Maybe, maybe not. Depends if you're willing to face rejection. You can always ask yourself in the moment if you will regret not having taken the next step, which sounds like you have been. If this is happening frequently, men clearly find you intriguing. Go for it! What's the worst that can happen? Rejection. Pft, big deal. You tried instead of wondering "what if?" I would say something like, "I wish I had more time to chat, but perhaps we can meet over coffee." See what he says.

Cut off contact and see what happens. If they love you, they will check on you. pay attention to where you are on their priority list. When are they spending time with you? When it's only convenient for them? To fulfill their needs only? Do you have similar goals? Does the person ever back out on plans? How often does this happen? What is the reason/excuse? Do you have something they want? Money? Luxury lifestyle? If you suspect it's your lifestyle/money the person wants, hold off on the spoiling to see if he/she sticks around.

That's what I'm wondering too

Well, why don't you ask yourself why it wouldn't be normal? Do ladies ever want it???? If you don't know the answer to this yourself, I certainly can't help you.

LOL This member sounds very immature to me.

100% invasion; clearly there are trust issues in this relationship. And.. why is he on a dating site???

Do you care about her cheating or your deceptive behavior of being on a dating site? Come on; it doesn't work like that. There is always a reason why people cheat. If you confront her, she'll know you went through her phone. There are problems here. Figure it out. Maybe she cheated on you because you can't be trusted. I don't know because you don't give enough information.

By the effort they're putting in. For example, how often do they text you? What do the texts say? How often are they trying to make plans with you? How often do they try to "accidentally" or coincidentally run into you? I.e, are they trying to monopolize your time?

As a lady, I look for kindness. A kind heart speaks volumes.

Why not? There's your answer

Be on time!

Meh, nothing complicate about this. Personal preference and experience.

Same reason anyone lies. Men lie too

I know you didn't want this answer, but it's only been one month! Do you realistically think overcoming something like this will occur in one month?? This is something you'll have to figure out on your own and expect the healing process to last more than one year. You also say LOL about being single. ?? I'm sorry to hear what happened, but.. come on. I think you're expectations are way too high and misguided.

WTF? Here is my answer-- what is okay for you is not always okay for others. It's your life, your choice how to live it.

Depends on the vibe we get and our experiences- have most been good, or bad. Maybe you're not they're type. Maybe they don't want to date. Maybe they're spoken for. Who knows? I can't tell you how to abate their fear since I don't know how you are approaching women. It could be the area since you don't appear to have a problematic history. Women tend to be more guarded in such places. Do you go out alone all the time? That can put off a "creepy" or questionable vibe. Unfortunately, I am always suspicious of ulterior motives. I know that not every man has ulterior motives, but at 46 and being single most of my life, I've just encountered so many negative interactions that yes, I'm really wary of men now.

This is true. Completely slipped my mind in my reply.

maybe, but you better pick one or leave them both while you get your head straight and figure out which one you can't live w/o. Don't string them along. It's cruel.

I agree. Phone contact, sexual contact,... ?

Go to a sugar mama site who will support a shallow man such as yourself. Did you ever wonder why the girls have limited mentality as you poorly put it? Hmmm, politically it could be oppression, or patriarchal societal norms. How is that their fault that they can't get wiser if they are expected to stay at home and are not allowed to participate in family and community decision-making. Why don't you make money and support a young lady's education?

LOL Good one!