It surprises me, that even my friend who knows me for ages, just basically tells me that "you really need to hurry up and just pick someone and stick with her".

It's kinda like someone just pushing me against someone and saying "there, now kiss her, marry her and be happy and that's an order!".

I mean.WTF?

Why do people tell others what to do, I never told anyone who to like or not like, let alone becoming a marriage counselor of them. It's their business and frankly, I don't care. I always draw the line how far I would ever get into others' private lives.
Aren't they supposed to respect my private life, or are they worried about me or what in the world is going on?

depends on how it was said.

either your friend doesn't like some way you act while single and has grown tired
or
your friend is wanting what is best for you and they feel that means you need someone to complete your life


even when people mean well sometimes they can be overbearing
depending on the feeling behind what was said, you could either accept it as well wishing or be put off by the criticism.


in either case, just remember that there are always russian women looking for western men.

. . .

it is a pie tasting contest. just impossible to decide.
everything tastes great! only thing you can do is keep on tasting
until you make up your mind.

it's a tough job but somebody has to do it!

picky picky....tsk tsk...settle settle

Oh...."NO NO"

It's not like I've been single my whole life, I had g/f-s for 4-5 years so I'm not much different really. Only the last 3 years I only had a few months with someone, but he started doing this just now. Like I got a timer on my back or something.

Well, you aren't getting any younger ya know? I hate it when others think they know what's best for me!! I know what I want out of life & won't settle for less!!

i've been single my whole life with the exception of a few months here or there and more than a decade in between.

i used to have friends that criticized me for it or questioned my sexual orientation. i eventually just discarded my friends.

my roommate still gives me crap now and then about the fact that i don't date and don't try to date. i have a female friend who wishes i would find someone but only because she thinks i'm a great guy and that there's some girl out there who's missing out.

it's not like i'm not looking, i just have issues.

basically, all you can do is live your life in a way in which you are comfortable. if your friends don't find it acceptable, they don't have to live it.


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well actually this kinda goes with what I was thinking - maybe Atlantis your friend is worried about any issues you might have concerning women and your well being and had chosen a misguided (male) way of showing it. Even tho' ur right it's none of his business

I know I have issues too - after a hellish divorce w/ a very unthinking ex (as in I moved and left no forwarding...)and a couple of boyfriends who repeatedly either lied or were unfaithful or both....ya I have issues and am trying to be careful to find someone with more character and Ima little gun shy - who wouldn't be - tired of being used and don't want it to happen again

so ya if issues slow u down a little there are prolly reasons and it's prolly good to move slow - I know for me - if I could find a guy who didn't lie (like right to my face) that would be a great start

Just have fun dating until u meet someone.banana: : Life is to short for anything else.

I wouldn't take this too hard! Sounds like your friend just wants to see you happy Atlantis! Some of my friends have been pushing me to date since I got rid of the ex last year. They know me, how much I enjoy having someone to be sweet on, and want to see me be happy and complete in life. I needed to heal before I could think about it & get closure with the ex hubby that had gone unresolved for years! Now I am free, mostly healed, and genuinely happy, but still not quite ready for the dating game! I'll know what I want when I come across it so until then...happy being me. My friends still love me anyhow! One of my bffs actually told me to be a cougar for a while and get some notches in the bedpost...that is absolutely not going to happen!

Need more information...like what exactly was the conrversation and what were you doing at the time.
What your friend said can be taken a lot of different ways

Regardless of what everyone in your life says, you'll date the right one when you find
her. It doesn't matter if you have issues or not from past experiences cause the right person will be able to deal and cope with those issues.

People can't just be happy with what they have, they have to interfere in someone else's life.

Take it one day at a time.No need to rush.When it is meant to be, it will happen.


Can I lick your beard?

It's called advice, that's what friends are for! To tell you to do the things that they think are the best for you.

Advice works once, twice, MAYBE 3 times for some. Otherwise it becomes tedious, nagging, irritating and ignored.

Most folks professing to give advice usually have problems at home they are ignoring.

exactly, what do they care anyways, if youre happy or miserable how is that going to affect their love life???? WTF. Take your time. Some people go from one relationship to the next while others scatter theirs out. Some poeple like to date a lot of different people and find the best mate while others dive right into long term relationships. You know what you want and you shouldnt have to settle based on some time frame issued by other people.

Humm guess those that really know me know it will happen when it happens if it don't then ohhh well. I'm good either way.....

Actually my family and friends don't ask that question regarding that subject...

Some people believe you're "supposed" to be with someone, some people believe in predestined "soulmates," whatever....

I don't believe in any of it. If I ever find anyone who's better for me than being alone, I'll probably die of shock.

Don't let anybody push you into anything....

That's funny. But what you are hearing from your friend is his own personal attitude. That is how HE feels and thinks. You don't have to take it personal. I have seen other men who think like that too. They think that they better pick one now before that middle age gut kicks in and they don't have as much going for them.

What you have is an incentive to stay healthy, get wealthy, stay in shape and focus on YOU. When you do that, women will come out of the wood works and throw their panties at you.

Trust me on this.

Since I'm a nice guy (really I am) I won't tell my friend what I think of him right into his face and as I said, I treat it as his own business, but I think you are correct. He is of course telling me right into my face all the time what he thinks of me, but that's him, not me. I am not like him.

He is 6 years older than me, had a divorce and now having another wife with one kid. He is 41 and suddenly he has developed this new attitude.
Just because he would never get on mingle2 anyway, plus he isn't my "best" friend anyway, I will state my opinion, that somehow he thinks he can walk in my shoes somehow and re-live his 30s or something. Plus he got a new bad attitude that even others noticed lately. If you ask me, I'm not sure if he is really happy, but again, that's just my own opinion and I don't know his personal affairs, because that's not my business. I also noticed he is jealous. Somehow jealous that I'm not 40 yet neither married or similar.