Topic: What should I do?
jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:00 AM
i am going to wait it out...give her space till this weekend....by then if she hasnt contacted me...me and my lil girl will drive out there...to leave a present for her sons bday.....

and see what happens.....what do u guys think? good planning and giving her time to think? then showing her i still love her son and her by makin sure bcause we r going thru a rough time...i still havent forgotten any of them....


lilith401's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:00 AM
You know what? I'd listen to Goof. Really.

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:02 AM
yea...goof...thats awesome advice...cause ur right, if she is telin me she needs some time and space....then i could make things worse....just popping up....

i need to respect her needs now....and yea, she was trying somewhat....but she is a typical procrastinator...does thigs slow....cant multi task...but i knw that going in.....

lilith401's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:05 AM
I don't think Goof was thinking it would make things worse. Maybe you should e-mail him?

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:06 AM
lol..i never thought id be the one needing realtionship advice....i dont think i ever loved someone like this b4...

but i know i love her...wanna know how?

when she 1st left, i thought awesome! what a load of stress lifted....then i stated goin out a lil bit....in the last 2 weeks...ive had 4 women come on to me in bars....and all 4 wanted to come back to the place for one night stands...

and each time..i could not do it.....i wanted to at 1st....but couldnt...maybe thats love or bcause i just turned 30....who knows...but i know i cant do one nighters anymore.....well, not now anyway....that im in love....

Goofball73's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:08 AM

yea...goof...thats awesome advice...cause ur right, if she is telin me she needs some time and space....then i could make things worse....just popping up....

i need to respect her needs now....and yea, she was trying somewhat....but she is a typical procrastinator...does thigs slow....cant multi task...but i knw that going in.....


And that's cool man. I mean, alot of guys might not have accepted her as she is, but you saw more there and you fell for her. Hey...we all fall for people for different reasons.

I really believe that if she loves you man, she will see how much you love her and she will realize that she needs to help you with finances. Money isn't everything, but when things are tight money issues can either bring you closer or break you apart. I pray it brings you two closer together man. I really do.

It won't hurt for you to send a text, or email or something saying, "Hey. Just wanted you to know that I love you so much, and that I am here for you. I want this to work so please, take your time. I know we can make it through this." Or something like that just so she knows that you are thinking about her and that you truly, honestly care for her.

May777's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:08 AM

Honestly man, you might feel you made a mistake, but you also told her, encouraged her, to get her education going or to work PT. I don't think that is alot to ask. If she is/was trying to do these things and wasn't getting any results, then that is one thing. If she wasn't making an effort to help, then that is another thing.

You told her how you felt, and yeah you are stressed out about money. Hell, who isn't these days. But she has to see that you can't do it all. A marriage/relationship is 100/100 and she needed to help out where she could. I'm sure she is a great person if you love her that much (which I can see you do). But tough times call for doing things and doing them as fast as you can.

I want to tell you to go to her, but in all honesty, I can't. If she wants time and space, then I think you should give that to her. Not saying give up on her either, but their is a chance that if you go to her that it could make things worse. She needs to get her head straight and she needs to realize that you two are in this together. I wish you all the best man.



drinker here,..here,..

agree 110 %

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:10 AM
yea im gonna give it a few days....a lil space....then an email tellin her i love her...miss her, and im here for her....

but also respect her enuff to give that little space...but also making sure she knows...im being faithful...and still in love with her...just giving her what she needs now...

lilith401's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:11 AM
in the last 2 weeks...ive had 4 women come on to me in bars....and all 4 wanted to come back to the place for one night stands...

and each time..i could not do it.....i wanted to at 1st....but couldnt...


Yes, you are heartbroken. Yikes. I'm done here.

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:12 AM
no lilith401...dont go.....why go now? what did u mean by...def heart broken?

lilith401's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:13 AM
Goof????

Goofball73's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:14 AM

no lilith401...dont go.....why go now? what did u mean by...def heart broken?


Lilith just knows how it feels to be heartbroken man. I think we all do.

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:14 AM
lol...what now? lilith? no answers for a real broken heart?

no photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:14 AM
why does your profile say looking for women for dating???? why not friendship??

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:15 AM
yea, i know the love is real...cause i cant even sleep with another owman....and all of them where hot...very attractive....but i couldnt do it....what does that mean?

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:15 AM

why does your profile say looking for women for dating???? why not friendship??



bcause i just came back on...and this profile was from a while backl....got to change it

no photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:16 AM
I suggest you do change it and say you are marriedflowerforyou

franshade's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:16 AM
spock

jayboy07's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:17 AM

I suggest you do change it and say you are marriedflowerforyou


i am....just came online...reacctivated my profile...and came straight here....

lilith401's photo
Wed 10/15/08 11:18 AM


no lilith401...dont go.....why go now? what did u mean by...def heart broken?


Lilith just knows how it feels to be heartbroken man. I think we all do.


And how heartbroken people behave.

I was being facetious, OP. Actions speak louder than words.