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Topic: What should I do?
lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:31 AM
And Goof, you'd better share you knew my post was facetious. OP how far are you from Ohio?

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 10/15/08 11:31 AM
jayboy - good luck to you hope everything works out how you want it to work out.

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:32 AM
And Goof, you'd better share you knew my post was facetious. OP how far are you from Ohio? who is OP?

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:33 AM
Original Poster= OP

Voluptuous Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1203	Wed 10/15/08 11:33 AM Edited by Voluptuous on Wed 10/15/08 11:33 AM
Good luck I can't say anymore because I am not the best to ask for advise

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:34 AM
ohhh...thats me...im uhhh....prob 8 hours...drive??? i had a meeting in Cinn about 3 months ago...flight i think was only 3??

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Wed 10/15/08 11:34 AM
Goof.... Aww. I can't do it. I'd get in trouble. (Insert filthy x rated dialogue here) Say my name...

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:37 AM
GOOF!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 10/15/08 11:41 AM
come now lilith, say it like you mean it

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:42 AM
lol...lol....well, i feel better already....i need to go change my profile up some since i havent been on here in a while

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:44 AM
GOOF, GOOF, OHHHH YESSS GOOOF!

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Wed 10/15/08 11:44 AM
dude i was in the same boat in my last marriage,all i can say is i gave her plenty of time to help out with the bills and she just wouldnt get off her lazy ass and get a job,needless to say, this is the main reason we got a divorce and i myself could take care of us,but nobody rides for free in my opinion,we weren't retired so yeah she could work.i would see if she would consider your suggestion and start working,if not well seems you'll become another statistic.JMO

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:45 AM
seems like u and goof got sumthin special hittin! lol

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:46 AM
seems like u and goof got sumthin special hittin! lol Goof is my manwhore. He and I are friends, nothing more. But glad you laughed at our antics.

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:47 AM
dude i was in the same boat in my last marriage,all i can say is i gave her plenty of time to help out with the bills and she just wouldnt get off her lazy ass and get a job,needless to say, this is the main reason we got a divorce and i myself could take care of us,but nobody rides for free in my opinion,we weren't retired so yeah she could work.i would see if she would consider your suggestion and start working,if not well seems you'll become another statistic.JMO I hear ya...i agree too...but once it became an issue....she did try and get a PT job, but was really slow about stuff.....procrastinator....but u know....maybe we will bcaome another statitic....but im a fighter, and know she is a good woman....down deep...maybe its worth it to hold on...maybe not....time will tell!

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76387	Wed 10/15/08 11:47 AM
Honestly I can't sit here and say run back to her. Regardless the situation there was and obvious problem there that needs to be addressed. Seems if she has two teenagers that need to be provided for the least she could do is get a job and help out with the providing. One does not have to have the education to find a job at times one must be willing to work first. Sounds to me that she is milking it for what it is. Harsh maybe but the truth a marriage is a two way street and either you both are going the same way together or it will not work. So looks like to me if you go back begging on your knees for her to come back ohhhh she most likely will but then the problem is still there. Then the next thing you know they will be using the excuse if you get up set they will leave and go back to mommies. It looks like to me she needs to learn to give a bit too. Now as far as going and taking the gift for her son hey that is a great thing to do. Maybe ya'll can sit and talk and straighten out a few things. But I still say she needs to learn to give in the long run. A relationship should never be all one sided. JMO

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:50 AM
Honestly I can't sit here and say run back to her. Regardless the situation there was and obvious problem there that needs to be addressed. Seems if she has two teenagers that need to be provided for the least she could do is get a job and help out with the providing. One does not have to have the education to find a job at times one must be willing to work first. Sounds to me that she is milking it for what it is. Harsh maybe but the truth a marriage is a two way street and either you both are going the same way together or it will not work. So looks like to me if you go back begging on your knees for her to come back ohhhh she most likely will but then the problem is still there. Then the next thing you know they will be using the excuse if you get up set they will leave and go back to mommies. It looks like to me she needs to learn to give a bit too. Now as far as going and taking the gift for her son hey that is a great thing to do. Maybe ya'll can sit and talk and straighten out a few things. But I still say she needs to learn to give in the long run. A relationship should never be all one sided. JMO thank you, and I agree.....she is a giver...just look, imagine this....a perfect woman when it came to loving, caring, affection and in the bedroom...but when it came to work, drive, respncabilities....and moti=vation to get out of bed.....she was imperfect...

jayboy07 Joined Tue 07/10/07 Posts: 386	Wed 10/15/08 11:52 AM
but the more we keep talking, the more i see....she never really gave an effort when i needed her to......she would tell me she was home online looking for a job, or a college to go to locally...and i would find her on myspace hookin her page up./...or she would come online and chat to me half day .....**** like that

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 10/15/08 11:55 AM
She is most likely the same person you married. Getting mad at her now for being the person you married is not okay. Why didn't you get premarital counseling?

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76387	Wed 10/15/08 11:56 AM
Well we all have our problems no one is perfect. But......one must realize it and be willing to work on a relationship. Nothing in this life is easy if it was we would all have the love of our lives. But no matter what one does and how hard they try if the other is not as willing it will never work. It does take two that are willing to give 100% a piece not 50% for one and 100% for the other. One can not sit back and take and take and only be willing to give back what they want too. Actually when it comes down to money that will break up a relationship fast. If one works all the time and they other does not and there is no reason why they can't will break the camel's back quick.