do they work? have you subscribed with a site
that was successful with finding friends?

i am looking at to increase my networks but i am just wondering what others think? thanks.

I'm having absolutely no luck here, so maybe.

I've tried the paid sites and don't care for them...all I ever got was spam

Why pay- when you can get it free?
Dating sites that is.

Once, it was a mistake. Not that many women were on it.

I tried a paid site, it billed me for 4 months after I cancelled, then they refused to refund my money, because they said I logged in, uh, duh, trying to cancel the account!

Send me a small fee of 100.00$ USD and I will find you love.

Never paid. But throughout the trial they were jokes. Hense why I never paid. Most of the women on there were either fake *like robots* or fake in general lol.

I tried some soon after my divorce. Those sites just rip you off. The ratio between men an women is 25-1 at least. Don't believe their advertisements at all.

Tried it once and the problem that i had was that the people didnt match my personality at all. Im very much a free spirit and sometimes i dunno i can be a bit random and silly. I know when to be serious and have a job car my own apt ect. but it seemed that the people on paid sites are to out of my league lol. Maybe its just me...but those people have no personality it seemed!

Photos help.

I've tired one or more on free basic before they billed me and I just got some women from out side of the u.s that wanted to hook up or move in. But then what really came down to it is they really wanted money.. gold diggers lol.

Some sites may work better then others but one never knows until you try them all..

I have had relative success here as well as paid ones
After divorce I went to one (not advertising it is AGAINST THE RULES) and ended up with one lady lasted six months one day she said you don't have the resources to be with me and went funny enough she was on the phone yesterday feeling the waters to see if she can come back
Here rate of success has been better and the quality is far higher though you get sheep and goat mixed and need to sift through to get to the good ones I am not a complainer and I think my sense of humour helps a lot . The youngest has been about 28 the oldest about 57 and other than 3 or 4 bad experiences the rest have been superb
Trouble is I am just looking for friends and soulmate has to wait. As far as friendship goes No Complains

I have been on 12 different paid sites. Dont go there!!!! not worth the headaches.

I could never be off that bad to want to pay for a dating site. Though I have thought of it, it seems there are quite a bit of attractive birds there. But for me personally, it is just one step before I end up paying for sex or for an escort to accompany me at a family get together so they don't assume that me being single has anything to do with being a homosexual. ON the other hand, there are nice local ladies here, but we do not mix. I should travel more.


If you do go to a pay site however, let us know how that works out for you and also best of luck.



I would be afraid of a company started by some dude over seas who hires call girls to make profiles on there and talk to lonely guys for a piece of the pie ($$$$$$).

Frankly I have done a few of the paid dating sites, not always looking for a mate, usually to communicate with the 'outside' world or just talk about my business. I'm a computer geek so I am online 24n7. I wish I had known about this site long ago. The caliber of people here far exceeds those on sites I paid for.

You get regular folks but there are serial daters, also men who copy and paste the same message to several women(you can tell) and there is now an organized crime ring of dating scammers (usually from Ghana or Nigeria) who join and frequent those sites, then there are those who want to get right down to business and take care of your needs and are very explicit about it.

The difference at JSH is the admins have set up rules of engagement with mutual respect and this site is monitored and folks here respect that and abide by the rules. Wow mutual respect, what a concept.

If you're really curious most paid sites have a trial period and will reimburse you. The last paid site I tried was eHarmony and when I read the forums 3 or 4 women were talking about meeting the exact same dating scammer as one of their matches. What a disappointment. You are not free to see or email anyone you wish to it is very controlled (guided) and they send you your matches who are the only ones you can correspond with. If they do not respond back you have no communication. I would not recommend any paid site over Justsayhi.

I think you are nice and I am a free spirit too and most of the matches the datings found for me didn't appeal to me at all. Trust me, it is not YOU!! Be who you are because those that cannot appreciate you for that... don't deserve you anyway!

why pay when we can get nowhere here for free?

I could not have said that better myself

I tried one for 3 months in 2006. While it's true I was contacted by a lot of people (174, to be exact) on that site, it was clear that only 3 or 4 ever bothered to read my profile.

The typical e-mail would be from someone two miles away, saying, "Hey, my friends and I are going to [insert name of local bar here] tonight, why don't you come meet us there, you sound interesting."

First of all, if they had read my profile, they would have realized that a.) I don't drink, b.) I don't go to bars, and c.) I am not interesting.

And talk about whackjobs....!! All over the place. I mean, every dating site is full of whackjobs but at least ours here are more fun to talk to.