Oh, I see. We are different that way. I can be friends with a lot of types and characters, short of evil or immoral. It's when I'm looking for a mate that all sorts of preferences really matter to me since he'd be a "keeper". I can tolerate all sorts of things from friends and acquaintances that I wouldn't tolerate with a mate.

You are confusing me a bit, Tessa. ou say yo uonly want friendship, so what does money, looks, sexy, intelligence, etc. have to do with your aim for just friendship?

Sharon, Andy wants you to IM him!!! Slick move there! Ya caught a fish!!

I was often intimidated if the men were handsome, same with the jock types. The rich ones, well, they hopefully still have soul and depth, so money isn't the thing that bothers me unless they are shallow, which also occurs in the most ironic people who shouldn't be.
I did meet one man who looked freaking hot in his photos. But he obviously had the photos airbrushed as he had acne and scars, and I realized he hid his body on purpose as he was...gately to say the least. So, for me, it wasn't about his looks, but that he'd deceived. But, the physical garbage is a lot like the lying in the profiles. Someone can say all they want that they are a certain way or looking for a relationship, but when you talk or meet, you find out they are just lying to get someone to like them or to get in the sack only.
I feel like if I put the real "me" out there, by pictures and words, I deserve the same respect. I know some people think they are who they are, but actually don't know themselves well or think too highly of themselves, or don't like who they are in reality and fudge with pics and words. Oh well! C'est la vie!

That's so wonderful!! May you two have the greatest, brightest future!!

Ooooooooooh that's more like it!! Bedlum, you are what I call gruffy hawt!!! LOL I feel SO MUCH BETTER NOW!!!

I perved ya, Chrissy, but.... I didn't get anything out of it. I need to perv a fellah!!!

You got a problem with MY community??? Welcome and best wishes!!!

As a gal looking at your profile, I have to say....

If I were still looking, I'd want more photos, for one thing.

And, I see your age. Are you just looking for a date or are you wanting a relationship? When I see a 41 y/o man looking to "date", my mind says you just want someone to hang with, no future. We all "date". You have to in order to find a relationship. But for me, in my 40's, I tired of "dating", (and have actually hopefully truly found my sweet baboo now!) Now, if you are REALLY only looking for a breezy date or two or three, sure, leave it as is. But if you are hoping to find that long term someone, change your deal to "looking for a relationship". It's just that more often than not, women my age seem to be looking for a relationship, a keeper, a future. Not all, but pretty much my experience in knowing other nice ladies in my age group. Got lots of guys around for dates, though.

Again, just my input......... Best wishes to you!

Kristy, (or is it Kristie), you are one of the nicest people on here and you are a hottie in your own right!
I found me a boring nice guy and I AM LOVING IT!! He's fabulous and actually far from boring. I hope this will be forever for me and I hope a forever guy for you!

Buck up and git 'er done, ya big woooos!!!

I've decided I'm moving in with you. I'm getting my sleeping bag and backpack of Hostess cupcakes right now!

Well, a newbie to posting is a newbie to me!! Welcome!!

Awwww Winx!! A gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do!!

Welcome and all that, chey

Still BUTT UGLY here, but found someone to tolerate it!! Yay!!
Hi to my fellow ug-budz!!!

I get tired of hearing that nice people are supposed to be boring. I'm far flung from being boring and have references to prove it!! I'm nice with spice!!
Anyway, really, what is boring is "not nice", self-centered, egotistical show offs and game players . It gets REALLY OLD, really fast!! And that's why those types of attractions fizzle so fast. Too much unnecessary, built-in drama that comes off like "B" movie material.

Welcome and best wishes!!

Awww Fear, so JADED!!!
I'm a nice person and it's not just hearsay!! LOL I think some make "nice" sound like "doormat" or butt-kisser and a self-proclaimed moniker to insinuate oneself onto others. "Nice" to me means not a jerk, not totally self-centered, reasonable, affable, moral, patient, kind-hearted, not a user or abuser, (although we all use each other with permission in relationships). Nice does not mean perfect or pliant. It's about giving others chances, AND OURSELVES. I've been too nice at times and gotten a boat load of abuse and hurt for it, but I stick to my guns and I honestly cannot help but be nice. Doesn't mean I'll put up with nefarious creeps or jerkoholics, though. And it doesn't mean I'm "nice" 100% of the time. One can only turn one's cheek so often, you know??

Wow! Mike, I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully she is safe and sound. Prayer done!

I stuck to reality and it's SO MUCH BETTER!!! Best wishes!!