If you have no interest in a potential partner, then get a blow-up doll.
Aside from that, what you say is total nonsense. Men are interested in that. Men who are beyond the blow-up doll level and are seriously seeking a great partner that is.

Indeed not a contest but oftentimes you do see women around 40-50 being highly attractive. They've got a different aura than younger counterparts. They carry themselves differently. More confident, knowing what they need & want in life, what they stand for and more ease and inner strength. Maybe even more inner calm.
Often all the not so important drives from the past have fallen away (wanting to have a career, success, a family and so on). They either achieved it and/or realised there are more important things in life.

I can understand the appeal.

Question is:
what age are most addressing when they say 'old'?
Are they talking 40-50s? Or grandma age?

Old is a very relative broad term.
In the eyes of a 14 year old someone who's 28 is old.

How did you live without a coffee machine for a couple of weeks??!!

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Thinking... transitioning into wintertime went relatively easy this year

Thinking... I'm cold!
The storm winds have caused the temp to drop just a few degrees.
Yesterday it was just below 20C for the first time, same today.

It was the first time I needed the heating on during the day.

Not today though as I'm going away in a bit.

The site states under everyone's nickname when they joined.

I've been here on and of since 2013.

It doesn't always mean a lot.
I've stayed on here when I was in a relationship. Not because I was still looking but because I like the forums.

I'm not seeking a partner here either as people here aren't in my country.

I think that's the best thing to do, terminate contact with people who do not get the message.

I take it you didn't read my OP and/or didn't understand.
HE was the fussy one about a kitchen appliance, not me.
So your "Ladies don't forget to ask about their kitchen appliances" doesn't make any sense.

What could've made him more desirable is not being so fussy.
Being difficult about buying an air-fryer because you don't know it's good while it only costs about E70 isn't sexy. I mean, I got one and my income is much lower than his. It's not a major investment. You just read reviews online and go for it.

He was the same when wanting to buy a painting of me. He could easily afford it and really wanted it, but then still took 6 months to decide. Both times he bought a painting.
That kind of attitude isn't sexy.
Not to me anyways.

Good point, haha.
For me it only works if a man has a real good body and/or if I take an interest in him.

The latter isn't a must, I mean, when I see a man on the beach with a great body I sure as hell feast my eyes!

No idea. The only thing we've exchanged after this last encounter is saying we had a good time.
If he's going to suggest another visit at some point I will probably decline.
Because he clearly hopes for more and I absolutely don't.

No idea. I never asked, haha.

Agreed.
And I think he maybe intents to do just that: hanging in and wait for things to evolve regardless of the current situation.

He kept trying by the way. At least that's what I think it was:
Before leaving he had to change back into his biker clothes. Took him forever and he kept walking around in his boxers??
Me thinking, "WTF are you trying to achieve here?"
I think he was hoping I'd change my mind by walking around half naked? But if someone kind of tries to force something upon me, it puts me off even more than the original thought of being intimate with him did.
No matter what age, when a woman says "no" it still means "no" and doing what he did isn't respecting that.

Chemistry & connection is there or it isn't. You cannot forcefully create it.

Hahahaha, give it a shot. You never know, lol.

The full story was that he was initially going to come over with another man from the datingsite. They became bike-buddies.
They wanted to do a bike ride and visit me.

But the other one didn't come in the end as he has physical issues and the distance was too much for him.
And yes, he truly said that stuff about an airfryer.
I have no idea if he bought one in the end, never asked.

2 years ago I had a date with a man from a dating site.
That didn't work out at all, we both felt that way.
I kinda expected it upfront and we just didn't really click.

Nevertheless we occasionally stayed in touch. Not necessarily as friends but because he was interested in a couple of my paintings, over time bought two of them.
And I did a reading for him, paid for as well.

In any case, he wanted to visit me somewhere in August, just a friendly visit. He wanted to give food from an air-fryer a shot before buying one and I have one.
And he just liked to come & see me.
I consented.
But for me there's nothing more, I have no feelings for him.

Some time went by and then he said to visit again and go out to dinner.
So to me that's like "you made dinner last time, now I will return the favour."

Dinner was lovely, great food, conversation etc. also okay.
But he still isn't a good match concerning love for me.
Before we went to the restaurant he was fishing, said something in the vein that it was enough to like each other, that possibly more could come from that. Or that just liking each other was enough.
Well, not for me! And I made that clear as well.

I didn't give any sign that I was interested in more, or in sex.
Yet back at my place for a cup of coffee to end the day he suddenly asked if I wanted him to spend the night.
WTF???
NO!
It actually came out of the blue, took me by surprise.

Of course he didn't spend the night. He doesn't turn me on so even if I had wanted sex, it wouldn't have worked.

I've never believed in men & women being friends and I feel this proves my case.
There's always one who wants more. Unless one or both are gay.

I still don't know what made him think of asking that question.

Friday again! Doesn't time fly?!
Enjoy the weekend everyone!

The restaurant we went to turned out to be really good!
I had Zeeuws (Zealand's) fish-soup which was excellent.
Then I had tournedos with pepper-sauce. All meals are served with 2 types of salad (beetroot and cucumber) and french fries.

Yesterday at home I had hotchpotch with minced beef, still thinking about the lovely dinner I had the day before though, haha.

Not sure yet. I'm going out to dinner tonight with a man I've met via a dating-site. Just friends.
I'm thinking it's going to be a nice juicy steak. They've got fish stuff as well, but not in the mood for that.

Stolen Girl - 2025
Based on a true story.

A really good movie! And they managed to do it without turning it into a sob-story. Very well done.

Seriously??? The immune system is designed to work on unhealthy alien things it hasn't encountered before. And to recognise it if it comes in contact with it again.
That testing for any unhealthy substances is vast, even the mouth is part of it.

If it wouldn't work for things that it had never encountered before it would be useless.
If you were right, how do you think it would have gained the knowledge to recognise something as 'unhealthy'?
It's not like we're hooked up to a computer and the info is added. The body does that itself.
And it does that from scratch as when a baby is born is has to build up its immunity from almost 0.
Only a few things get passed during pregnancy.

I never get why people argue when they have no understanding of a subject, but alas.

I totally get that, but it wasn't meant as a joke nor meant to be condescending.

I happen to be on a dating site where the average age is too high for me, and that automatically means there are quite a lot of widow/ers.
What I hear from many of them is that they cannot really imagine ever loving another man/woman since they loved their spouse so much.
In essence they cannot love someone else as a partner.
Yet they do still long to have love, something to care for and so on.
Many if not all of them have a cat or a dog.