Topic: Chat or Ditch
number96's photo
Wed 07/21/10 12:54 PM
I've been emailing a woman for over two months, I think we could get close because we have talked about personal stuff. I've asked her to meet twice but she declined both times. She just told me she has been with a guy the past two years and that she has almost no free time to meet even if she wanted to. However, she did say she would like to continue to email. If she told me about this guy early, I would continue to email, because I could use a good friend. Now, I'm not so sure.

What do think. And if you were in this situation, would you continue to email the other person or just forget about them?

no photo
Wed 07/21/10 01:34 PM
slaphead You seem just a wee bit confused.... First figure out what you want then decide if you want to continue.

Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 07/21/10 01:38 PM
Figure out if friends only is good enough for you

if yes

chalk up another friend!

If not

just tell her it can't continue:heart:

PsycheCat's photo
Wed 07/21/10 01:47 PM
I think when people hide their relationship status there's a reason behind it, and not always bad, but it is deceitful.

If you're looking for friends, continue, but if you're looking for someone to date, I think I would pass...you could be the guy on the other side next time.


number96's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:03 PM
So if I decide to continue emailing her, do I go right back to the same stuff or something more casual?
And can you trust someone like this.

Gossipmpm's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:10 PM
Well if you remain friends. Somthing casual is in order

trust her?


Only you know that by trusting your instincts

there's a lotta game playing
head games

on sites like this!!:heart:

Atlantis75's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:29 PM

I've been emailing a woman for over two months, I think we could get close because we have talked about personal stuff. I've asked her to meet twice but she declined both times. She just told me she has been with a guy the past two years and that she has almost no free time to meet even if she wanted to. However, she did say she would like to continue to email. If she told me about this guy early, I would continue to email, because I could use a good friend. Now, I'm not so sure.

What do think. And if you were in this situation, would you continue to email the other person or just forget about them?


She just told me she has been with a guy the past two years


Confusing. Are you saying she is seeing someone right now other than you?

Or did you mean she hasn't been ?

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:37 PM
RUN!

ashley_renee's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:38 PM
She's been with a guy for the past two years?

Yeah, I'd cut my losses and get to know a SINGLE girl.

no photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:47 PM
Ditch her as a potential match. If you want to keep e-mailing her as a FRIEND, then so be it. No more PERSONAL stuff and cut down on the number of e-mails.

Atlantis75's photo
Wed 07/21/10 05:52 PM
If she "has been with someone" meaning "she is with someone now"..get away from her. She is keeping you as an "option".
I can only feel for the guy who is with her right now..he doesn't even know she is talking to you...brings me back memories about my ex g/fs.

JustaSimpleMan56's photo
Thu 07/22/10 12:59 AM

Ditch her as a potential match. If you want to keep e-mailing her as a FRIEND, then so be it. No more PERSONAL stuff and cut down on the number of e-mails.
This I agree with

Miraku's photo
Thu 07/22/10 03:56 AM
Honestly, just keep talking to her. Even thou she may not be interested or dont have any time for a relationship, doesn't mean that you should discontinueing your conversations.

It's always good to have a friend who would listen to what you have to say and try to help each other out in any way possible.

For me, I would still continue the conversations regardless of what happend. Besides, there's nothing wrong with it to begin with.


Gossipmpm's photo
Thu 07/22/10 04:15 AM
Welcome miraku!!


I agree!!


Tammy:heart: