when my ex and i broke up he stressed on the fact he wanted to stay with friends with me which we have been trying...........

he came out to a friends birthday which is a mutual friend and after alot of drinking he end up kissing me and i so much as told him off about it because we are supposed to be "friends" and i didn't want to make myself look like i was going to easy in any way we managed to end up falling asleep in the same bed and when we woke up in the morning he said he was sorry he was just drunk...............

the next few times we spoke on the phone he would bring that night up and just say yeah we were really drunk..................

so we've kept in contact and talking on the phone but lately because he works wth my best friends partner he has been inviting my ex out to come out with us so the last few weeks my ex calls me up to see if i'm going out and will be there...............he made some random comment by sms the other week when i said yes he said oh well im not going to come out now haha and i said oh how rude and i'm like its nothing i was just trying to be funny and then he called me up straight away to make sure i was ok and then we just chatted for the next 20 minutes about how we have been and what we've been up too..................

the next week he told me was coming out and then my friend said he got held back at work and then my ex called me later to say he's really sorry but he won't be coming out coz he got held back at work and he's not up to going out now....he then goes and says he will have to try and come out next week because it has been so long since he's seen me and we have to catch up.................

i feel like i want to tell him that i still miss and want to be with him again but i'm really not sure my friends think that i should because they think there is something still there for him but the way i figure is if wanted to see me or be with me there would be no excuses he would just be there..........

does it sound like there would be any interest there on his part or should i just not say anything and hope one day it all goes away.....

honestly....the ex sounds confused and not sure what he wants. He isn't sure about being romantic with you, being just friends, going out....

If you don't want to deal with it...then you need to move on. Stop talking to him, etc. Just tell him it's just not working as friends. You don't have to be ugly about it. Just say....it's not working and I wish you the best. Then you move on with your life

Sounds like he might be waiting and watching to see if you want him back. He could be playing hard to get. Could be many reasons. But here is the thing. You two just need to sit down, talk, and figure out what you both want to do. It will ease the stress, take all the games out of the equation, and you will find out what he wants. Best of luck to you.

i keep going back cuz sex is good but get hurt every time

Somehow, I was able to not do this with my ex. Sex was great with her, but I could say no to her when we broke it off. Don't know how I did it. If I did, I would write a book and be rich.

I'd guess you both need to look at your pro's and con's in the relationship, and sit down and have a heart to heart talk...get the facts, and quit guessing...a suggestion is talk when neither of you have been drinking.Good luck

I disagree, the ex is not confused, the ex has it made. The OP on the other hand is confused as to unsure of what she should do.

My advice would be not to seek another relationship with this person as I am almost certain it will end the same way.

But follow your own heart and make your own destiny.

Good luck OP

could be both or just me

the way I read the OP was that she just wanted to stay friends and not cross the line. However the last lin e indicates she doesn't know how to deal with it.

It appears to me he is spinning you along girl and playing with our emotions you deserve better kick him ino touch and move on and then he will realise how foolish he has been or maybe he wont even so you deserve better. Anna x

I think it's just you Kim

Fran...it wouldn't be the first time I misread something...and won't be the last

I'm confused by one thing. Peakinpie is listed as a young guy,looking for women. Did you use someone else's profile to launch your question? Not accusing, I just check profiles to see who I'm answering to gauge my response, and got that.

Anyway, assuming you are for real, I agree with the others. the only thing clear from your post, is that NEITHER of you are clear about each other. I'd recommend you get some real time completely apart from each other, let your heads clear, and THEN try to be just friends. Neither of you has the perspective necessary for a rational judgment as things stand.