Okay.... here is the scenario:

I started chatting with a guy, a few years younger than myself. We were on messenger on Monday and he wanted to meet that night. He got a bit persistent, and I was tired, it was 8:00 and I said, no, I want to do it right. We agreed on Thursday, but that day I had to leave early for a dental appointment.

I heard nothing about the date Tuesday or Wednesday, and so nothing was set up. I ended up getting a filling and so I wasn't online that night, as I was in pain.

I logged in today to find an e-mail he sent late Thursday afternoon about getting together. It seemed as though he expected me to be sitting around my computer waiting for him to pop in and ask me out. I am of the opinion my saying 'I want to do it right' did not effectively come across as 'you need to make plans'. I did not want to seem rigid, but really. I think that even for meeting just for a coffee or drink you should be courteous and set it up at least the day before.

Am I expecting too much? (Oh, and I offered up my number on Monday and he said he was not really a phone person)

Okay.... here is the scenario:

I started chatting with a guy, a few years younger than myself. We were on messenger on Monday and he wanted to meet that night. He got a bit persistent, and I was tired, it was 8:00 and I said, no, I want to do it right. We agreed on Thursday, but that day I had to leave early for a dental appointment.

I heard nothing about the date Tuesday or Wednesday, and so nothing was set up. I ended up getting a filling and so I wasn't online that night, as I was in pain.

I logged in today to find an e-mail he sent late Thursday afternoon about getting together. It seemed as though he expected me to be sitting around my computer waiting for him to pop in and ask me out. I am of the opinion my saying 'I want to do it right' did not effectively come across as 'you need to make plans'. I did not want to seem rigid, but really. I think that even for meeting just for a coffee or drink you should be courteous and set it up at least the day before.

Am I expecting too much? (Oh, and I offered up my number on Monday and he said he was not really a phone person)

i will go out with you

Okay.... here is the scenario:

I started chatting with a guy, a few years younger than myself. We were on messenger on Monday and he wanted to meet that night. He got a bit persistent, and I was tired, it was 8:00 and I said, no, I want to do it right. We agreed on Thursday, but that day I had to leave early for a dental appointment.

I heard nothing about the date Tuesday or Wednesday, and so nothing was set up. I ended up getting a filling and so I wasn't online that night, as I was in pain.

I logged in today to find an e-mail he sent late Thursday afternoon about getting together. It seemed as though he expected me to be sitting around my computer waiting for him to pop in and ask me out. I am of the opinion my saying 'I want to do it right' did not effectively come across as 'you need to make plans'. I did not want to seem rigid, but really. I think that even for meeting just for a coffee or drink you should be courteous and set it up at least the day before.

Am I expecting too much? (Oh, and I offered up my number on Monday and he said he was not really a phone person)

maybe he has a bad lisp or something. i say give him one more chance.

maybe he has a bad lisp or something. i say give him one more chance.

Chris, I thought you had a gf now

It was not that he refused my number, he just admitted he was not really a phone person. My point was that if he was so into meeting right away, why would he wait until the last minute on Thursday?

Okay.... here is the scenario:

I started chatting with a guy, a few years younger than myself. We were on messenger on Monday and he wanted to meet that night. He got a bit persistent, and I was tired, it was 8:00 and I said, no, I want to do it right. We agreed on Thursday, but that day I had to leave early for a dental appointment.

I heard nothing about the date Tuesday or Wednesday, and so nothing was set up. I ended up getting a filling and so I wasn't online that night, as I was in pain.

I logged in today to find an e-mail he sent late Thursday afternoon about getting together. It seemed as though he expected me to be sitting around my computer waiting for him to pop in and ask me out. I am of the opinion my saying 'I want to do it right' did not effectively come across as 'you need to make plans'. I did not want to seem rigid, but really. I think that even for meeting just for a coffee or drink you should be courteous and set it up at least the day before.

Am I expecting too much? (Oh, and I offered up my number on Monday and he said he was not really a phone person)

Sounds to me like you handled everything reasonably.

I would be more concerned with his persistence of Monday -- that's not a good sign -- and the apparent single-mindedness he has displayed about the meeting, and his lack of consideration for what's happening in your own life, what you might have to deal with on any given day.

Rushing things is generally not a great idea, in my experience....