ok, that was an exaggerated illustration, but i have one that is more accurate.
why is it that during the miss america pageant the Q&A is done during the evening wear section and not the swimsuit section? bottom line, nobody is going to be paying attention to what the women are saying while they're running around half naked.
and it would seem that the women who think that men should have no sexual desire for them and should be listening to what they're saying when they're sitting there with their breasts half hanging out of their tops would expect a man to not have any sexual interest until the bedroom. they would expect a man to turn their desire off and on. it can be done, but it's usually the women who do that for us and often through what they say or what they wear.
women and men are wired differently in what creates arousal for them.

i never said that i want my women to dress modestly. i said that if a woman wants a man to take her seriously and appreciate her for her brains she should hold off on the revealing clothing.


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yes, because i'm the only man notices such things. which must mean that all of the women who wear revealing clothing are doing so just for me and just to distract me. and all of the cliche jokes which point out this phenomenon in the countless hollywood movies are only about me and have nothing to do with any other man having a problem focusing around scantily clad women.
most men experience this and any woman who believes that a man is paying attention to her words while half of her bosom is showing is incredibly naive. unless she's talking to a homosexual man who has no interest in her breasts.
i wish women would stop assuming that men have no sexual interest in a woman until she's fully undressed in the bedroom. our minds go there almost initially so why feed that imagery by wearing something revealing.

who would you take more seriously, a woman in a bikini speaking intelligently to a graduating class or a woman in a business suit doing the same? if they're speaking the same message it shouldn't matter right? but who is more credible?
if you want a man to acknowledge you for your mind don't do something that will draw his attention away from it.


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i feel that way about women in person. women tell us to not look and to get to know them based on what they have between their ears, but then they wear clothes that draw our attention from that which they want us to focus. from what i've seen, they're always compensating for something (ie. being dumb or "heavy" or having 15 kids at home baby sitting one another).
IMO a single woman who wants to be taken seriously by potential suitors should dress more modestly so that she'll have better chances of finding men who'll take the time to get to know her and not just try to sleep with her.
after she finds a man she can dress more sexy. he's a man, he'll still appreciate it.

as for men with their shirts off, if they've got the body that's their prerogative. i'm not looking at them. if i had the body i'd want to show it off. of course for me it would be a symbol of my overcoming my weight struggles.


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power on the ps3 by holding down the power button until it beeps a few times (this is the same as forcing it to power down when it hangs)

this method should reset the video settings to the factory defaults



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wow, i can't believe this works.


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i read your profile.
older women are more forgiving of men being over weight than younger girls are. (generalization-not all older women, but a higher percentage than ones your own age)
the question is, do you like the way you look? are you happy with your own physical appearance? if not, do something to change.
i ask these questions because you remind me of me 13 years ago. if you think you're ugly, women might suggest otherwise but will rarely take any action to prove otherwise (ie. date you, sleep with you). you'll always be the friend, but rarely the boyfriend.
when women are asked what they look for in a man, 90% of them will put confidence somewhere in their top 3. unfortunately, while people will tell you to be more confident, almost none of them will explain to you how to be more confident. confidence comes from within. it's your own measure of success and accomplishment and can also be combined with your outlook on a situation. you have to decide what it is you're proud of and what your accomplishments are. also, success should never be measured against someone else's accomplishments. it should be measured by your own goals and whether or not you've surpassed them. if you measure yourself against someone else you base your worth on them, but in reality you are not them. you haven't lived their life and they haven't lived yours. set your own goals and strive to achieve them. don't worry about how they compare to someone else, they're your goals not theirs.
women also like guys that are motivated to succeed. i hope you have plans on being more than a truck stop cashier. that is a dead end job, and only the drunk chicks with non-working, loser boyfriends and no self esteem will find that an asset.

as far as the crazy women, i've found (and i'm sure i'll catch hell for this) that most of them are flat out nuts. IMO
you'll just have to avoid the ones that should be in padded rooms.


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i assumed that the girl i was sleeping with was only sleeping with me. it was definitely a problem for me when i found out otherwise.


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actually, i took them as before shots. i'm starting a new workout monday and needed a reference from which to gauge my progress. even so, i was incredibly uncomfortable taking them and then seeing them. i know i'm overweight, i just didn't realize how much it shows.


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i'm starting a workout monday. went shopping tonight for healthier stuff. bought some turkey brats and taco seasoned ground turkey. not sure how they're going to taste, but i've had turkey burgers and they're alright. we'll see.
also bought some fruit and stuff. should've waited now i have a bunch of bananas and pears to eat before they go bad.


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i took some pic's of myself without a shirt on today.
it was not pleasant. i wouldn't post those for anybody to see.


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have you been spying on me? where did you hide that camera?
where's a man supposed to put his hands when they get cold?
can't be too broke if drinking beer and eating pizza every night, that shiz expensive.


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hope is unnecessary for existence



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so what i get from this, and maybe it's because tonight my roommate pointed out to me what a miserable p.o.s. i am, is that if you're not healthy, wealthy, and in shape women will hide from you.

good to know that i have nothing going for me.
and people wonder why i'm a miserable p.o.s.


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i hear yeah. i went by train to Minsk, Belarus via Warsaw, Poland. definitely outside my comfort zone, but it felt good to feel that kind of awkward. there were some areas though that made me feel like i could end up on a milk carton or something.


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i've been single my whole life with the exception of a few months here or there and more than a decade in between.

i used to have friends that criticized me for it or questioned my sexual orientation. i eventually just discarded my friends.

my roommate still gives me crap now and then about the fact that i don't date and don't try to date. i have a female friend who wishes i would find someone but only because she thinks i'm a great guy and that there's some girl out there who's missing out.

it's not like i'm not looking, i just have issues.

basically, all you can do is live your life in a way in which you are comfortable. if your friends don't find it acceptable, they don't have to live it.


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this is actually really easy

the woman firmly grasps something that is mounted in place(can not move)
the man then approaches and enters from behind firmly grasping the woman's hips as he thrusts and retracts

both parties will have to rely on strong arm muscles to steady themselves

now if someone were smart enough to make the floors of a iron based material, then someone could wear magnetic shoes and they'd be able to use their legs to steady themselves instead of their arms.

of course this is just theory and i'd need someone to go into space and test this theory with me.


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depends on how it was said.

either your friend doesn't like some way you act while single and has grown tired
or
your friend is wanting what is best for you and they feel that means you need someone to complete your life


even when people mean well sometimes they can be overbearing
depending on the feeling behind what was said, you could either accept it as well wishing or be put off by the criticism.


in either case, just remember that there are always russian women looking for western men.

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basically.


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things to try in order from first to last:

run a defrag

increase your virtual memory size

use a wired internet connection if possible, but it shouldn't matter - even the slowest wireless lan connection should be faster than your wan connection

buy more ram



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i agree. i'm fat. i don't like it when someone tells me i'm fat, but someone telling me i'm large or heavy isn't any better. it means the same thing. social convention just doesn't allow me to punch them in the face when they use a politically correct term.


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