical definition for "bigoted," no.
Generally, theoretically, hypothetically speaking, yes.

But my non attraction to men and only wanting to date women is sexist.
My attraction, and unwillingness to consider or accommodate, especially based on my dating history, to only non handicapped non midget non mentally retarded childless under 50, over 30, white genetic human females under/above a certain weight violates pretty much every EEO law on the books and "could" label me as a shallow bigoted sexist ageist speciesist discriminatory racist white supremacist misanthrope (misogynist and misandrist).


Maybe it's in the way you are presenting it?
I mean if you're hearing it from so many people...
Or is it that one person that keeps telling you?
Maybe that person just wants to make you feel bad about yourself.
Who knows.
Depends on the conversation. Maybe it's just one of those people that keeps trying to push labels on you.


I have so many conditions of attraction it's nuts.
Oh, you used to be a hooker, worked in porn, slept with a lot of dudes, ate human flesh or blood, play the 'just friends' with a guy or bunch of guys game, use sex as a bargaining chip/currency/weapon, had to experiment a lot, use sex as a naughty recreation tool to get back at your parents?
See ya.

I'm mostly attracted to women with the capacity and track record of understanding and judiciously applying their (hetero)sexuality and the ability to understand what role sexuality plays in their identity and are bigger than it, all without attempting to compartmentalize it. All of which is communicated in the ways people just aren't capable in seeing in themselves no matter how much self reflection and introspection they have, absolutely requiring an external viewpoint.
But heterosexuality is definitely a prerequisite.

It's not bigoted as you cannot help what you are personally attracted to. Society should not discriminate on personal choice when there is no hate involved for other sexual orientations. I am only attracted to straight women only but could not date a trans woman as I am not attracted however I don't hate them which is the difference. I respect individual peoples choices and orientations.

If there is hate, there is bigotry.
If it is natural desire it is acceptable.

I am a lesbian.
I am only attracted to women.
I have had gay and bi male friends but they always respected my choice, as I respected theirs.
Me being 100% lesbian did not detract from their opinion of me and them being gay or bi did not detract from my opinion of them.

So? Why keep repeating that? Just let it go. Their opinion, no need to make it yours.
I don't date bi-men either. As soon as I learn a man is bi-sexual my attraction drops like a brick, and I'm off. I really couldn't be involved with a bi-sexual man. Not my cup of tea.
We have freedom of choice, whether about that, age, and so on.

No, attraction is not a matter of bigotry. Take a situation I give you a hug as a fellow soul. If you take that to mean something sexual, that is presumptuous. If you reject the love, that is bigotry.

Well, that's why you have a middle finger...so use it.

The middle finger IS extremely versatile.

People use a variety of distatseful words when a person is not interested.
Only you know what is or isn't right for you.
Whether it's the bisexual questiin or anything that doesn't mesh wirh your beliefs and ideals.
Do what will make you happt.

Well, then call me a bigot because I like my relationships with straight women... and that it.

I'm a straight woman, I only date men. How is that a bigot?

I like turtles.

You noticed me?

Why would you care what others think?

Attraction is a complex matter, you cannot help to whom you are attracted to , nor do you owe anyone an explanation for whom you are not attracted to.

Um, what you describe is only a personal preference...


Definition of Bigot:
a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (such as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance