I bet you do HG that will keep you fit. :)

Carold you have no idea. In march of 2007, I was wearing a size 22 now I wear a size 12. I got fed up with myself. Let myself go after the little thing with my live in. Lost the weight and looked in the mirror and said welcome back girl. Look better, feel better, like myself again.

I'm working on finding the old me again. Get closer every week.

Way to go HG.

I know you will make it! I did this without any help. I just changed my lifestyle. Stopped the fast food and soft drinks. Started eating healthy; Fresh veggies, fish, chicken and no fried food. The one thing I didn't do was weigh myself, did not want to get discouraged. Could tell I was lossing because my pants kept falling off. So don't ever give up. I'll be your cheerleading squad.

I was married for 34 years and have been divorced for 8 yrs. I am now starting to get lonely and worrying about growing old aone (I'm 63). Weekends are the worst. I have lots of girl friends but they're mostly all married and are with their families on the weekend.

But I may have a problem with having someone around 24/7 --- share the bed? share the bathroom????

I understand the concern hillbilly. I have been single for the majority of my life, 5 yrs the last time, and I share the same concerns...giving up my "space" to someone else. I guess that, in my case, I would simply adapt to it. After all, the common concerns about loneliness, growing old alone, etc. require a price to be paid to cover them. The big question that we each must answer for ourselves is: What are we willing to sacrifice from ourselves to eliminate those items from our list of concerns? After all, any relationship requires significant amounts of self sacrifice. Selfishness on one part or the other is the killing blow to any chances of success.

know what u mean hillbillie. I was married for 25 yrs, divorced for 3. Like having friends around but most of my g/f are married. Looking for a companion. Not interested in 24/7 at this point. I'm thankful for my friends here. They help make the weekends go faster. Love u all!

No,I hate it but can't find a good man to share my life with me. I didn't plan to grow old alone. Just don't know what I'm doing wrong.

You're absolutely right. Everything is give and take. It would be nice to have someone to eat with, do a little traveling, share holidays .....

Don't know what I'm doing wrong either. I try to be the best person and friend I can be. One problem is meeting people ---- where do you meet people? I don't like bars -- then you meet people who like bars. And I'm not really a churchy person.

Your are right hillbillie, I don't do the bar scene and I am a not a church person. If any body has any idea please let us know.

Please don't tell me to go to the grocery store and watch how a guy buys, so you can tell if he is single or married. Tired it! Keep running my cart up his __s.

I don't like being alone either

well the choice is being alone and be happy about it or be in a relationship and feel down all the time cause you just in a relationship so you not alone. it does get lonely at times but that too will pass. so till I find the right one will stay single and happy.

I came out of a bad relationship and was very happy to be alone. No cleaning up after others, not having to be there to fill their needs 24/7 was a great feeling.
After a while I suppose I started to get a bit lonely, so I joined various dating sites. Not that it did me any good, so finally I sort of gave up looking. And just then, rather unexpected, I met someone.
I think, this feeling comfortable with my own company, being the happy the way I was, changed something about me, and attracted other people to me.

So my advice would be, make your life on your own as comfortable as you possibly can, treat yourself, get acquainted with the person who is the real you. When you are comfortable with yourself, others will be comfortable with you, too.

Good for you Invisible

I do believe what you say. Sometimes we try to hard to find that special person, that we lose ourselves. If we relax and let this go on naturally, wonderful things seem to happen.

I used to be totally happy being alone, but now I have times when I think I am "lonely." The last time I let my guard down I got hurt pretty bad. I may be alone in my house, but I have two daughters, two sons-in-law, two granddaughters, one grandson and three cats, and that's just here in the neighborhood. It's all relative.

T R Y G O D!! or witch ever your higher power!.
Having said that you can do what you all wish of course!just remember be carful folks later,

I haven't left me friends im just trying my wing's.all over this site it's fun meeting.
Folks from all over the joint and im still posting.Kool 12/10/08,,,

Hello my friend, glad your doing well.

Iknow what you mean july I like living alone and having my space and my own "schedule" but sometimes I get to feeling lonely and like you say I let my guard down. But I've learned through trial and error to keep the wall around my heart up and I've learned that it's easier to just walk away from a relationship that just not right than to stay and be miserable. It's kinda sad that we have to be that way, but if we don't look out for ourselves who will?

Seems like allot of us in this boat. Hard to trust and you get use to your life your way. A happy medium would be nice wish full thinking. Can I find that guy who has his life I have mine and we have each other hmmmm And I don't have to clean up after and he enjoys cooking too or can pick something up on the way home. Why can't it be easy. Dream Dream Dream