There are an awful lot of women out there who say they are looking for a man who " treats them right ".

But, there are times, I wonder how many of them know what that truly means. Or if there is even an actual definition.

Now before you all start thinking this is another " nice guy " thread....

I am not referring to the " bow down and kiss you feet, cater to your every whim, put you on a pedestal " type of treatment.

I am referring to the " you are my equal, but I will stand straight and take a stand when I need to " type of thing.

How many ladies out there know what it's like to be treated as an equal partner in a relationship?

How many feel that being treated " right " only means being treated a little better than the last time?

Didnt I ask this 2 days ago? :P

No idea...lol

if I had seen it I wouldn't have posted it....lol

I know that I have had a few guys actually TRY to treat me right.... However based on our ages and lack of experience at the time I just don't think either of us knew what that meant. After my last relationship I value much different personality traits then I used to. NOW I know I need someone who I see as my equal and not someone that still needs to be taken care of.

"i'm not saying this is another nice guy thread but..." then he proceeds to start another "nice guy" thread

I don't see it as a nice guy thread, it's more like... Ladies do you even know how to tell which guys are keepers and which are just nice guys or jerk offs trying to get in where they fit in?

Thank you, Myka. For understanding.

Jas, this isn't a whiny " woe is me " type of thing.

it's more of a question of whether those that say they want to be treated right, actually know what it means.

Yeah I know what it means and I haven't found it yet

oh i'm just teasing jaggy.

no i don't know what that means. i still have some figuring out to do where functional relationships are concerned.

Everyone does.

Sometimes, it takes a VERY long time.

Some never do get it figured out.

listen, you have to be independant, and play the waiting game.. you never know how men are going to be, and in that time, there is insecurity, because its new..


if it turns out bad, you move on, or accept that you have what you have, which is more than before, and deal if its functional.


you have to work with what you have a little.


Its a game of finding out if hes good, bad, or going through something. This all takes time.. hopefully we get it soon enough, and set boundries, and if they are crossed, we are strong enough to move on.

I have major dealbrakers, but dont take things too seriously til they ARE serious.

Noone has a crystal ball.

I JUST figured it out.... one thing I can thank my ex for LOL

But, knowing what it means puts you much closer to it than those who have yet to learn it.

treated right jag?


yes, of course all of us that are single cos we truly know what it means to be treated right. Thats why were single.


were all single cos we all want to be treated like ****. *rolls eyes*


if we knew how it was to be treated the way we want, then wed still be with the guy, well unless he left us cos HE wasnt happy.. thats never happened to me.

People have DIED but i gave up the corpse sex with my ex (the british guy).

Some people remain single, but have it figured out.

They remain single only because they have yet to find it.

personally, it's constant and consistent behaviour, shown over an extended period of time.

i'd like to feel as though my opinion matters. he doesn't necessarily have to agree with it, but rather just appreciate it on some level.

i don't like when someone speaks in a condescending tone to me. even if i might be acting childish at that moment, i still am an adult and would prefer to be spoken to as such.

i like a man to treat me like a woman. i'm not into all that feminist movement, i'd much rather feel like the soft, sensual, curvaceous woman who is taken care of by the big, strong man. not all men can pull this off, however, without coming across as arrogant, aggressive, and jackassy. if you don't have coolness and a naturally strong personality as part of your genetic makeup, don't try it.

i like my guy to pay attention to ME. that doesn't mean pointing out women on the street and telling me they look good. if they look good, go and make a move on them and let some other guy, who i interest, have a shot at me. if you wanna talk about attractive women with your guy friends, that's okay. just don't do it to me, or even in front of me. it's the biggest turn-off that i can think of and makes me feel very unsexy (in his eyes which is what is important to me).

i like a guy who takes up for me, even if he doesn't agree with me. it's nice to feel as though your partner is actually on the same team as you, and you're playing for the same goal.

i like a guy who flirts with me (and me only). it isn't something that can stop either, after he's won my heart. we still need to feel as though we are courting. i like to know that i still have his physical attraction, even though by being with me it's implied that i do.

i like a guy who doesn't put any expectations on me, or demands on the relationship. chances are, if he holds me pretty loosely, i won't stray at all and probably will end up doing all the things he wants.

alongside all this, there has to be chemistry. it doesn't mean that any old guy can act this way and get any old girl. if only it were that simple huh?

I am an equal in this relationship.

Equally respected, honoured, trusted and loved.

'Treating me right' sounds like a really lame country and western song...

I think this is a good question and I know what it is like to be in a relationship where I am treated as an equal partner. Why would anyone stay with someone that is disrespectful, self centered etc and not try to work on building a relationship? This would be true for a man or a woman.

I have to clarify this because I have also been in some not so good relationships. These were always based on the inital and intense chemistry....very powerful stuff CHEMISTRY.

Treat her like your partner, a very special individual, respect her ideas, listen really listen to her, encourage her initiative, nurture her ambitions, understand her differences.

I do all that if she does the same for me, that's how I live.