To forgive, even to your worst enemy is one of the hardest thing to do, but when you forgive you are unleashing the greatest power you can ever possess and that's your heart and love.

Jesus forgave everyone, even the ones who nailed him to the cross.

John Paul II was shot once by a muslim extremist and he went to his jail cell and forgave him and talked to his mother and now his would be-assassin living in Poland peacefully and thinks of his pope as his savior.

We must all learn how to forgive and it isn't easy and many times you will not see rewards for it right away, but your graciousness is noted you'll feel it in your heart and HE takes notes of it and loves you for it and your deeds have a tremendous impact on not only of whom you forgive, but you also and the entire world.

Mark 11:25 And so many others. I'm short on words today.
Nice post

I try to be a forgiving person, and I think I have come along way. I have been physically and emotionally hurt by others and have forgiven them and moved on. I think that by moving on, that is my way of forgetting and not holding a grudge. Family tends to hurt me more often than others, but they are family and I forgive them unconditionally.

I pray for enemies

I would love to be able to forgive those that hurt me. i still have learning to do...but i will get there

That is too true my friend. When my ex left my blood pressure went through the roof. I was in stroke range for nearly a week.. but anyway the day i forgave her my pressure started dropping and is nearly back to normal now. Thats about the best testament i can think of for forgiveness. Its not for them its for you!

i really like what is written here
i try everyday to let anger and frustration and hurt go away.
my most peaceful days are when i truly forgive those who hurt me and i live grateful for what i have now.

It's a hard thing to do to forgive someone who has hurt you but your faith can see you through.

This is the most difficult subject I am going through. I praise God no matter what the difficulty. I have had many. My husband and I are separated. This is the longest we have been apart. At first I felt sorry for myself. I started to remember how I was treated and still am and I quit that sorry stuff right away. I just need another umbrella because God is raining on me again.

welcome to this forum BTW. you are going htrough a grieving process and it's ok. remember to ask God for the strength you need. I have had to do this alot lately.

Have forgiven alot - never forgotten.

I have a big one I am working on now ... slowly, I think because this was a biggy. Hope to get there one day! Thanks for the post.

do you need to talk??? there are some great people to help you through it. they helped me

This is pretty big. It tends to overwhelm those I choose to talk to about it. So I am slowly chipping away at it by myself.

just know that you are among people that care. Pray for the strength you need. I will pray as well

Because of anger, forgiveness is often one of the hardest things for a Child of Christ to do. Yet to forgive and even love your enemies is what Jesus wants for us to do. We have to be mindful that we are forgiven AS we have forgiven others on earth. Just one example is seen in the commonly said, "Lord's Prayer". As seen in Matthew 6:9 we are told to pray this prayer. This is just one rendition of the Lords Prayer (NLT):
Our Father who is in Heaven,
Holy is your name! (may your name be honored)
Thy Kingdom come, (May your kingdom come soon)
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. (May your will be done here on earth just as it is in Heaven)
Give us this day our daily bread (Give us our food for today)
"AND FORGIVE US OUR SINS, JUST AS WE HAVE FORGIVEN THOSE WHO HAVE SINNED AGAINST US"(or tresspassors)
Lead us not into temptation (and don't let us yield to temptation)
But deliver us from the evil one.

Keep in mind these are not just words you are speaking. They can become habit forming when said over and over, but each word still holds meaning to God!!

Matthew 6:14-15 continues: "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins."

Seems like it should be so easy doesn't it? Just forgive other's wrong-doings against you? But it is anger ( A snare and trick of the devil) that gets in the way so often.
We all need to pray and lift our burdens, including the traps of anger, to the Lord. Once released from anger you are free to forgive anyone for anything!
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I stumbled accross an article a couple years ago and have saved it, read it many times and forwarded it to a great many people. I believe it is a wonderful article, and is something that anyone should read who is dealing with any anger issues, trouble in forgiveness, and ultimate healing!! Here is the URL where you can find it online:

http://www.elijahlist.com/words/html/textonly-111207-Frangipane.html

And the article is as follows. I hope it has the same impact on those of you who read it, as it had on me! God Bless!!!


"November 12, 2007

FRANCIS FRANGIPANE:

"When Trust is Established, Healing Begins"

"Trust is not an accident; it is the result of love that pays a price."

The Problem With Anger

Unresolved anger can consume a soul; it can become a literal hell not only for the embittered person, but for those who live with them as well. Thus, Jesus strongly warned of anger's terrible impact. He said,

"The ancients were told, 'You shall not commit murder' and 'Whoever commits murder shall be liable to the court.' But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever shall say to his brother, 'Raca,' shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever shall say, 'You fool,' shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell" Matthew 5:21-22.

Anger is a systemic poison: it affects every area of our existence. Not only can it destroy one's life on earth, it can make us "guilty enough to go into the fiery hell." Who among us has not known the wrestling in our minds over an offense? Who has never felt the unrelenting churning of wounded emotions or the self-destructive tension generated by anger?

For some, anger abides brooding, yet hidden, beneath a polite veneer. Like a vicious dog waiting behind the door of a nice home, so inner rage attacks without warning when anyone gets too close. Yet, as awful as anger is, the embittered person often feels anger is warranted in light of the threat of an offense. The worse evil, however, is the spirit of deception that justifies the angry soul, that presumes the anger of man is actually attaining the righteousness of God, thus imprisoning the embittered soul, isolating it from true repentance.

Jesus warns that unresolved anger is very grave. It threatens to drive the soul into hell; it is physically depleting, and the person carrying anger feels justified. According to Jesus, the angry person has, within his heart, committed a sin equal to murder. Anger is a very serious offense indeed.

Reconciliation is More Important than Ritual

If you know someone who is carrying unresolved anger toward you or someone else, Jesus tells us we are not to simply ignore their condition. In fact, He plainly tells us He expects us to do something about it. Remarkably, just after warning about anger's hellish consequences, in the very next two verses He says,

"If therefore you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar, and go your way; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering" Mathew 5:23-24.

Jesus requires us to actually leave our offering, exit the "church service," and do what we can to reconcile with our offended brother. To the Son of God, reconciliation is more important than fulfilling our religious service.

The Lord knows that if we do not engage in some process toward healing, our offended brother will transfer his anger to others. Hebrews 12:14-15 says, "Pursue peace with all men...See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled." One angry person not only jeopardizes their own soul, but their root of bitterness can spread and "many be defiled."

Thus, when the Church becomes a place of anger instead of redemption, it is not a little thing to the Lord. Indeed, Scripture says the final result is "many (are) defiled." Unresolved anger is actually a primary tool which satan uses to break down marriages, destroy families, splinter churches and divide cultures within a community.

The Lord calls His Church to reverse the curse of injustice and anger upon our society. We are Heaven's agents of transformation and reconciliation. In fact, the Lord calls us not only to go to the one who, for whatever reason, may be offended by us, but He desires we actually become ministers of reconciliation who inspire others to bring healing to every strata of human relationships.

Wounded In Pursuit Of Oneness

When I speak of healing the riff between people, I realize there are some people who are habitually offended. No matter what we do, they are irreconcilable. Perhaps, in time, they will be more open. Still, the Lord commands us, "So far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men" Romans 12:18. Hebrews calls us to "pursue peace with all men" Hebrews 12:14. According to Jesus Christ, if we remember someone has something against us, we are to actually leave our offering at the altar and go be reconciled with our brother (Matthew 5:24).

Our interpersonal relationships are a primary concern to the Lord. Remember, the issue is not limited to whether you have something against someone, but whether they have something against you. You may be completely innocent. The offended person may actually be the guilty party. But the Lord calls us to care about relationships. Indeed, it is amazing how often a simple phone call, an act of love or a gentle answer can soften the heart of an offended person.

The Bible says, "pursue peace with all men." Pursue means we aggressively take the initiative to make things right. It means we act on behalf of Heaven rather than allow another's anger to serve the purpose of hell.

However, we must be realistic. When we reach out to a deeply offended person, they will likely be repulsed by our first efforts. Scripture tells us, "A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle" Proverbs 18:19. If a person has been hurt, they will need trust to be restored and this process of initiating trust can actually be painful to both parties. A wounded person may lash out. You may feel like the process of restoring the offended person is simply too great a price to pay.

Let me share an insight I recently received from the Lord about the basic nature of relationships and reconciliation. My wife and I were bird-sitting our oldest daughter's pet conure. A conure is about half the size of a parrot with similar coloring. However, this creature was hostile. Each time I'd touch the cage, it would squawk and try to bite me. After several initiatives at being nice, I concluded, "Who needs this? If I'm going to be attacked, I can be attacked at church." I made a silent evaluation that we had been given a "killer conure." Obviously, I concluded, this bird came from the wrong side of the tracks.

My wife, however, decided she was going to love this bird. Even though it was just as aggressive toward her as it was with me, my wife relentlessly kept loving the bird. Each time she fed it by hand, the bird attacked, taking chunks of skin with each bite. Denise would yell in pain, then instantly return to talking softly, reaching into the cage with food. After a week, the bird finally began to relax. Her survival instincts, based on my wife's gentle response to being attacked, convinced the bird that Denise was not a predator, but a friend. Soon, it permitted Denise to reach into its cage without attacking her. A couple days later, I discovered this aggressive little finger-eater perched lovingly upon my wife's shoulder, its little round head snuggled warmly against her neck, cooing in her ear.

Denise won the heart of this little bird: it loved, because she first loved it. You see, the problem with the bird was not aggression, but fear. My wife allowed herself to be wounded so that trust could be established; when wounded, she did not retaliate, and she won its trust. As I watched this little drama unfold, I saw something basic, yet profound, concerning God's relationship with us. Trust is not an accident; it is the result of love that pays a price.

Isn't this the way of the Lord with our own hearts? He came to us, yet we wounded Him. We crucified God's Son. Yet instead of retaliating, Jesus forgave us. He proved over and over again that His love was safe, that He is not our enemy. We expect judgment but receive mercy; we sin, yet He works to restore us to Himself. "It is His kindness," the Scriptures say, "that lead us to repentance" Romans 2:4. He repeatedly shows Himself trustworthy, merciful and loving, knowing that, in time, we will come to rest in His goodness. And as we do, we let Him reach into our cage; we climb upon His hand, and He carries us on His shoulder.

I recognized that this attitude, which I saw in my wife, was actually the Lord's heart. As He has been to us, so He wants us to be toward others, even those who are hostile and alienated from us. Trust must be established before love can heal. We must be willing to let ourselves be wounded, even repeatedly if necessary, in pursuit of healing relationships. We must prove, not just in word, but in deed, that we are trustworthy. Whether we face divisions in families, churches or between races, only when trust is established, can healing begin.

Francis Frangipane
Ministries of Francis Frangipane
Email: francis1@frangipane.org


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I do this too.. Its so hard to do but I know the power of God will move if Im able to do this and I love to see his amazing power!

I feel your pain.separation from husband for 2 years and it still hurts.I'm getting better i know i'm .I pray evernight to forgive him.sometimes i feel like i did and then it start all over agian pain!!!!!He was a christian into the church singing and a group leader and had a fair on me and left me and the kids.took money away and ect ect.I tryed to ask God why !!!This is your child why u allow him to do this to us.I use to say that not any more.I use to cry all night.stay in my room,low self estem,wouldn't hold my head up,HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE but now i'm doing all of those things now i'm doing real good.I'm just having a hard time totally letting go and let GOd!!!!!!!Sometimes i feel like i'm crazy why i cant i do this!!!!.I'm in a better place were i was when this all happen.Do any body have and answer?

I'm just asking for prayer so i can get there to forgive my x

i pray for evey one to have there dreams fulfilled