You're missing the point. ANY verbiage between people is defined as socialization. An "event" is not necessary.

You say you "live alone and don't get out much" (excuse the paraphrase). Are you seriously trying to get me or anyone else on this board to believe that just because of that, you'd be willing to give up any friends you may already have in favor of being with one person? If so, you CLEARLY do not know me, or any of the other people on here who "lives alone and doesn't get out much." The biggest difference between you and I is, you "long for a more intimate realtionship". I can take it or leave it. Sure, it might be nice, but I'm certainly never going to have one at the expense of letting anybody dictate to me who I can and cannot fraternize with. So, childlike as you may personally find it, nobody IS going to tell me what to do, insomuch as my personal fraternizations go. I'll talk to, hang out with, and socialize with whomever I damn well please.

But hey, whatever gets you off.

a little oral stimulation usually does the job

I vaguely support the notion of respecting my spouses sense of trust by not participateing on this site in a manner that would appear to be soliciting a personal intimate relationship. That is quite simple by notation on your profile.

However if my spouse has no more understanding of how I would want to continue and interest in what this site offers overall is then he isn't going to be for me. Before I ask someone to do, or not do, what I am see them doing I am going to find out what it really is about. Probably not a bad plan for someone new to the site either.

The greatest understanding I have gotten from this site is a better understanding of my own views. The forums pose many interesting concepts that really are not remotely related to dating.

I would add I see it also as a way to contribute. Not that I will always be able to offer what is needed I think my views, experiences, problem solving skills, and knowledge of resources are useful regardless of what the status of my private relationship might be. I have repeatedly been told my care and guidance is welcomed and comforting.

I always factor the passion of youth in asking questions but one thing about a community it will teach you to tenor your questions so that it is percieved as a question and not an assumption of facts not in evidence.

If a woman perv's my profile, the first sentence states that I am seeing someone, and not much else. If and when that situation changes, I'll update my profile, again. Yeah, it would be nice of there was a 'last date logged in' feature, but until then...........
And if my time here has a negative impact on my relationships in RL, I 'll evaluate that when the time comes. In the mean while I expect to be hangin' out as I regularly do.

To answer your question. Depends on what type of relationship they are in.


I am an unhappily married woman. I have 3 boys and have financial responsibilities that I can't cover on my own so I choose to live with husband.

Sometimes we all need someone to talk to and to comfort us.

I did not hide my situation and someday soon I hope that my savings can cover a move but until then I am looking for friendship not a physical relationship.


I have a very controlling husband and our homelife is not fit for socializing since it is a daily argument. The only repreive I get is online or at work.


Please dont judge the person, until you know the situation.

I'm in a relationship and I put that in my profile. So if someone were to actually read it they would know. I made great friends on here that I talk to more than the ones I see face to face. I will stay as long as I like.

Well, that's a large part of the problem, many people on here don't read the profiles. They gawk at the pictures and run off to email and when they're rejected for whatever reason, they cry foul. Taking a few seconds (or minutes depending on the length of the profile) to simply read would save alot of hurt feelings.

The sad thing is, when that one person leaves or dies or whatever and you've abandoned all your friends people aren't as quick to comfort you. They're more like to say "i told you so" instead.

Precisely the reason why I would never forego any friendships I have simply to pacify one person. If that person is so insecure that they'd have to dictate to you who you could or could not associate with, they've already clearly got other serious issues.

ummmmmmmm...


never mind


nothing I can say here tha isnt crude haha

My GF and I are both here for the forums. This site rocks ! You can learn alot out here

and then you gotta deal with these idjits lookin for a threesome and won't take no for an answer

and then they act like their feelers are hurt when I have to tell em what I really think of em

i've actually had people yell at me from time to time because i'm here

i'm very up front about why i'm here and my marital status
and i've never been rude or mean to anyone

sometimes it gets to me and i think about leaving...but then i realize why i actually joined...

here is an email I got today and my response


him: Do you date with your wife? I like the more the merrier.


me: haha thanks but no, I'm greedy and selfish


him: I know how to please the both of ya.


me: now you're bugging me
I only say no once
then I turn into an aszzhole
go away

Jon had a guy tell him once on here that he would satisfy him better than I ever could. When Jon told him no thanks the guy kept insisting that he prove it to him.....then I got involved......because Jon is too much of a sweetheart to tell the guy where to go.

Lot of sick bastards out there.

(I'm sorry, was that insulting?)

That seems perfectly fine with me as long as the person is honest about it. There are even married folks on this site. It’s a "personal networking" forum which means people could be here for any number of reasons. Stop trying to compartmentalize everyone. It’s annoying.

yup

it doesn't work to try and define people using a dictionary that is written for your life