Just a simple question.

Does anyone think it is possible to be just friends with someone you are no longer in a relationship with?

sure...depends on the situation. My ex husband and I are good friends, but we can't be together.

All my Ex's live in Texas

yes. my x wife and I get along great. just because the attraction was gone didnt mean the friendship had to go too

I am friends with several ex's but found that easier (not easy) easier to accomplish as I grew older. Since my Husband died I just feel so strongly that people are not expendable and so have worked hard to keep men in my life who started out as dates, grew into relationships and then didn't work out. What I liked about him in the first place hadn't changed, just that with a little time into it, I or he or we realized it wasn't what we wanted/needed. Friendship can grow from an ex situation, it often takes time and effort especially if one partner is hurt. In my limited experience though the results are worth the effort.

I find it very difficult. We tend to end up in bed and it starts all over again. The good and the bad.

I'm friends with a few of my exes. I talk to one more than the other though.

Depends on how the relationship ended.

Ex's are ex's for a reason, I never want to see or talk to any of mine ever again.

If there is no consideration in having to co-parent a child, or other financial obligations, I don't see a need in being "friends". If two people aren't friends before the relationship, chances are you wouldn't be afterward either.

I think two people can be civil but being "friends" implies being interactive, and a prominent part of each other's lives. This concept is not feasible to me. More than anything it could incapacitate a future relationship.

In other words -- DRAMA!

I have been really trying but it honestly hasn't been going so good.....

I guess in my situation, I know there is still an attraction there.
But she now has a new boyfriend and I don't want to mess that up by trying to stay friends. and yes we were friends before dating, but we were dating for 3 years and that friendship grew exponentially.

I guess I just don't know what to do...

Don't be wishy-washy or allow a window for games.

Move on and good luck.

I'd stay friends with you! Very close friends!!!

My ex and I still remain close

We have four daughters together!

We split on good terms and know there will never be anything sexual between us any longer

We talk on the phone and recently me and my SO had dinner with him and his new girlfreind

He's a good person and a great dad!!

Oh no I'm not attempting to get back together with her. Not whatsoever. I guess I just don't want us being friends ruin what she has going for her now. I suppose I will just leave it to her. It'll be her call.

Her call = wishy-washy

Make a command decision that is healthy for both of you. Why put your emotional needs in the hands of another person?

Haha, I see exactly what you're saying. I guess I'm just the type of guy that wants to make sure everyone else is happy before myself. I would like to stay friends with her and that what I'm going to try to do. If her new boyfriend gets mad that we are friends and she ends our friendship because of it; then I guess there wasn't much of a friendship to begin with.

No offense, but your personality makes me run the other way.

I can image the drama that ensues in your life with loose ends.

When I read the profiles of male members here, and I see "friends with the ex" or "no drama please" -- I think of this situation. I can't turn the page fast enough.

I wish you the very best though.

I know it is a horrible way to think, and I have been trying to slowly think of myself before others. I guess I just don't want to turn into one of those ******** that doesn't care about anyone but who they are with for that night or themselves.

Maybe it is just better to keep exes as exes and leave it at that.