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I think YOU think you are a loser. If you didn't think so you wouldn't be worried that he'd think you're one.
To regain your confidence you need to understand what you have to offer the kind of man you are attracted to. How will you enrich his life? Will he be better off with you than he would be alone or with some other woman? Your power is in your ability to communicate your value to others. I could recomend some good books if you'd like. Send me an email if you are interested. |
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy.  He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives.  I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great?  I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know.  I may regret this thread tomorrow.  Two ways here; one, you get rich really quickly then you are no longer poor...or two, you deal with the fact that you may never be rich (a lot like most people) and find the simple inbetween. What makes you most happy? I imagine your daughter, I assume as much anyway. Does she care that you might not make as much money as Paris "Dumbass" Hilton?  
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Hmmmm...HellKitten...
Ring him now...tell him you had a giant fear factor set in... tell him, why you were silent. If he is half of who he says he is....your reasons for feeling less, will not be important to him, (as in, what you fear won't be real to him)... and ask if you can reset a date. |
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so give him a call now, you know money is not everything you can be happy with out it and have people care and like who you are or you can be rich and not know if they like you or your money,if its going to work he wont care how much money you have or dont have
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Well I don't see how being considerate, cute, a little dareing, responsible with money, employed, smart would turn a guy off; and obviously it didn't or he would not have asked you out so Chill girlfriend. Unless you just totally blew him off get on the stick call, text, or email him an invite. Keep your little crisis in confidence to yourself until your married 25 years. If you must have an excuse tell him you had a bad stomache that particular time but your feeling good so naturally you thought of him.
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Many men are attracted to women that are unique or "different", so be flattered and call him.
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nobody has screwed up more than i have I wouldn't bet on that JT |
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy. He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives. I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great? I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know. I may regret this thread tomorrow. Two ways here; one, you get rich really quickly then you are no longer poor...or two, you deal with the fact that you may never be rich (a lot like most people) and find the simple inbetween. What makes you most happy? I imagine your daughter, I assume as much anyway. Does she care that you might not make as much money as Paris "Dumbass" Hilton? Replace the words necessary, I'm not a mind reader. |
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Edited by
Want2B5ft
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Wed 07/29/09 11:54 PM
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I think that he saw something in you that sparked an interest and he wanted to get to know you better. When people like you for you - the person that you are. They don't care about the other things because that is all part of what is making you who you are today.
You are a strong woman and from what I have seen from your posts you are a great friend to those you call your friend. Step back. Take a deep breath. Repeat after me. I am woman, hear me roar! Be proud of who you are, who you've become, the journey you have taken to get where you are today and who you have the potential to be in the future. Out of your league? Only if you make it so! Trust in yourself, kitten! 
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He saw you and he liked what he saw. Thats it kiddo don't sell yourself short. You are responsible and you care about who you are, any guy would be lucky to have a girl with your attitude.
Get that number and call him. |
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Edited by
earthytaurus76
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Wed 07/29/09 11:57 PM
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Hang out with other poor people, itll make you feel better.
 No seriously.. if you look around, everyone isnt well off, or had alot. Everyone has struggled, or has struggles. Ive been dirt poor most of my life, but I dont think most men really care. I have even stayed with my parents, and men had never had a problem with it. People are right here, if he dises you because of how much you have hes a jerk. SOOOOOOo many people are broke, or not rich. Especially right now. You start calling those men and showing interest, you dotn need to be as materialistic as the jerks your afraid of. Good luck. |
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Thank you everyone. A little update, I did talk to him last night. He asked me where I had been, told him just busy being a mommy. Sorry. He told me no worries.
 We made a date for this Saturday. I'm really nervous and I hope I dont bail at the last second. He is too hot for my own good. |
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Just be confident in who you are and everything will be fine. Somehow, I don't think he is after your money.
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Kitten
Did he care? That you were opposites? That you had no money? If he didn't. You are crazy girl. Go call him You might be missing out on love because of your insecurity!  |
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Edited by
Pink_lady
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Thu 07/30/09 06:16 AM
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Good luck!
I felt a bit like that when i met Dan.....im a single mum, working full time, paying my bills with not a lot left over. I dont have much materially, and at the beginning of our relationship, it really worried me cos i know Dan is comfortable. Dan and I have talked a lot about this, cos it can still bother me that he pays out more for us to see eachother than i do, but our conclusion is this.....if u r both working, we put in wat we can, 10% of my wage is a lot less than 10% of Dans, but were putting in the same percentage, wat we can afford. A person is not better than u just cos they have more money, and Dan often jokes that i work harder than him cos im a front line worker! Know that u r a catch, and let him net ya! |
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Are you comparing 'Your insides to His outsides' ???
It's a losing game, you will never will. He has fears and insecurities, just like you. He has dreams, desires and goals, just like you. He wants to 'meet someone special', just like you. It's just a date, go have fun and explore someone new. |
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I screw everything up, so I can't answer this for you.
Goodluck though. |
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Go on the date dont bail!!!Even if you're super nervous.I'm pretty sure the two of you will have a good time.And yeah just remember it's true oppposites attract!!
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy. He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives. I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great? I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know. I may regret this thread tomorrow. If your honest from the start on who you are, then why would someone thinks your a looser, loosers are the ones that lie bend the truth do not take responsibility for their actions and have no respect for others. if your proud of who you are nobody can change that feeling. Accept yourself and he will accept who you are if he doesn't then he is not for you. Nobody is the same and social status means nothing in who a person is. |
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Thank you everyone. A little update, I did talk to him last night. He asked me where I had been, told him just busy being a mommy. Sorry. He told me no worries. We made a date for this Saturday. I'm really nervous and I hope I dont bail at the last second. He is too hot for my own good. I hope the date goes well for you. Even if it doesn't, I think it's better to take a chance than wonder what may have happened. |
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