I can only go by how you have chosen to phrase what you read, since you did not tell us where to find the article itself.

Going by what you said, there are mistakes.

* most people don't actually set conditions, as you imply (or the article implies). It's more accurate to say that they discover that they have boundaries, and as they discover them, and try to explain them verbally, they SOUND like "conditions."

* Calling someone "closed minded" is often related to the above. Too often, it is an attempt at manipulation, not an attempt to help. It's not being "closed minded" if you know yourself, and know your boundaries and tastes. And it's not "open minded" if you give someone who you actually don't like, the impression that they have a chance with you.

* The thing about not being "open to love and be loved," is a okay observation. Lots of us think we are "ready" in that way, when we are actually not. That isn't usually something that people can just DECIDE TO BE, however. So it's not at all helpful in an article titled "how to find the real love."

* "they don't forget their past" is also not a helpful observation. No one should FORGET their past. They need to learn from it, and understand it, and integrate it's lessons into their current day lives. What they probably meant was, that some people try to make the people they meet now, pat them back for how they were mistreated in the past. That's a matter of self-awareness. You do need to know WHY you make all the choices you make, if you are going to build anything real and true.

* " they don't trust anyone." Again, an important thing to deal with, but stated this way, it doesn't help at all. Trust is NOT something a person can just up and decide to do, especially when intimate emotional things are concerned. Trust that has been lost, or has been damaged by fear, can only be rebuilt from within each person, and it isn't recovered by having someone tell you "you need to TRUST more!" If anything, that sort of action makes things worse.

* "difficulty to take/make decisions." Another true OBSERVATION of what is often true of people who are struggling to find a mate, but yet again, not something that anyone can ACT on. The reason why someone has trouble deciding, is again directly connected to how well they know themselves, and understand what they have been through in their lives. It's like Trust, in that way.

* "low self-esteem." Another often true observation, but again, no one can just up and decide to HAVE self esteem. If they don't have it, they have a lot of work to do, and perhaps could benefit from therapy. But it's not something to list as being a poor dating choice that they have made.

Erm... the only one who personalizes here is you and not the first time you do this to me. If you can't treat another and their view with respect, then don't reply.

I take it you do know that the word "you" can mean you directly, as in you, Jazzinc, but also "you" as in general?
In any case I do not like to get your patronizing replies time and again. Everyone is free to respond on these forums, and I do so from what I've learnt.
If you feel personally attacked, grow thicker skin. That's what a mod told me when I first got here. I wasn't even addressing you.

If you yourself don't have any of these problems, you simply focus on finding someone else who doesn't.

For the ones who do have those problems, it's their path and theirs to sort out. Some do, some don't.

I let go of being negative about so many ppl being like that and focused solely on what I was like and what I needed from a partner / relationship.
It's basically a matter of shifting your focus. Then I started attracting men who weren't in those problem areas anymore.
Focusing on so many ppl having these issues doesn't help, it keeps your focus on the negative.
And yes, it is true, but how does zooming in on that help you find love? It doesn't.

When I get myself into a relationship, I am sure serious with the commitment I make ... Afraid ? Yes maybe, but I would need my partner's assurance that he'll be there when I feel afraid and not think of my fear as a weakness, but rather be there for the two of us, be a weakness and a strength for each other. I can face everything when I have him by my side ....no need for 2 cups I can share mine with him.... I'm ok with the single bed , we can be comfortable locked in each others arms....

Stand-up comedian Michael McIntyre did a sketch on Morning Breath... Wondering how on earth you can wake up with that after he went to bed with brushed teeth, flossed and all.

So I think a delicious hot kiss might not be so delicious, unless you get up and brush your teeth first OR have that cup of coffee...