I have been having a problem finding a nice man online on these dating site. Most men dont want to talk to a plus size women or one of color. Who to say i am not a nice person i am pretty does some one have any advice because i am at the end of my rope...... help please

No offense...but I can barely help myself, I would be of no assistance to you, sorry.

I wouldn't say it is color related or even because you are plus size...but to what it could be, I have no clue because I know it happens to me and a number of other people here as well.

There are real men on here who like plus size women and there are men on here who date all skin shades.

Be patient is all I can tell you. Good luck.

my advice... from one plus woman to another stop putting yourself out there as "plus size". You're a woman. A good woman. Have fair and current photos. Talk to people just like you normally would.
Just be you. Talk about what's good about you, rather than being insecure about your size.
When you're confident about yourself, it's amazing how many people you will attract to you.

There are guys out there who are into large love but ya gotta keep looking. Like any search for gold ya got to move a lot of rock!

Excellent advice

thank u for the advice

You're photos are great. You just be you... and you will blessed in no time at all.

<---- goes back to eating my piece of chocolate cake.

Your profile & pics look good, doll. Just give it a bit of time, post in the forums and be yourself, above all else. In no time you will meet people and hopefully, that special guy!

I think had very good advice, too. It makes a lot of sense, but people are so superficial. I am plus sized myself, and it's really hard to find someone who is interested in dating a big girl. That's just the truth. I am trying hard to take better care of myself and lose the weight, and I think this might be good advice for you too. The kinds of men that like fat girls like me, from my experience, are NOT the kinds of men I am attracted to and I don't want to settle just because I'm big. Neither should you. Just keep working on yourself. Since you are larger, You should be able to lose weight A LOT faster than a skinny person can doing the same excercises. We just have more weight to lose. I am not trying to be negative or rude, because I am fat too and dealing with the same issues, we just have to face the truth and take better care of ourselves in order to get what we want. Good luck to you, and God bless.

Lose weight and you'll be healthier and couldn't fight all the men away with a cannon....sorry if that hurts, i'm brutally honest

Maybe she is happy at her weight? Of course that is just silly me aiming for happiness...

One of the best things to do on this site is to hang out in the forums and allow people to get to know you. We are a family here...and we have seen many loves develop here. Just have fun and it will happen

pfft.. sometimes i think men like me better with a big booty, actually, i get approached more. Its a perfect way to weed out the moron vapid jerks.

learn more manners. You're not so little there yourself cowboy. Sorry if it hurts, I'm brutally honest.

i think black girls rock! i think the reason that they have a harder time finding dates, is because they win arguements, whether they are wrong or right, they still win!!!
i had black male and female roomates through college, and we meshed big time, especially since i was a pro break-dancer, but when there was an arguement.....i shut up

Very well said

Let's just settle it here...none of us would be here if there wasn't something wrong with us, socially inept, over-weight, bad teeth, half dozen voices in our head. We can all pick each other apart...

Hi doll!