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Edited by
Mclintock45
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Hi my name is Rick, I have been on and off the site and what I would like to find are people to chat with, to play internet chess with, and to be friends with.
I have know a few friends on this site who have found their significant other (and still friends with) and I am very happy for both of them but I would respectfully guess that most women (or men) who will look at a profile, and will see he's (she's) living with someone, or married or whatever, and right away he/she is eliminated while this same person as been looking at pictures and reading profiles for the last year 2 or 3 years and unfortunately have not found the right partner. Most of you will say ¨ With all due respect Sir this is a dating site is it not? ¨ Yes it is, and it is also a place to make new friends from all over North America. I would have guessed that's what they meant by putting my add under heading ¨Friendships¨ Its hard to make new friends in all of North America when the setting is at ¨ to email me you must live within 50 miles ¨ from where I live. I guess many or most that go under the heading Frienship really mean ¨lets be friends first and then we will see... Well I always figured that was a given! I have recently communicated with Charles (the admnistrator who is a pretty nice guy) and I was thinking that could it be a good idea if maybe one heading would be added that would mean ¨looking for a friend nothing else ¨, I don't know how about you? |
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Edited by
XenomorphEyez
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Wed 12/30/09 10:14 AM
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You put no answer for whether you are married or not. Why not just say if you are or not? If you are married, does your wife know you are looking for friends on a dating site???
As for this site for friendship. I have that I'm looking for friendship and I still get guys emailing me looking for dating or whatever. I'm here mostly for the forums and to spread sunshine. 
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I'm confused, are you upset because you're married and women don't want to be friends with you? Personally, I have no interest in being friends with a married man, I don't see the point; his wife should be his friend, or he should go make friends with other men. Many people have a hard time being "just friends" and if the guy is married, that's a hornet's nest just waiting to explode.
As for people wishing to only email those nearby, that's a preference, maybe they want to be able to visit them or meet for coffee, which is rather hard to do if you live 2500 miles away. People form friendships for a variety of reasons, the main one being they have things in common, perhaps you should be seeking friendships with people who share more of your interests and values? Not everyone is here to date, I agree, but many are, so many women will be hoping to form a friendship that might lead to more. Just be clear that you're not interested in anything other than friendship and you should be fine. Best of luck to you. |
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I'm confused, are you upset because you're married and women don't want to be friends with you? Personally, I have no interest in being friends with a married man, I don't see the point; his wife should be his friend, or he should go make friends with other men. Many people have a hard time being "just friends" and if the guy is married, that's a hornet's nest just waiting to explode. I think Calleigh is speaking for a lot of women, here. You could just do like most married men do on the internet: lie, and say you're single. (or so I have heard) Since all you are looking for is an internet friendship, nobody will ever be the wiser, right? |
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Actually this site is considered a Social Site as well even though many try to make it a Dating Site Only it is not and has never been just that.
This site was created for all no matter what sexually preference they have nor if they are here strictly for friendship as well. But at times those that are here strictly for dating and sees others that are here and married or with someone they automatically assume they are here to cheat on their partner. So if one does not make it clear within their profile who's fault is it but the one that created the profile. One always needs to make it very clear what they are here for from the beginning. I have no problem with just having friends and have made several since I have been here that we are strictly friends only. What bothers me are those that do have a partner and disrespects that bond and are actually on sites to find someone else. Even though this site is for all it is still consider a Dating Site as well. So one must be very clear if they are not here for that as well..... 
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Edited by
Mclintock45
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Wed 12/30/09 10:50 AM
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Point take my dear Calleigh
If there would have been a heading of living with someone I would have gladly put my X on it and my girl freind knows exactly what I do and with whom I do it with. |
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Edited by
Mclintock45
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Wed 12/30/09 10:50 AM
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Good point Lewis, and If I was a liar I guess I would do that, and save me a lot of grief wouldn't I?
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Edited by
Mclintock45
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Wed 12/30/09 10:49 AM
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My dear Calleigh12
I am sorry about your confusion, I am divorced and living with someone 15 years younger than I. As to going to make freinds with other men, well I am handicapped at the lungs, and a diabetic for 35 years whose legs are unfortuatly starting to be affected,I was forced to retire so I don't go out much, but I can't stop my girlfriend from going to see her friends and relatives. As for people wishing to only email those nearby, your point is well taken and maybe mine should al so considered, I honestly thought that my profile was clear enough, apparently not. I thank you for yout input and will try to me more specific. In order to fit better in the group this picture of myself should be most a propos |
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Its confusing, cause when I add this to my favorites, it says Mingle, Free DATING Site, so some assume thats All it is. IT is actually a social site as well.
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You would be suprized how many of my friends end up naked with me.
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Edited by
XenomorphEyez
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Wed 12/30/09 10:53 AM
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Point take my dear. If there would have been a heading of living with someone I would have gladly put my X on it and my girl freind knows exactly what I do and with whom I do it with. Well, that is one category they don't have here. It should be something like "in a relationship" or "not single" and considering they do have a "friendship" option, then they really should add it in my opinion. Even if someone is in a couple, they can still have friends. Anyway, good luck to you in finding friends. |
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You will note my dear that I have corrected the heading to married, which is not the truth really, I am divorced and was living alone for several years until I met my girlfriend and her 3 children, the youngest one 11 months old.
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I'm confused, are you upset because you're married and women don't want to be friends with you? Personally, I have no interest in being friends with a married man, I don't see the point; his wife should be his friend, or he should go make friends with other men. Many people have a hard time being "just friends" and if the guy is married, that's a hornet's nest just waiting to explode. I think Calleigh is speaking for a lot of women, here. You could just do like most married men do on the internet: lie, and say you're single. (or so I have heard) Since all you are looking for is an internet friendship, nobody will ever be the wiser, right? She may be speaking for some, but certainly not all. I have male friends who are married. I have no issue with it and neither do they or their wives. |
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Point well taken my dear Xenomorphez, thank you.
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Hi my name is Rick, I have been on and off the site and what I would like to find are people to chat with, to play internet chess with, and to be friends with. I have know a few friends on this site who have found their significant other (and still friends with) and I am very happy for both of them but I would respectfully guess that most women (or men) who will look at a profile, and will see he's (she's) living with someone, or married or whatever, and right away he/she is eliminated while this same person as been looking at pictures and reading profiles for the last year 2 or 3 years and unfortunately have not found the right partner. Most of you will say ¨ With all due respect Sir this is a dating site is it not? ¨ Yes it is, and it is also a place to make new friends from all over North America. I would have guessed that's what they meant by putting my add under heading ¨Friendships¨ Its hard to make new friends in all of North America when the setting is at ¨ to email me you must live within 50 miles ¨ from where I live. I guess many or most that go under the heading Frienship really mean ¨lets be friends first and then we will see... Well I always figured that was a given! I have recently communicated with Charles (the admnistrator who is a pretty nice guy) and I was thinking that could it be a good idea if maybe one heading would be added that would mean ¨looking for a friend nothing else ¨, I don't know how about you? If there is already a looking for friendship heading, why would there need to be another similar one? |
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Well then my dear Simgmesweet, you must be right
and I thank you for your input |
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I would take you at face value and see how the friendship develops and if their was any other motive then it would soon raise its ugly head one thing certain a guys bits always gets the better of him in the end
 So people why worry, make friends and if its not heading how you want it to then move on. Anna x |
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Thank you all for taking the time to write what you really felt about something. It is refreshing to see people so honest and down to earth. Should I find a friend or two I may be back to offer you another opportunity to voice your opinions
 Rick |
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Well then my dear Simgmesweet, you must be right and I thank you for your input Make sure you send her a friend request, since she's willing to be your friend. 
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Actually this site is considered a Social Site as well even though many try to make it a Dating Site Only it is not and has never been just that. This site was created for all no matter what sexually preference they have nor if they are here strictly for friendship as well. But at times those that are here strictly for dating and sees others that are here and married or with someone they automatically assume they are here to cheat on their partner. So if one does not make it clear within their profile who's fault is it but the one that created the profile. One always needs to make it very clear what they are here for from the beginning. I have no problem with just having friends and have made several since I have been here that we are strictly friends only. What bothers me are those that do have a partner and disrespects that bond and are actually on sites to find someone else. Even though this site is for all it is still consider a Dating Site as well. So one must be very clear if they are not here for that as well..... I concur 
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