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Topic: I feel really badly...
galendgirl's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:49 PM
about just having to send a frank email to someone I'm not "clicking" with despite positive initial communications. I'm pretty sure I've hurt feelings and regardless of whether or not it's better sooner than later...it still sucks to do because they are probably a genuinely nice person. <sigh!>

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Mon 10/27/08 08:50 PM
Better you tell them early on then a year down the road.

I'm sure they'll recover.

Etrain's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:51 PM
flowers flowers flowers

PATSFAN's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:52 PM
Sometimes it's for the best!!

itsmetina's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:54 PM
flowerforyou honesty is bestflowerforyou

No1sLove's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:55 PM
Sorry to hear it. frown

It's always rough to let someone down, especially if they are a good person. flowerforyou

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Mon 10/27/08 08:55 PM
tis better to have mingled and missed
than never to have mingled at all

galendgirl's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:55 PM
I know it is better now than later...I just remember being on the receiving end and it stinks.
I am probably way too much of a softie...


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Mon 10/27/08 08:56 PM
You're not going to like everybody, and what's the point in dragging it out and pretending? We're all allegedly mature adults here (sorry, my chair almost fell over when I typed that) and you're not obligated to anticipate every possible reaction of every possible person who might read something you wrote.

Points for honesty, in my opinion.



galendgirl's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:58 PM

You're not going to like everybody, and what's the point in dragging it out and pretending? We're all allegedly mature adults here (sorry, my chair almost fell over when I typed that) and you're not obligated to anticipate every possible reaction of every possible person who might read something you wrote.

Points for honesty, in my opinion.





...I'll take points for honesty but to suggest that I'm an adult??? :banana: :banana:

cdanny47's photo
Mon 10/27/08 08:59 PM
Just be honest is all you can do!!!!!

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 10/27/08 09:01 PM
That was very good of you to send the email rather than just disappear. flowerforyou

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Mon 10/27/08 09:02 PM
id rather someone be up front than lead me on personally...

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Mon 10/27/08 09:02 PM


You're not going to like everybody, and what's the point in dragging it out and pretending? We're all allegedly mature adults here (sorry, my chair almost fell over when I typed that) and you're not obligated to anticipate every possible reaction of every possible person who might read something you wrote.

Points for honesty, in my opinion.





...I'll take points for honesty but to suggest that I'm an adult??? :banana: :banana:


Well he said allegedly...............laugh

But yes, it is better to let them know now that sparks just aren't flying and you enjoy them as a friend....(I know, everyone hates that phrase, but it might be true).

carolanne58's photo
Mon 10/27/08 09:03 PM
I've seen your posts galendgirl and I'm sure you will do it with tact.I agree that If you yourself feel it isn't going well it would be the time to share with him.

RKISIT's photo
Mon 10/27/08 09:09 PM

about just having to send a frank email to someone I'm not "clicking" with despite positive initial communications. I'm pretty sure I've hurt feelings and regardless of whether or not it's better sooner than later...it still sucks to do because they are probably a genuinely nice person. <sigh!>
why feel bad its all part of the dating game:smile: at least you told him how you felt,instead of ignoring him totally,like some people do on heremad

Goofball73's photo
Mon 10/27/08 09:55 PM
Always lie...take the money....then tell the truth.laugh laugh laugh laugh

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Tue 10/28/08 01:23 AM
peace, love, and joy was meant for everyone

All will be OK!

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Tue 10/28/08 01:40 AM

I've seen your posts galendgirl and I'm sure you will do it with tact.I agree that If you yourself feel it isn't going well it would be the time to share with him.


agreed! There's a line from a song that has stuck in my head like forever..."I'd rather you hurt me honestly, then mislead me with a lie".

Fade2Black's photo
Tue 10/28/08 04:59 AM

about just having to send a frank email to someone I'm not "clicking" with despite positive initial communications. I'm pretty sure I've hurt feelings and regardless of whether or not it's better sooner than later...it still sucks to do because they are probably a genuinely nice person. <sigh!>


It is what it is .. trust me, they'll deal. We humans are pretty resilient flowers

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