What do you do to meet someone on a dating site? How do you act, how do you decide who you like, what do you do? I haven't a clue.

I'm pretty new here and I haven't a clue. I guess just post in the forumns, start threads about things that you find interesting, the longer you're here the more people you'll meet. Maybe you'll find someone you like and send e-mails back and forth, then maybe exchange phone numbers and who knows?

I don't want to sound all pooey but the only emails, nudges I get are from men who live a ga-billion miles away or they're 40 years younger than I am. I had 2 guys right here in my city who showed interest and as soon as I suggested meeting for coffee or walking our dogs they fell off the face of the earth. So, I don't quite get it.

I act as I always act

The same way you would in any social setting I would imagine. You listen/read and decide if it's someone you might like to get to know better. Then you interact with them. Plenty of ways to do that....in the forums, in an email, nudge 'em, stalk them at their house (I don't recommend that last one). It's not that hard, although plenty of us here are making it more difficult than it needs to be. Eventually you talk on the phone and meet in person if it feels right.

What exactly are you asking here? Most of what I typed already is common sense. There is no exact protocol. Basically just communicate.

i don't meet people, they are ALL crazy

When after some conversation in the forums, and some e-mails, a couple of ph. calls, suggest you meet for coffee, or a drink. Then go meet them. If it goes well for both of you, agree to a 'real date'

Some men will be forward, so will be hesitant.
I am more hesitant, and will wait until the woman makes it very clear that she wants to meet.

Humm myself I act no different then I do any other time I'm just me if one does not like what they see or the person behind the pictures then move on. I'm not desperate if one does not appeal to me then they just don't appeal to me.

If they want to meet and confirm that then I will at any time it is just a meet as long as it is in a public place what is the big deal on how soon it is?

I don't expect anyone to take me out to a big expensive place myself I prefer somewhere casual and we go dutch. That way no one has anything to expect.

But it all starts with that first Helloooooooooooo if you can't do that then no of the other stuff will fall into place...........

just like in the real world, you have to put yourself out there

post a lot in the forums

see and be seen

be charming, charismatic, and persuasive

and you'll meet like minded people and make some good friends and maybe, just maybe some special guy that you hit it off with

I don't go to dating sites.

Do I detect an obvious fib?

be honest, be yourself, be open, be friendly,
meet people, have fun, post often, reveal yourself

trust everybody but cut the cards

Hummm and does that mean you never date anyone from a site you are on?

No, sir.

i don't think you get to decide who you like.

however, i believe that the way you act online is what you will attract.

when i first started posting in the forums on these dating sites, i just looked for a topic that interested me, read through it all, and made any comment i felt appropriate.

i never assumed i'd make friends and/or that i'd be immediately accepted, and certainly didn't act that way.

it didn't take me too long to get noticed by someone whose posts i'd been thoroughly enjoying. i wrote to him, based on some comment he said, which is usually the reason i use to make contact, and we've had a wonderful relationship ever since.

What do I do to meet somebody?

I joined and I post. I met the love of my life here just like that. I saw her post, I posted, then e mail, and so on. As for other people, for friends, um...yeah...pretty much the same way.

How do I act?

I don't. I just type. I might be acting silly or calm or pensive while I type, but that's just me being myself and not acting, besides you can't see that, so what's the point in acting? ...unless you meet somebody while acting, don't wanna disappoint when you actually do meet, and wish to keep up the routine for as long as oyou're together.

How do I decide who I like?

That's a tough one. Maybe I see enough of their posts. Maybe they have an appealing profile. Maybe I haven't decided yet and talk to them anyway to decide later. Or maybe things just happen that way. There are quite a few factors influencing an anwer to this question.

What do I do?

I just be.

I go with my cannibal impulses...err...I mean, I send love letters by mail...yes, that's it, love letters...right...

You act like who you are. Be yourself.

You like who you like based on any number of factors.

You do what you would always do. Say what you would always say.

There is no " formula ".

It just is what it is.

* writes down another example for the Council *

Give them my gift basket filled with Fred Fingers too...they are kind of like fish sticks only I used Fred's...err...nevermind, the are exactly like fish sticks...yes, fish sticks...