Okay.... If you are not interested and you say you are not interested. Please tell me why the other person... the one in which you are not interested, why are they pushing to meet in person to talk about it? Why? What could there possibly left to discuss?

Because they are stupid. End of discussion.

I went out with him three times. Okay two and a half. The last time he was an azzhole.

The male ego just won't let it be sometimes.

because they think that they can change your mind

He wants to try and sugarcoat the behavior in the hopes that you'll buy into his line of bullsh*t.

An old saying I remember.

"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me!"

But how? I told him why I didn't want to see him again and the list was brutal. The explanation I got was he was coming off Lexapro and can be a good guy.

I mean he was BAD. One of my worst dates. And clueless. He called and texted repeatedly for almost a week until I said, STOP. And then it got worse. He thinks if I go to dinner with him I will suddenly be interested?

Why? I am so freaking irritated and creeped out.

I would be creeped out too.

oh, i'm sure he's not thinking rationally, but probably figures he can still impress you.

i just might agree to meet him for dinner, one last time. then i'd ask a couple of big, burly guy friends i have to come along with me. they can threaten him to leave you alone and stop calling/texting.

see if that works

He is saying his stomach is all in knots, I'm "different".... blah blah blah.

Should I list why I don't want to see him again? Would that help with reasons why? He is in total denial that he was this way.... or perceived this way. I need to, in a way, feel this guy isn't a total stalker. He knows where I live.

Did he wear plaid? I ask this because my pants are currently cutting of circulation to my brain, and I'm not thinking at all...which in my shoes is a good thing, but in someone else's it could be dangerous.

sure you're different - you're probably the only girl who agreed to see him even after the first date

i wouldn't have ANY more contact with him except to say 'if you call or text even one more time, i am going to file a harassment charge with the police, i have all your texts/calls/emails saved, along with my repeated requests to leave me alone'.

this is a prime example why, when i was dating, i wouldn't have anyone ever pick me up at the house. i would always arrange to meet them at a neutral site. heck, i didn't even want them to walk me to my car afterwards in case they copied my plates.

i'm really sorry that you're so upset about this. i'm sure prolonged silence from you will eventually get the point across and he'll cease his efforts

Thanks, Paper. It only got bad once I said I didn't want to see him again, he asked why, I told him, and then he apologized and said it was his going off his SSRI and he could do better.

He was texting me all day and leaving voice mails, e-mails. No plaid, Fear.

Here is why (I posted about most of this in the popcorn thread so I'm sorry if any of you have to read it again)

He is arrogant and into pedantic lectures. He also is a right fighter, a show off, and is trying to pretend he doesn't like me as much as he obviously does. Mr. Casual... but his actions contradict him. He surely thinks I am dumb.

Man says he has affairs with married women because they are going to do it anyway. He says it is "safe", as he has no relationship potential.

He says it is hard to "always be right".

He has a theory about how he wants to rule the country and become Emperor, because most people are stupid and need to be taught a lesson.

He knows everything. If I say anything at all, he either tells me I am wrong or completely disregards what I say (95% of the time) and changes the subject.

I was tired and a bit cranky last night, yet he proceeded to deliberately annoy me. And laughed about it. Oh and squeezed my knee while I was driving. The reflex part...

He was on the phone with someone, and I heard him say, I gotta go, I'm with "some girl".

The kill switch... that was when he said he was so obviously superior in reading people. This came right after the lecture on how you can always win an argument if you come with a three pronged approach with valid points.


I told you I was going to two Halloween parties. You texted me after 1 am on Saturday.... RUDE. You had all day Friday and Sat to call if you wanted. My phone did die, but only after the most boring conversation ever while I was with my friends, having a blast. I CAN'T hear your voicemails. I listen and am like, WHAT???? All of them were like, oh call if you want....

I am a person. No better, no worse than anyone else. You really don't listen to anything I say. What is my son's name? Betcha don't know it.

By the way.. he didn't know it. He ignored that part. After I said I did not want to see him again, I got two mails asking me to dinner on Sunday. Well first he anted to go last night but he forgot I had my son, noo.... he just didn't listen when I told him when he was with me. He assumed I was a weekend parent.

I just think you would be interested once we met. I'm much better looking in person

JT dear, I met this dude.

I know you are a dollbaby..... but you are TAKEN.

Once I read the rest of the thread, I realized you had already met him. Why doesn't he get the picture? He must have some underlying issues about himself. Needs to feel wanted or needs to prove himself......but actually it's probably because you are a great catch and he realizes that he needs to spend the rest of his life with you.

You really do find some winners.

Nothing to discuss, he wants you to change your mind. He wants you to want him for the great person that he is. He had trouble before impressing you but 'now' he knows better, still has problems listening but he 'knows'

Persistance!! ( Maybe he thinks you will cave in)