Topic: Married Vs. Friendship
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Wed 05/23/07 07:11 PM
Indiana..I got no issues with married people bein here for friends, we
do have quiet a few of them here looking for friends and friends
only..that being said..Welcome To JSH

Marie55's photo
Wed 05/23/07 07:14 PM
You are a good guy Indiana and honest. You have never misrepresented
yourself. And you are a good friend.

Why are people getting nasty?? Heck, we had a couple of married women
on here a month or two ago, announcing they were married and bored and
looking for "encounters" and the men flocked to them like they were in
"heat." Sorry Indiana, but guess I am in a mood tonight.

I don't see where you have done anything wrong, your wife knows about
this, does not have an issue, you are honest with her, and you are not
cruising for dates, just making friends, so I don't see an issue.

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Wed 05/23/07 07:30 PM
Thank you Marie55 and nurjoyce, you guys are truly great people.

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Wed 05/23/07 07:35 PM
Indiana 79 "My main intention when coming here was by my fathers "iam4u"
request,since he is always on justsayhi."

What?? I'm confused

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Wed 05/23/07 07:36 PM
marie there is no need to get nasty. I don't see anything rude. I feel
because the situation is vague people ask all kinds of questions from
different angles to try to help to their best ability.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Wed 05/23/07 07:42 PM
please married folks are all over myspace keeping in contact with old
friends and making new friends with similar interests.indiana i have not
met you but you came for your dad and friends,your very upfront and
honest and your wife is in the loop so I just dont see the problem.Rock
on .

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Wed 05/23/07 07:42 PM
boredchic07

iam4u is my father and trying to reach him by phone was always a hassle.
Every time I would get a hold of him he would say sorry I was on
justsayhi, you should check it out. So I decided to check it out and
have met some really nice and interesting people.

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Wed 05/23/07 07:45 PM
Thanks cutelildevilsmom, your message was valued.

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Wed 05/23/07 07:46 PM
anytime indiana flowerforyou

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Wed 05/23/07 07:46 PM
thankyou for clarifying that indiana.

I think you know what's best for you. If you're intentions are to keep
in contact with your father why interacting with people on forums..why
not?

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Wed 05/23/07 07:49 PM
I didn't feel that I said anything rude. I was stating fact. I was just
pointing that a couple of months ago a couple of women came on here
openly stating they were married and bored and looking for men for
relationships and no one questioned their integrity, AND the men FLOCKED
to them. No one had an issue with them except me and a couple of the
other regulars.

Now I see this thread where Indiana comes on stating in his profile he
is married, is being honest, is looking for FRIENDS ONLY, and I see
people coming out and attaking him for being on this site. It just
bothers that there is a double standard where it is apparently okay for
married women looking for men for relationships but not for a married
man NOT LOOKING FOR A WOMAN and for FRIENDS ONLY. I have seen many
married people on here and just don't feel that a double standard should
be enforced, and think that married people are okay on here as long as
they are honest and not out searching for others for relationships.

Abracadabra's photo
Wed 05/23/07 07:51 PM
If you and your wife are cool with it then it's not a problem. I
wouldn't give a hoot what other people might think.

I find that dating forums are often less hostile than some other forums
for some odd reason. Not sure why that is.

Although, if I had a partner I doubt that I'd spend much time on the
computer anyway. I never have in the past. When I have someone in real
life to do things we just have better things to do.

HangedMan's photo
Wed 05/23/07 07:51 PM
that was the beginning of the end of my last relationship.


Now me and the kids are here in minnesota and she is in australia.

whodda thunk it.

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Wed 05/23/07 07:52 PM
boredchic07, thank you for all of your messages. I posted this for the
main reason of feedback. I am glad that you have a better understanding
and I am sure you will look back at this and laugh later. Anyone who
knows me, knows the kind of person I am. I would never give advice on
something I would not do myself.

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Wed 05/23/07 08:08 PM
It depends. How does your wife feel aboutit? If this makes her
uncomfortable, then I recommend you at least discuss it with her.
Have you or your wife ever cheated on each other? How long have you and
your wife been together or known each other?

Are you willing to share all e-your online name so, she knows who you
are and who you are corresponding with.

I personally would not have a problem if someone I dated or was married
to had online friends only so long as he was open w/ me about everything
and was honest w/ his online friends.

It boils down two separate, but equal factors. Trust and honesty.

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Wed 05/23/07 08:24 PM
LoL... This comes full circle...
My 1st thread on this site was about this same topic.

Personally I feel if someone is Married they don't belong anywhere near
an online dating site. It really doesn't have anything to do with "IF"
the spouse feels it's ok or not: It has to do with "Why the married
person is on here"!!

If it has to do with companionship isn't that what your partners for? If
they don't fill the void, I think there is something that needs to be
worked on between the couple..

If it has to do with being bored, do one of the 100 projects you've been
blowing off....Sorry, isn't marriage all about companionship and
willingly/eagerly filling each others time?

Although I know I'm going to catch a bunch of crap for this (AGAIN)
laugh laugh laugh

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Wed 05/23/07 08:28 PM
go for it indiana...ill be your friend...


and your dad is aok!:wink:

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Wed 05/23/07 08:30 PM
(((((((((((((((((SLUGGSTER))))))))))))))))))

:heart: smooched
HOW ARE YOU???

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Wed 05/23/07 08:32 PM
Ok Sweetie, how are you?

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Wed 05/23/07 09:12 PM
Damn, I feel like a thread killer on this...lmao