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Topic: Love Without Marriage
CaptainSpaz's photo
Sun 08/03/08 03:44 AM
To quote Gene Simmons - marriage is the worst business decision any man can make.

While that's not my personal belief (at least maybe not now) I have been told by many other fellow guys not to ever marry. I know why many people are against it nowadays, I'm just curious as to how many other people out there aren't looking to stand in front of the altar as supposedly the number of couples living together and not married has been increasing over the years. And even upon having children they all live under one roof as a happy family just without wedding rings or photos.

¿So anyone else looking for that special someone to spend their life with just not in holy matrimony?

spock

msjkk2020's photo
Sun 08/03/08 03:50 AM
Yep...now good nightwaving

Down2earthdebbie's photo
Sun 08/03/08 03:52 AM
Yes these days if you get Married then you stand a chance to loose everything you have! I don't blame people for feeling that way. I believe that true love may come into your life maybe once! If you can have everything in the world with that person then yes you should get Married! Too many people just rush inyo it tho..........& we all make mistakes in life! noway

scoundrel's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:04 AM
Tendencies of the marital sort have changed over the years. With the changes are opportunities to express love and devotion in ways that are good for the family. A family can be drawn from several parents and partners, and the benefits can accrue from several sources.
This topic should interest the men who are going to earn their place in an the household of a single mother. The change of marital status may effect existing financial arrangements, and thus the formality of a marriage could detract from the best interests of the children. Such matters should be discussed at the outset of a serious relationship, IMO.
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wmb07's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:06 AM
Edited by wmb07 on Sun 08/03/08 04:09 AM
I was married once for 7 years, and have no desire to do it again. One of the biggest reasons is that I think weddings have become too 'big business' - it is a multi-billion dollar industry - and marriage no longer represents what it did, even 50 years ago.

So, yes, I would like to meet someone to be my life partner. Marriage, not necessarily (I know better then to say never, life is always full of surprises).

EtherealEmbers's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:16 AM
I don't care what people that like to rain on other people's parades say... I still can't wait to be married someday flowerforyou

CaptainSpaz's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:23 AM

I don't care what people that like to rain on other people's parades say... I still can't wait to be married someday flowerforyou


¿You don't fear the possibility of a divorce?

Sluggo's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:36 AM
For most women there is less to "Worry" about in the case of a divorce since they're going to get Alimony and possible Child support

briancarr's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:45 AM

To quote Gene Simmons - marriage is the worst business decision any man can make.

While that's not my personal belief (at least maybe not now) I have been told by many other fellow guys not to ever marry. I know why many people are against it nowadays, I'm just curious as to how many other people out there aren't looking to stand in front of the altar as supposedly the number of couples living together and not married has been increasing over the years. And even upon having children they all live under one roof as a happy family just without wedding rings or photos.

¿So anyone else looking for that special someone to spend their life with just not in holy matrimony?

spock
If you are going to have any finacial value before you think about getting married, dont do it. If you fall weak, and do it, make sure you geta prenup. Not just to protect yourself from the woman, but from the lawyers too. Sit down and think, from the time you say your going to get married, until the day its over, or you die, its all set up for the woman, and children. think about it. So make sure you put something away for you, because the law is going to make sure you take care of them. Other than that it a beautiful thingwinking

moonlight_ride62's photo
Sun 08/03/08 04:46 AM
I have been married twice...and nope never again...

plk1966's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:03 AM
I was married for 16 yrs.

If I found the right person, fell in love, financially issues would not take part in my decision whether to marry again or not, trust, honest and devotion wouldflowers

briancarr's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:06 AM

I was married for 16 yrs.

If I found the right person, fell in love, financially issues would not take part in my decision whether to marry again or not, trust, honest and devotion wouldflowers
What a fairy tale. In real life everything has to be consideredflowerforyou

plk1966's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:09 AM


I was married for 16 yrs.

If I found the right person, fell in love, financially issues would not take part in my decision whether to marry again or not, trust, honest and devotion wouldflowers
What a fairy tale. In real life everything has to be consideredflowerforyou
financially decisions doesn't play a part for me in WHETHER to marry again but maybe WHEN to marry againflowerforyou

justme659's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:18 AM
Is this what marriage is reduced to today? Who gets what and who keeps money?? Let me ask this. How many of you that will say no to marriage, if you had a daughter would you want her to just live with someone? If you had a son, would you want him to just live with someone? There could be a child after a while. With no marriage, would you ever get to see your grand child if the woman takes off?

I have a daughter and I want to show her that marriage can and should be wonderful. Now, a lot of you will say, shes living a dream. OK. Marriage is a just a piece of paper. Well, sure. But to me that piece of paper is something to be proud of and a reminder to me to do my very best to keep it working ( the marriage)everyday. It is a contract of love, fidelety and respect. Yes, I am divorced, and just because it didnt work the first time I think I might strive harder to make it work the next time.

JMO

oldsage's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:20 AM
We all have a different outlook on this.
I was married twice & if it weren't for her death would still be married.
For me, MARRIAGE is a very special promise between 2 people. Can be done VERY SIMPLY. 2 people PUBLICALLY stating their love for eachother. This relationship taught me what REAL LOVE is. If your more worried about your finances, then you can't understand what I mean.
I would give all, even my life to have her back.

That is love that WANTS to be MARRIED.

Serchin4MyRedWine's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:22 AM
In most states there is a "common law" provision that basically states that if a man and woman live together for 7 years or more, they are legally married and thus are subject to the same divisions in property as if they were married.
So if you are worried about the financial aspects of marriage, I would suggest getting a new live in mate every 6 years.laugh laugh laugh

briancarr's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:23 AM

Is this what marriage is reduced to today? Who gets what and who keeps money?? Let me ask this. How many of you that will say no to marriage, if you had a daughter would you want her to just live with someone? If you had a son, would you want him to just live with someone? There could be a child after a while. With no marriage, would you ever get to see your grand child if the woman takes off?

I have a daughter and I want to show her that marriage can and should be wonderful. Now, a lot of you will say, shes living a dream. OK. Marriage is a just a piece of paper. Well, sure. But to me that piece of paper is something to be proud of and a reminder to me to do my very best to keep it working ( the marriage)everyday. It is a contract of love, fidelety and respect. Yes, I am divorced, and just because it didnt work the first time I think I might strive harder to make it work the next time.

JMO
Because of the way thing are now, i would want my children to protect themselves. Not ask why me when sh%t come crashing down on them, because they were living in a fantasy world. Yes, live respectful, but protect your A$$.

oldsage's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:25 AM
Brian, seems somebody bit you hard.
Sorry for the pain, but they aren't all like that.

mcattygarnett's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:27 AM
I am not looking to ever get married again, I can live with someone and be just as happy.

oldsage's photo
Sun 08/03/08 05:30 AM
I will never marry again either.
Doesn't mean there isn't a big empty spot inside me.
Results of the marrying kind of love.

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