Yeah, this picture is WAY better than the drug test one. :D

That was a great show, definitely.

Very well written. It's always nice when someone can write a good paragraph or a few.

Regarding your pictures--I have always had a bit of an issue with people who post pictures of their kids on a social site, especially if the kids are little. A lot of social sites discourage this, and some of them will delete the pictures if there are kids in them.

I've seen a lot of other profiles on this site that have pics of kids in them and I have just sort of bit my tongue and not said anything but I really think it's a bad idea. Of course you're proud of your kids and you don't want to lie about being a single dad; there's nothing wrong with mentioning it, and you should definitely mention it if you are looking for dates. But the picture is another thing; various types of bad people ranging from scammers to pedos will home in on people who include pics of their kids in their social site profiles.

I mean: Cute kids, and great pictures. If you were a personal friend or family member, however, I would tell you not to include them. Wait until you get to know someone a bit. Nothin personal, and of course you don't have to take this advice.

Otherwise good luck, and nice to meet you! :)

That made me lol.

If the mind was a machine or organ that would be a valid point--however, it is not. In what part of the body, or in what location in physical space, does "mind" reside?

I tend to make a division between "brain" (the mechanism) and "mind" (the thing that is fed into and perhaps drives the mechanism, and also is produced or enhanced by it--like the corn that goes into the still, and the whiskey that comes out; they are the same thing but in changed form, if you see what I'm sayin).

If the brain is damaged, does the mind no longer exist? Do creatures with smaller and less complex brains have a mind?

If there is no way we can be absolutely sure of the answers to these, then I would say that differentiating between the mechanism and thing processed by the mechanism is valid.

I wouldn't say that calling a particular process of thought "subconscious" is a huge error; it's just a more primitive way (again IN MY OPINION! LOL!) of perceiving the process. I mean, people spend thousands of dollars and years learning about these terms, and I realize that for some jerk like me to come along and call them invalid is going to be upsetting, but you did ask! And I offered my opinion in a candid way.

Physics used to suppose that gravity was the most important force in the universe, and that gravity caused all things to move and stay put, etc. Mr. Einstein made a number of interesting observations about gravity that sort of shook that idea up, but didn't completely destroy it. Physicists now are aware that gravity is a bit player in the "forces of the universe" scenario, and that there are different types of gravity, and so on.

I think the same can be said of the forces in our own private universes, i.e., our bodies and our minds. The term "subconscious" is a handy term but is misleading and incomplete in light of further knowledge. xoxoxo

I usually wear my juggalette face paint all day on Halloween (as opposed to only in the evening as I do most other days).

I'm kinda not getting what you're saying here. Are you saying you were having a hot and heavy sexual relationship and then he started to lose interest? Are you saying that you made out a few times and even though he still wants to hang out, he doesn't want to make out anymore? How long have you known him?

From what you have posted here, I can't really assume that there was any sex going on BEFORE he started to act like he was losing interest.

If you just kissed a few times and that was it, and he still wants to hang out, but he doesn't want to kiss anymore and he doesn't seem interested, then: Don't blame yourself. He's probably either not very sexual, or not very sexually interested in females, as has already been suggested.

If you had a sexual relationship and he acts like he has lost interest, then he's probably getting it somewhere else, or maybe it's because you wouldn't put on the red fishnet stockings that one time he asked.

I REALLY DOUBT if talking to him is going to fix the situation, and you very well may end up hearing something you didn't really want to hear. If he went so far as to kiss you and you weren't like vomiting, making "yuck" faces, or pushing him away, and he didn't want to do anything else, then his problem ISN'T shyness. I mean: Do you really want to find out that he used to be a girl? That he only becomes aroused in the presence of large dead octopi? That you don't look enough like his mom? I wouldn't!

If it was me, I would weigh the options of having him as a sort of male girlfriend (i.e., someone to hang out with and talk to) versus scrapping what seems like a lost cause, thereby clearing off my social calendar for a better prospect.

If you meet a guy that really likes what you have to offer, are you gonna want this other dude around at that point? If the answer to that is some version of "no" then get rid of him. You don't have to explain--he's insulted you already by not at least making a grab for your titty while you were macking.

I hope this was helpful. Good luck! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

I realize that you weren't looking for advice. I was using the editorial "you" and not talking to you personally. xoxo

It doesn't bother me. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Nice to meet you. :)

You may have joined the site before I did but: Hello! :)

(green sweater)

The heavy cable knit of spruce
Sags and is frayed, and makes me seem gaunt-eyed and loose.

The tank set of olive bugs me to this day
Because I accidently gave the jacket part away.

The lime one with those shiny gold things
I keep because it matches that one pair of earrings.

The tunic that's the color of new birch leaves--
I can't see it in the mirror without being pleased.

next topic: Iron Maiden

Ok, this topic has gone on to many pages and I don't have time to read all the replies. It also seems to have turned into some sort of debate about something besides single moms getting dates, and I also do not have the time or inclination to deal with that.

If this has already been asked, I beg everyone's pardon; I am answering the OP's question:

If a guy told you he dated single mothers exclusively, would you trust him?

That's all for now. I hope everybody has a nice day. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

The text is good, but.. is that apple juice, or are you waiting to turn in your drug test, or...? (Didn't they like give you a little paper bag to put that in?) In the other picture it's like: Jaw and torso in a polo shirt.

I see that you are a student. Good luck to you! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

I think:

A) You're cute, and--
B) Good picture.

yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Dude, you already posted a "rate me" profile--why don't you just go back and bump your other topic instead of starting a new one...?

Zero from me for annoyance factor. Oh, ok: 1.5. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Pandora (dot) com. It has everything! You can make your own playlists and share your stations with other users.

My stations are Iggy Pop Radio (punk rock and industrial) and Fryderyk Chopin Radio (classical, mostly Chopin). Helmut's station that I share with him is Batsh!t Motherf!cker Radio (mostly death metal). I'm listening to "Before Aeons Came" by Behemoth while I'm typing these words! :)

Anyway, I hope that helps. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Well, first: I've never really been on what I would consider a date. (In case you are interested, to me a "date" is a meeting with a person that I have not already shagged for the express purpose of determining whether that person and I could reasonably entertain ideas of a relationship... er, or shagging.) I might have been on something like a date once in my life, when a neighbor that had moved in across the street asked me out to dinner and even though I didn't know him, I went--but I had already decided on the "shag/not shag" question BEFORE I accepted the dinner invitation, so to my mind it wasn't really a "date" since there was like absolutely NO WAY.

Anyway: As far as getting someone I'm interested in to like me... well, I don't think it really is a "compromise" per se if I learn more about that person's particular interests and history just so I will have a better chance of him thinking that I'm really cool, and run less of a risk of offending him.

I won't, however, pretend to be a different person just to impress someone. That seems crazy to me. I won't, for example, run out and buy all new clothes just to make a guy notice me. I won't try to act or look "more conservative" or "more retro" or "more motherly" or "more bikerly" just for another person--if I was to do any of those things, it would only be for my own (temporary, short-lived) amusement, right?

Chances are very slim that I would ever actually want to go on a date with someone I felt like I had to impress or front to anyway. I mean, you can only keep up an act for so long! If you went out and bought more conservative clothes and got a more conservative hairstyle to try to impress someone you liked, and your act SUCCEEDED (second date, third date, whatever happens after that like I know yeah right, and so on, up to talk about moving in I guess? or whatever?)--what happens after that? Wouldn't it be kinda... stressful?

It might be fun to pretend to be a totally different person at a party, or in a strange town, but when we're talking months or years, then: No, just no! (lol!)

I hope this was helpful. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

If I have money: Heineken.

If I'm on a budget (in no particular order): Miller High Life (or "Miller Low Life" as we fondly call it), Pabst Blue Ribbon, Miller Genuine Draft, Modelo Especial (they must put heroin in that stuff; once I start drinkin it, I CAN'T STOP! LOL), Dos Equis, Foster's Lager (I wish I had some right now), and (only if the only other beer available is Budweiser) Coors.

I will only drink Budweiser if it is like the absolute only choice of beer and there is no wine. yours in Chaos, Scarlett

It doesn't say that anywhere in the bible. The early Christians gave witness to Christ's teachings and performed miracles because they were being persecuted by the Romans; it was a defensive sort of strategy, in other words.

Try not to blame Jesus for the excesses and foolishness of the organised religions that grew up around his teachings. If you read the bible as it pertains to Christianity, you'll see that Jesus wasn't at all trying to mass market his ideas. yours in Chaos, Scarlett