Mayday-Mayday, this ship is in flames......abandon ship-abandon ship.

Get out while you still can.

Should I feel bad?
Wife cheated on me during a 5-6 month period with one of her co-workers. Tried to make things work with counseling, spending more time together, start new hobbies together, start talking about feelings, anything and everything under the sun for 7 months. Then 2 months ago (what I felt like a slap in the face) had my wife come up to me and say "lets have an open relation ship, date other people". It was a pretty big disappointment for me. But I figured wow nothing that I tried doing worked. Lets do it then. Now the last 2 weeks Ive been talking with a friend I have not slept with or even kissed just talk. Seams like my wife could not handle the fact that someone took an interest in me. An argument ensues and I just feel like I'm just being taken for granted. Now she wants to get back together and work it out. I thought we were working it out from the get go, she told me this time she will try. I just don't want to deal with it anymore. Just felt used. So we're now separated and I want to just make sure I don't want her anymore before making a decision on a divorce. Am I being too nice about it? I really don't feel bad about the whole thing. I feel numb to it all. Anyways that's all I have for right now.

WOW I was not expecting all the response. Thanks guys.

I think the thing that scares me the most is being alone. Man 7 years with someone, then all of a sudden they are not there. It kind of sucks I tell ya. But yes I do feel numb to her and I don't want to hate her, so I will have to move on. I'm also not talking with my friend for awhile to clear my head. I really do appreciate the support guys.

Yeah, your being WAY too nice about it. First thing that was/is your wife. She cheated on you. That automatically requires a beat down of her lover. You have to let the cave man out. Two she wants an open marriage? C'mon she wants Leroy down at the car wash blasting her with 13 inches of dark chocolate while you sit at home with your new hobbies.
You are getting walked on like a doormat. Your a man. Seriously a man. Dude do something. Hell I would have already burnt her car to the ground on the for real. I would quit my job. get a divorce. she cheated on you. you get alimony and make her pay for you to live in a vacation for the next four years.
As a man to a man. Stand up for yourself. She started the mud fight, now is not the time to be afraid to get dirty. now is the time to let that little devious fellow that lives in your head out to play.
Divorce her. Move on. Way too many other beautiful woman in the world to waste a single moment with someone like that. Or you can stay with her and hope one day you don't wake up with Singapore Dic( slugs or whatever other STD shes going to bring home. Or surprise I'm pregnant. Then your on Maury getting a paternity test even though you know the kid isn't yours because he looks just like Chase the bohemian college kid who works at Kinkos.

Or you can stay with her and hope one day you don't wake up with Singapore Dic( slugs or whatever other STD shes going to bring home. Or surprise I'm pregnant. Then your on Maury getting a paternity test even though you know the kid isn't yours because he looks just like Chase the bohemian college kid who works at Kinkos.

Should I feel bad?
Wife cheated on me during a 5-6 month period with one of her co-workers. Tried to make things work with counseling, spending more time together, start new hobbies together, start talking about feelings, anything and everything under the sun for 7 months. Then 2 months ago (what I felt like a slap in the face) had my wife come up to me and say "lets have an open relation ship, date other people". It was a pretty big disappointment for me. But I figured wow nothing that I tried doing worked. Lets do it then. Now the last 2 weeks Ive been talking with a friend I have not slept with or even kissed just talk. Seams like my wife could not handle the fact that someone took an interest in me. An argument ensues and I just feel like I'm just being taken for granted. Now she wants to get back together and work it out. I thought we were working it out from the get go, she told me this time she will try. I just don't want to deal with it anymore. Just felt used. So we're now separated and I want to just make sure I don't want her anymore before making a decision on a divorce. Am I being too nice about it? I really don't feel bad about the whole thing. I feel numb to it all. Anyways that's all I have for right now.

Dzieje się do mnie czasu i im zmęczony jej

oh lol i forgot not everyone speaks polish lmao

to think your wife dont have a little respect from you, given a chance is only once, think enough you are over used to your wife and at the end you are just a rug in the corner for her.
think about yourself, open both your mind and heart.... not just the heart. good luck

WOW I was not expecting all the response. Thanks guys.

I think the thing that scares me the most is being alone. Man 7 years with someone, then all of a sudden they are not there. It kind of sucks I tell ya. But yes I do feel numb to her and I don't want to hate her, so I will have to move on. I'm also not talking with my friend for awhile to clear my head. I really do appreciate the support guys.

Should I feel bad?
Wife cheated on me during a 5-6 month period with one of her co-workers. Tried to make things work with counseling, spending more time together, start new hobbies together, start talking about feelings, anything and everything under the sun for 7 months. Then 2 months ago (what I felt like a slap in the face) had my wife come up to me and say "lets have an open relation ship, date other people". It was a pretty big disappointment for me. But I figured wow nothing that I tried doing worked. Lets do it then. Now the last 2 weeks Ive been talking with a friend I have not slept with or even kissed just talk. Seams like my wife could not handle the fact that someone took an interest in me. An argument ensues and I just feel like I'm just being taken for granted. Now she wants to get back together and work it out. I thought we were working it out from the get go, she told me this time she will try. I just don't want to deal with it anymore. Just felt used. So we're now separated and I want to just make sure I don't want her anymore before making a decision on a divorce. Am I being too nice about it? I really don't feel bad about the whole thing. I feel numb to it all. Anyways that's all I have for right now.