Topic: How many widowers out there?
sunsiray's photo
Fri 01/20/12 07:38 AM
Friends = 5 Yrs
Married = 6 Yrs
Divorced= 3 Yrs
Remarried= 11 Yrs
Divorced= 4 Yrs
He died

It's odd how "divorce" did not mitigate the grieving and finality of his death. Feeling "widowed" was an experience I did not expect. His death profoundly affected me.

Sharris's photo
Fri 01/20/12 07:48 AM

Friends = 5 Yrs
Married = 6 Yrs
Divorced= 3 Yrs
Remarried= 11 Yrs
Divorced= 4 Yrs
He died

It's odd how "divorce" did not mitigate the grieving and finality of his death. Feeling "widowed" was an experience I did not expect. His death profoundly affected me.

perhaps divorce just puts it in a different place. Death changes the heart, a resolve that cannot be undone.
Welcome here. Divorced and widowed, this is a good place wonderful friends,

sunsiray's photo
Fri 01/20/12 10:40 AM
Thank you for the welcome. Experiencing the finality of death of one you have been married to is a reality that only those who've trodden the path can understand.

I appreciate all those whose posts I have read on this board.

5x10's photo
Sat 01/21/12 04:55 PM
Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou

vivian2981's photo
Sat 01/21/12 05:22 PM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou


it's very normal for that to happen. Not just in losing your spouse, but when you lose any one that you cared deeply for. It doesn't matter how long or how short the period of loss it.

Sharris's photo
Sat 01/21/12 05:27 PM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou

yes,

Sharris's photo
Sat 01/21/12 05:28 PM

Thank you for the welcome. Experiencing the finality of death of one you have been married to is a reality that only those who've trodden the path can understand.

I appreciate all those whose posts I have read on this board.

come back keep reading, it helps to heal.

carold's photo
Sun 01/22/12 06:10 AM


Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou

yes,
Yeah movie hit old emotion and some times they can turn it around and I'm laughing thu my tears.flowerforyou flowerforyou

carold's photo
Sun 01/22/12 06:13 AM

Thank you for the welcome. Experiencing the finality of death of one you have been married to is a reality that only those who've trodden the path can understand.

I appreciate all those whose posts I have read on this board.
I'm widowed and also I'm divorced that is my daughters father if anything happened to him I would still be devastated. We had a strong love just time and stress pulled us apart.brokenheart

mssilverfox's photo
Sun 01/22/12 06:28 AM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou




Dick and I had a favorite song and after almost 5 yrs when I hear it the tears just start to flo...I used to scare me but I realized it was part of grieving...

mssilverfox's photo
Sun 01/22/12 06:28 AM
Edited by mssilverfox on Sun 01/22/12 06:29 AM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou



oops double post

oldsage's photo
Sun 01/22/12 07:10 AM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou


Time just teaches us to handle things better. BUT every once in a while she reminds us of what is REALLY important in life.

THOUGHTS

carold's photo
Sun 01/22/12 07:22 AM
Relationships flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

mendy2's photo
Wed 01/25/12 09:23 PM
I was married 1 time for 25 years and then he died of a heart attack
And then I dated other guy 4 years and he ask me to marry him
and he wreak on his motorclycle and is brain damged now.
So Iam scared to try no. 3

mssilverfox's photo
Wed 01/25/12 10:53 PM

I was married 1 time for 25 years and then he died of a heart attack
And then I dated other guy 4 years and he ask me to marry him
and he wreak on his motorclycle and is brain damged now.
So Iam scared to try no. 3





Thats sooo sad....so sorry for your loss. flowerforyou I have an aunt that has outlived 3 husbands..

simplysensational's photo
Tue 01/31/12 04:00 PM
It has been 7 years for me...........

kml1236's photo
Fri 03/02/12 02:48 PM
Married 2 hours

Widow 3 years in July

RainbowTrout's photo
Sat 03/03/12 04:17 PM

Just experienced the oddest feeling.

Was watching a movie and a very touching scene came on where a couple celebrating their 50th was dancing and I just started sobbing. It was hard to breath and it hurt so bad. I had flash backs......just like after Bernie passed. I have not felt this level of grief in YEARS...in fact I have, or though I was, doing rather quite well with my feelings as of lately.

I am doing OK right now as the feeling has passed. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them?

flowerforyou


It is odd how it can affect one. Dottie was always by my side and we did everything together. Learning how to live without her has been quite an experience.

no photo
Sat 03/03/12 08:09 PM
There are some people that play such an important role in your life that you will never truly get over their loss, you just get used to burying the feelings for most of the time.

Even if you move on and find another life partner, you can never 'un-love' someone who has been so important to you.

Grief has no timeframe.

oldsage's photo
Sun 03/04/12 05:31 AM

There are some people that play such an important role in your life that you will never truly get over their loss, you just get used to burying the feelings for most of the time.

Even if you move on and find another life partner, you can never 'un-love' someone who has been so important to you.

Grief has no timeframe.


Time leads to experience & practice, which TEACH us how to handle grief. More time more practice. Itis those moments that sneak up on us & the feelings pour out, like it was just today. We hide in our caves, lick our wounds & start practicing again.

Old Sage's opinion