I was with whom I thought was 'it' finally, the first person I've really truly given my heart to in ages, only for him to abuse it. Literally. During fights he screamed obscenities and seemed to get meaner the more he made me cry. He got within an inch of my face and made sure I was terrified until finally he grabbed me by my hair forcing me to defend myself only for him to choke me until I stopped fighting back. He tried to kill me. I'm physically ok but I really need a friend right now. No dates, no sex, no relationships. Just a friend.

I'm sorry that happened to you... Have experienced something very similar..

I hope you find the comfort that will help you not hinder your healing...

just for reference I have had my profile disabled for a really long time and haven't been on here til recently so idk if its the same shift of ppl who chat on here so I only ask for some compassion and not judgment.

I remember your name.. I doubt anyone will judge you... Accept the compassion, hopefully it will help.. I know my healing has taken a long time.. I'm still working on it in some ways...

Thank you.

Come see who welcomes you and will be your friend...nothing more/nothng less. There are some really good people here on Mingle.

you're welcome..

I remember you. I'm sorry that happened to you.

I've left a situation like that before... many years ago... but I forgot how lousy it feels even though you know you can't go back.

I am so sorry...there are good people here. I wrote a book on aspects of abuse..and it was an eye opener...I thought I really knew..but learned so much. Good luck. Are you in counseling?

It probably brought back some bad memories,

sorry to hear that happened too

stay and chat with us

i'm so sorry, jayme...

and i'm still here.

the worst thing is I got really attached to his son who's 18 mos old. we had him every other week and we had our own little routine down. That was the hardest part of the whole decision to finally leave.

Counseling from a women's shelter may be what you need in order to process what occurred and to prevent you from inadvertently making such a choice in men. If this is the 2nd time you've gotten with someone who behaves this way, there may be something about you that attracts it. Not blaming you in any way. Just speaking from experience having been there.
Best wishes to you!

i stayed far longer than i should because of my step-children.

it's so hard to let them go.

i know how you love children.

I just don't know where to go from here. I actually was so happy with him until the emotional abuse started and I even chalked that up to stress at work and with the divorce he's going through and brushed it off. I was so happy I was in fact considering calling my ex who hit me the first time and telling him that I forgave him and could move on with that part of my life. I don't think there's any one thing that attracts an abuser, they either get away with it when they're with a person or they don't. I am smart enough to NOT stick around to see if they keep that tired promise "I'll never do that again, i swear".

as a non religious man, i still belive your guy is going to find he has a special place in hell waiting for him.

soooo, good luck with that. hope you find work soon


oh, and.... learn to drive damnit

yours, a 7ft tall man with a mullet

peace out

eh I got a good sized grant check that'll hold me a while.. I'm just concentrating on studies right now.

oh yeah I went back to school to be a child advocate.