Topic: Not looking for confidence boost
iNet4Wes's photo
Fri 10/16/09 12:44 PM
I'm pretty happy with who I am (currently :P)

But just wondering if there is more I should put in my profile. Once I find a mirror or something I plan on putting up more pictures but in the profile page it says write a blurb so at first I didn't write a lot but I changed it recently to add a little more.

There might be things I should take out like how I haven't dated in a while...Is that something to worry a woman might worry about?

I've just been keeping myself busy and I don't have any single friends, don't drink and have never had a good sense of if someone is single enough to feel up to asking if they'd like to go out. Plus I'd rather at least have some inkling about who the person is.

Well any ideas/critisisms are welcome.

Thanks!

no photo
Fri 10/16/09 12:49 PM
Sounds good...post another pic or two, mingle throughout the forums...and good luckhappy

MelodyGirl's photo
Fri 10/16/09 01:01 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Fri 10/16/09 01:31 PM
HI! flowerforyou

First off -- do not do the "mirror" pictures! noway

Find someone to take pix for you or upload pix from social events and just crop yourself from the group (or whatever) and use those. Mirror pix are horrible -- and seemingly narcissistic.

I am dissecting your profile with a little feedback. flowerforyou


I've been single for an extended period of time and trying to get out more but not dating for a while and not having a common area where I'm around single women I'm willing to try out the online scene.


- Delete that first paragraph. Write something fun, silly, or more welcoming. Your first sentence or paragraph should be more whimsical. My first impression of you was "down-trodden" and negative.


Family is very important to me and I would hope that I meet someone that feels the same.


- This is good!


I would like to point out that I'm not only interested in dating. I'd prefer to find someone to start a relationship with and I'm not interested in seeing how many women I can date at once. But I don't want anyone to think that I'm looking for someone with the intent to marry the first women that would like to meet.


- Your message saying you wish to move forward is good but try to lighten up HOW you say it. Meh -- maybe its fine but it didn't appeal to me.

Consider something like this: "I'm not interested in dating a lot of women at once. I'd rather focus on one really great lady and see if we can have a meaningful relationship".

I am with you on this point! I hate dating too. If I could, I’d rather skip right to the relationship but that is not reality.


I'd really like to take things slow and casual till I get to know who you are. But I do have a ton of free time and can hang out whenever for the most part. And I'm up for most anything.


- You have essentially already said this in the previous paragraph; therefore, this is not necessary. I would use your last paragraph or two to describe what your hobbies are and what type of girl attracts you. Saying you “are up for most anything” is bland and lazy.

Your profile is how you market yourself. How will you stand out among the thousands of profiles on Mingle? We have to expand, be creative, smart, and efficient -- if you want to take online dating seriously. There are a lot of people here just for fun and you will see the difference soon enough. Which objective will you have?

Best of fun and I hope I was able to help! :banana:

iNet4Wes's photo
Fri 10/16/09 01:19 PM
Big help I value this input and will make changes.

Thanks a lot!

iNet4Wes's photo
Fri 10/16/09 05:37 PM
Melody thanks for the input. I have made some changes and hope it helps bigsmile

earthytaurus76's photo
Fri 10/16/09 05:49 PM
More pics, and Id take out the "completing" eachother thing.. sounds creepy.

Quietman_2009's photo
Fri 10/16/09 05:59 PM
nahhh use the mirror photo

make sure it's really steamy right after a hot shower and make sure to take your shirt off

Atlantis75's photo
Fri 10/16/09 06:22 PM
it looks good from here! Even if I walk back a few steps, still looks good! drinker

metalwing's photo
Fri 10/16/09 07:00 PM
"Find a mirror" ???

Huh?

no photo
Sat 10/17/09 01:33 PM
It's simple and it works, but it doesn't really give me any insight to who you are and who you are looking for...
I also agree that "completing" needs to go. If you are a complete package, and you are looking for the same...

Anyhoo, just my 2 cents...good luck!