No offense, but this is sheer nonsense.
I'm not on my phone all day long, nor do I check it all day long.
But the biggest error you make is that it only takes 10 seconds to reply.
It does not!
Unless you want a meaningless reply.
It takes a certain mindset to reply to someone you like.
When I'm at the cash register in the supermarket or walking round with my trolley I am not going to check my phone and most certainly not reply to someone on a dating app.
When I'm cycling home with my groceries I'd have to stop, open my jacket to get my phone out of my inner pocket, which is annoying as it's got velcro closing. Then read the message without my reading glasses.
By that time I'm really not chuffed as I got interrupted, I'm catching a cold as my coat is open. If it's raining or there's a strong wind my mood will go below 0.
The last thing in the world I'm in the mood for is reply to a man. Typing a message with 2 fingers, which always P me O as it's impractical, balancing my bicycle with shopping bag on it while I do that?
He can wait till I'm home, in the mood, nice and warm with a cup of coffee and behind the PC so I can type with 8 fingers.

The same goes when I'm cooking, on the loo, in the shower, busy painting, simply not in the mood, feeding my cats, making coffee, and so on and so forth.

You may me talking/dating but that doesn't mean I'm available at every beck & call.
Nor do I expect the other to be.

You've already answered your own question.
The answer being neither are necessarily a red flag and at the same time both could be.
You've also already explained why this is.

I may check it out (Shrinking) but I don't think it's my thing.

I gave Yellowstone another try yesterday but still not sure it's for me.
And I think it isn't so much Kevin Costner that doesn't work (for me) but most of the rest of the cast.
Including his series-son who is the main character in "Marshals", actor Luke Grimes.
I'll try another 1-2 episodes and see if the series gets intriguing or not.

But tonight I'm hoping to watch episode 3 of CIA :D

Thinking... hotdangit!!!
Now my thread "good action & thriller movies & series" does a post-disappearing act! Grrrr...
I wished someone could sort that chit out.

Well, I can tell you that both 1883 and 1923 are very well worth the time!
Excellent series. I just finished 1923.
And you know what the odd thing is... while both and I felt that someone Costner doesn't seem to work in a tv series, that argument doesn't go for Harrison Ford? (one of the main characters in 1923)
Don't know if that is because he's a better actor or because of the type of actor and/or the roles he played before?
But somehow it really works. He does an effing good job, so much so that it even makes you forget that he used to also be Indiana Jones.

I don't really care that much about big screens. To me it's more important that I can watch it without having to wait a week after each episode, hihi.

Still watching 1923, only 2 more episodes to go.
I like the show but it does remind me why I do not like drama. Because there's too much drama, hihi.
There's one main storyline and a couple smaller storylines are directly connected to that.
But then they throw so many spanners in the works that it can easily take an entire season to get from A to B.
That gets up my nose. I haven't the patience for that shizzel.

If Yellowstone is like that too it sure as heck isn't worth watching. I had thought of giving it another try after 1923 but not sure I can stomach more drama.

Feeling incredibly sleepy.
This series 1923 is way too captivating & addictive!
About to go to bed, half past 1 already. *YAWN*

Escapism isn't going to resolve anything, it will potentially only create more trouble.
Get a divorce.
And this thing for another woman is only because you crave love, affection, a gentle touch etc. A void that you long to have filled. But that isn't solving anything.
Going same-sex for that reason isn't fair on the other person either.
And what if your partner finds out? What will be the consequences?

Oh I think we're talking about a different series.
I thought you meant Beyond Paradise. That series has 3 seasons right now.

I liked Virgin River, wonderfully romantic, and it has David Cubitt in it who's so hotdanged attractive, hihi. But at some point I didn't like it anymore. Cannot remember why, been a couple of years. But somehow the storyline didn't work for me anymore. Didn't it shift from focus on romantic to focus on crime & violence with that group that Cubitt leads?

As for Yellowstone... I'm thinking the same thing, seeing Costner as a big screen actor.

Another thing is that many of those actors used to be attractive hot men, now they're old farts.
Like Harrison Ford in 1923, another prequel of Yellowstone. Not much Indiana Jones left in him now that he's in his 80s.
I find myself worrying he's going to break a hip when he gets on or off his horse, hihi.

Now watching episode 5 of 1923. It wasn't an easy one to get into either but it is getting quite good now. I do skip the bits where they beat up Indians. I really cannot stomach it.

I thought S03 was already out?
I started watching it with S02, liked that, then watched S01. Had some trouble getting into that, but in the end liked it too.
Somehow never got to S03 although I do believe it's been out for some time now.

Marshals... not too sure about it yet.
Wait for episode 3 to decide hihi.

Currently watching 1883, another Yellowstone spin-off.
I'd tried that one before, but it started with her killing Indians and I switched it off.
I know it's part of history, but makes me sick to the stomach.
Now I managed to get past that scene and must say it is actually really good!

Funny you also couldn't get into Yellowstone. I know it was very popular, I tried it, didn't do it for me either.

First 2 episodes of the Yellowstone spin-off "Marshals".
Not sure about it yet.

Lot of yapping that relates to the original series which I never watched. I did try an episode of it way back when, didn't like it.
I'll watch the 3rd episode of this spin-off when it's out.
Maybe it'll grow on me.

As it is I'm declaring it a finished painting :)
Since my last post I changed an awful lot! Like the pushed up sand, the hind legs and so on and so forth.

I'm thinking on a title now :)

Watching Get Smart as we speak.
Seen it before, I like it, and I was in the mood for something lighthearted and a good laugh :)

Not surprised. I gave it a try. Struggled through the first half hour of episode 1, already fed up and bored.
I don't like that cast, nor their acting. it feels very fake, plastic, doesn't come across as natural.
The settings are weird too.
This is the kind of thing you should leave to the English to produce, not Americans.

I really liked John Wick but the movies have so many scenes with flashing lights that I cannot watch them.

I wanted to say about the new series CIA...
I absolutely love it!
Finally something to watch again that's really worth your time.

I'd say... a proper name and a nice profile photo.

Agree with this. Very insightful.

The other day I wrote about love and the Year of the Fire Horse and in that I also mentioned what I read: that online dating is past its prime. People have grown tired of it, even though many still try to find love that way.
In the beginning people probably acted more as they would in real life encounters --> making a genuine effort.
Now it's all too easy, on top of that many people have nothing going for them in life so they're bored and trolling people on dating sites can be fun entertainment.

Big problem is that men don't bond as easily as women and online dating probably doesn't help with that. Another issue is that all men -unless they do something specific to reverse it- have way too low testosterone levels. Including young men and since it drops 1% every year older men have even less.
That means men's estrogen will go up et voila: you have the needy, whinging and demanding man that no woman wants to have by her side.
Men cannot bond either when their testosterone is low and estrogen high.
I believe this to big one of the biggest issues we're struggling with nowadays.

Women on the other hand side often are too much in their masculine due to decades of having to prove in society that they can do it themselves. Having to fight to get respect and equality.
Unfortunately that resulted in women with too high testosterone which then lowers her estrogen, making her too masculine.
She loses her femininity because of it, like men lose their masculinity because of too low testosterone levels.

Problem with this is that both genders have increased stress because of this. The body basically goes into fight flight freeze when our resp. hormones have gone noodle doodle.
And it poses a big problem with finding love.

Good news is that you can work on this and reverse it and it's not even all that difficult.
Bad news is that most don't even know any of this and thus don't do anything about it either.
As a result both men & women keep struggling to find love.

Almost done!
I changed the entire background. I wasn't happy with the way it was and I just couldn't get it right.
And once something annoys me...
Now I am happy with it!
It no longer distracts from the main subject: the cowboy and the horse yet has enough interest to make it work.
And the cowboy & horse have enough detail to fully carry the painting :)

What remains are details here and there. The dustcloud will partly go over the stones, just a bit.
Have to paint the saddle horn, hate doing these things. So difficult to get the angle of it right, grrr!
The bridle has been painting in but needs some highlights as you can't clearly see it now.
Stuff like that.

Oh yes, and a tail!

Oh yeah, I keep forgetting you're lagging behind, hahaha.
When I posted that it was around 11 over here.
You could catch up if you get on that plane and get your bum over here! With a can of maple syrup in your suitcase, hihi.

Finished with this last night :)
Still not done.